Toddler Discipline: 18 Effective Strategies to Discipline Your Infant or Toddler in a Positive Environment. Tame Tantrum and Overcome Challenges!

By Janet Watson

Toddler Discipline

brings light to many of the questions parents are afraid to ask about their toddlers, and some of the popular ones too. The toddler years for any child are extremely crucial in determining what individuals they would mature into. As such, parents need a book like this one to guide them and address certain issues like:

●     The necessity and efficacy of spanking toddlers

●     Why you shouldn't yell at toddlers

●     Strong-willed toddlers

●     Why toddlers push set limits, and many others.

If you feel at your wits end with your toddler and have begun to vilify them in your mind, this is the book to not only teach you about toddlers and how to deal with them but remind you of the beauty of parenthood. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tony Bennis
• Release date: Feb 29, 2020
• ISBN: 1922320498

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Toddler Discipline

18 Effective Strategies to Discipline Your Infant or Toddler in a Positive Environment. Tame Tantrum and Overcome Challenges!

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Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Introduction......6

Chapter 1: Why Toddlers Push Limits......7

Chapter 2: What to Do When Your Toddler Starts Pushing Limits......16

Chapter 3: How to Stay Calm (for Parents Dealing with Toddlers)......21

Chapter 4: Methods to Discipline Your Toddler......29

Chapter 5: Why Should You Discipline Your Toddler? ......46

Chapter 6: How to Communicate with Your Toddler......55

Chapter 7: How to Make Your Toddlers Listen......63

Chapter 8: Reasons Why You Should Not Distract Your Toddler......72

Chapter 9: How to Set a Routine for Your Toddlers......77

Why Toddlers Need Routines

Chapter 10: The 10 Steps to Disciplining Your Toddler......86

Chapter 11: Don't Yell at Your Toddler......92

Chapter 12: How Necessary and Effective Is Spanking Your Toddler? ......101

The Benefits of Spanking

The Disadvantages of Spanking

Chapter 13: Myths About Discipline......111

Chapter 14: Myths About Parenting......119

Chapter 15: Myths About Toddlers......132

Chapter 16: The Benefits of Giving Your Toddler Choices......138

Choices You Shouldn't Let Your Child Make

Chapter 17: The Strong-willed Toddler......144

Signs You Have a Strong Willed Toddler

How to Parent a Strong-Willed Toddler

Conclusion......153

References......154

Introduction

What is too much? What is just right? When has it gone too far? What is permissive, advisable, or detrimental? When it comes to disciplining your toddler, these and a lot more are questions you have, very likely, asked yourself and now seek answers to. Unlike children above the age of four, teenagers and adults, toddlers know very little about what is right or wrong.  They are also limited in the ways they can communicate their thoughts and feelings.

As such, it is the responsibility of the parent or guardian to groom their toddlers into responsible, active, and valuable members of their families and the society at large. This book, Toddler Discipline: 10 Simple Steps to Discipline Your Toddler, was written with the purpose of enlightening you about the necessity of discipline, the various ways to go about it, and its limits.

If you have a toddler or are preparing to have one, this is the right book for you. Learn why you don't have to throw in the towel when your kid throws a tantrum. Find out why yelling at your toddler may not be the perfect answer when they keep pushing the limits of the boundaries you have set.

Chapter 1: Why Toddlers Push Limits

Toddlers pushing their limits can cause even the coolest parents to become confounded. Parents simply cannot believe how their sweet kids can turn into maniacs so quickly; it's enough hard work keeping it together. Your kid just takes to throwing stuff at you even when you clearly instructed them not to. What makes it even worse is that they find it funny and fun. Not only is it hard to rationalize, but as a parent, you could end up questioning a lot of things. Have you been raising them wrong, or is that just who they are? There is simply no rationale for their behavior, and this can be especially haunting to a parent.

But what makes toddlers act the way they do?

Your child isn't evil and that isn't who they are. It is merely the psychology of being in the phase of toddlerhood. Toddlers are unable to manage their impulses, are highly sensitive, and have a rather intense emotional psychology. All these elements culminate to why toddlers express their emotions and needs in the most unusual and unexpected ways ever. If it helps, the behavior makes no sense to toddlers either. They themselves are unable to decipher their behavior as right or wrong. The reason for this is that their brain is still quite immature in the region of the prefrontal cortex—the region of the brain responsible for structuring decision-making and personality expressions, as well as managing social behavior. This coupled with the inability to manage their emotions implies that toddlers are easily manipulated by impulses they are unable to withstand. Therefore,  their behaviors are neither based on the inability to listen and understand instructions or the sheer desire to disobey, rather they are merely slaves to their impulses.

Having considered the biological reason for limit-pushing behaviors in toddlers, let's delve more into other reasons why toddlers may exhibit such behaviors.

1. The quest for clarity

When toddlers feel like they haven't been given an answer they find easy to comprehend or suitable, they would often break out into fits of limit-pushing behaviors, especially when pertaining to questions about outcomes, such as: What will happen if I don't do as you say? or What could happen if I don't go to school? Toddlers want to understand why you would be angry with them for throwing away their toys and why they may be stuck in the same class for not going to school. In pushing limits, they are merely striving for clarity and understanding as to what the love and leadership of their parents signifies. This helps them clarify the expectations of their parents, the rules guiding behavior, and the position of power. In this case, it is in the best interest of parents to be patient and answer their questions in the calmest and clearest way possible.

Of course, the mannerisms of response would change with the scenarios, but consistency in showing that their behaviors are met unflinchingly is key. Parents have to show that they are capable of handling the limit-pushing behavior of their toddlers without a hassle.

2. Pent up emotions

There is no wrong age to have pent-up emotions; toddlers are proof of this. Limit-pushing behaviors in toddlers are sometimes a result of psychological and emotional stress which have been trapped in them over time. The struggle to release these feelings is what influences them into such behaviors. Parents have to believe that these limit-pushing behaviors are an important process in the development of their child. They have to be calm during this process and treat the expressions of their child in the easiest and healthiest ways possible. Such interventions are necessary to decrease the need of the child to exhibit limit-pushing behaviors. So, it is imperative that every parent keeps an open attitude towards all kinds of feelings from their child as it would help quell limit-pushing behaviors.

3. The need for basic necessities

Oftentimes, toddlers don't seem to register signs of hunger or fatigue, meaning they tend to push on with indulging themselves so much they forget their bodies need fuel to function. In doing this, their bodies would often tend to influence their minds, making them exhibit SOS behaviors aimed at their parents. With this type of behavior, they call attention to their needs without actually making any mention of it. For instance, in crying or throwing of their toys, your child might be sending a subtle message implying they are hungry or uncomfortable. This explains why they tend to shut up the minute they see you bringing in a meal. So, your child isn't exactly just behaving irrationally, it could be a subtle implication of a need.

4. Reflecting Behavior

Toddlers are easily impressionable and sensitive at their age. Their parents are readily their first source of influence, so they will often try to mirror the behavior of their parents and exhibit such behaviors over time. For instance, if you tend to always grab their toys and yell at them to do something, they will imbibe that mannerism; believing only important things are yelled out. This explains why they may not take you seriously when you gently ask them to do something. Another way they could express such behavior is among their peers. Also, toddlers are more likely to act eccentrically when their parents act stressed or upset about things. This is especially true in cases when the parents haven't come through with their feelings. The need for clarity can sometimes drive them to limit-pushing behavior.

5. Seeking attention

If your child misses your attention, they may sometimes go to varying lengths, including limit-pushing behaviors to gain your attention. If they feel your validation and support hasn't exactly been regular, toddlers may break out in a behavior they think will get your attention. And if they find out such behaviors are enough to draw your attention, they are going to keep at it and continue to push your limits.

6. Feeling unwanted or ignored

When was the last time you told your child you loved them? Well, if you haven't, that might explain their erratic behavior. When your toddler begins