Secrets of Having Marvelous Conversations with People whilst shy and Making Your Shyness get you Your Heart Desires

By Dafe Charles

Shyness is more often seen as a character that people see as harmless and but the reverse is the case more often than not. Life always brings situations where the bravest and those who dare will eat the biggest meat or fruit. This could be in dating the perfect girl, getting the best job opportunities, job promotion, public speaking, meeting influential and life-changing people. The more these things are lost by a shy person, the worse the self-esteem and the things to get out of life. This book provides tricks and tools for leveling the plain field so you can be you (shy) and still be able to get YOUR best out of life. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dexter
• Release date: Apr 3, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393327936

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Secrets of Having Marvelous Conversations with People whilst shy and Making Your Shyness get you Your Heart Desires

DAFE OGHENEBRUME CHARLE

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DEDICATION

I DEDICATE THIS BOOK to my mum for being my rock , teacher mentor and best friend throughout my life. She took a chance on me when no one did and stuck up for me and ensured I become the man I want to be. I also dedicate this to my wonderful sisters who have been a great source of inspiration to write  things. 

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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Iacknowledge the efforts of my close friend Deborah who helped in emotional support and help with this book. Also wonderful Marvellous who has just being what her name is to me.

1 INTRODUCTION

For many people who are worried about their social skills, talking to people and talking about small things with confidence is a big deal. It has become a center of media and clinical attention as the need for conversational skills to be successful grows day by day.

Talking to people is the basis of a successful presentation. People judge you based on how you express yourself, and conversational skills play a big part in work and social gatherings. We usually talk to people we know and with whom we have something in common.

For starters, To effectively talk to strangers for the first time, you need conversation starters who can break the ice. When trying to break the ice, don't be overly curious or ask too many questions. Knowing how to talk to people can help you find a place. Not only can you be successful in your business or profession, but also socially if you have the necessary social skills. You need to allow the conversation to start on topics that almost everyone has in common. Bringing up a boring talking point that not many people know about can lead to a dead end. You can also get bored and your investigators won't start. Not only do the topics have to be interesting, but if you can bring some humor with you, it can be great.

Letting other people talk can take your time and participate if you find something interesting. You can come in and start a conversation after talking to the other person. This process allows you to talk about things with confidence and not come across as intrusive or overly questioning.

Bringing in fun trivia can brighten up the environment and give you the confidence to keep the conversation going. When you come up with a topic that highlights people's interests, you can be sure you're talking to someone.

Knowing how to talk to people and communicate with confidence offers many opportunities and can be an effective tool for making contacts.

2 WAYS TO MEET PEOPLE AS AN INTROVERT IN A COOL AND CHILL MANNER

What we will start with here is how your social skills are to be used, how to date or build pleasurable qualities, how to become socially sensible even though your social experiences are a little more low-energy or reserved. I have the duty several times to guarantee that everyone has a wonderful experience and make sure that everyone is motivated and amused and that their creativity is heavily represented. So as I said a big part of my personality is being very stimulating, very off the wall a little bit goofy, a little bit eccentric and believe it or not it is very exhilarating. A few years ago this wasn’t so. I was a big-time introvert and ran away from friends when I saw them on the streets. I celebrated a lot of birthdays alone sad. I will write other books about that later, but at the same time, I often think that if you are really shy if You read that I know my way around a gathering or rock a bunch of friends while I am out, you may think I can't show you how to meet people. Perhaps because I might have isolated you to thinking that you can't be so charismatic as this guy. What I want to do in this chapter is explain to you the ways that you can often use being very chilled very calm and if you have a yin and yang. You could be very Yin, calm, and chill. I want to show you specifically how you can use that actually to create a lot of attraction between people or to use it not just in general social life, but even in public speaking. So that rather than being a disadvantage it becomes a very powerful tool. I want to start by showing you the reason that a lot of people do use higher energy to go out and meet people because I feel like before we go into the lower energy ways of going about it, at the same time we should at least acknowledge why a lot of people use higher energy. The simple explanation, I guess, is that people prefer to gravitate to greater energy, as you would possibly suppose. So why do people watch a rock movie or so, why do they gravitate towards positiveness? When you have more steam, it seems to happen a lot. If there are more stimuli, it is just understood that people are gravitating towards others who have more energy. Why go to a rock festival, why do you watch all these naughty things on TV? They do so because they gravitate to stimulation quite simply. People are bored and they go toward stimulation that's just a fact. Now in addition to that, if you're going to meet somebody and you would like to move