Love You! How To Live In Love

By Dyan Diamond

Step into a world of self-love and compassion. Journey through your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to take amazingly great care of yourself. Let go of anything that is less than loving. Dream up new experiences. Watch your life expand in love. Let your love spill over to everyone and everything. Transform your life with self-love. Love is a miracle that is available to everyone.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Aug 22, 2017
• ISBN: 9781387182251

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Love You! How To Live In Love

Love You!

How to live in love

By Dyan Diamond

Step into a world of compassion. Journey through your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to take amazingly great care of yourself along the way. Let go of anything that is less than loving. Dream up new experiences. Watch your life expand in love. Let your love spill over to everyone and everything. Transform your life with self-love.

Love is a miracle that is available to everyone.

Copyright 2014, 2017  Dyan Diamond

All Rights Reserved, Second Edition

ISBN:  978-1-387-18225-1

Published by: True North House Publishing

Please contact: [e-mail] before using any material from this book.  Thank you.

Find Dyan online at: www.DyanDiamond.net

Also by Dyan Diamond:

Inspired ~ A Workbook Journal

Summoned Angels ~ A Spirit Filled Novel

Abundance – How to create and sustain a meaningful life

You can find all of Dyan’s books here:

Amazon.com or Barnes & Noble or at                                                                          www.lulu.com/spotlight/dyandiamond

Dedication

This book is dedicated to you and to me – and to all of the self-love that can sustain us every day.  Self-love is truly a game changer. I am honored to share it with you. I hope that you pass it along.

Thank You

A very special thank you to Avril Guthrie for all of her love and support in this project!  Thank you so much Avril!  You are a treasure.

Another special thank you goes to Tony Scruggs for being an excellent role model of self-love – and for all of his support and love always.  Tony teaches empathy and compassion.  Find him on twitter at:  @Compassioning or at his website:  www.TheEmpathyGuy.com

Table Of Contents

Welcome

Chapter One:  What’s Self-Love Got To Do With It?

What is self-love?

Definitions:  How do we come up with this stuff?

It’s challenging to love your neighbor if you don’t love you

Is it wrong to love yourself?

Divine Universal Love

We are all connected

Chapter Two:  Compassionate Self-Awareness

Have some self-compassion

Embrace your experiences

Make a commitment

Be a no-judgment zone

Glorious gratitude

Chapter Three:  Head Space

Just breathe

Prayerfulness and meditation

Thoughts

We think what we believe

Thoughts before emotions

Changing our minds

Self-talk

Chapter Four:  Lighten The Load

This is about you

How we affect one another

Reacting or responding?

Remember, we are soul siblings

Excuses, excuses

Don’t rush

Embrace it all

The past does not define us

It’s okay to let go

Spiritual sanity

Forgiveness

Chapter Five:  Dreaming Up Intentions

Living in a loving consciousness

Self-soothing

Create space

Raising our vibes

Embracing change

What can we dream up?

Dream loud

Turning intentions into actions

Chapter Six:  Deeds Of Daring Self-Love

Lavish love on yourself

Body love

Movement

Looking after a body

Loving our spaces

Chapter Seven:  Living In Love

Take a risk to play

Grand adventures

Elevator of love

Maintaining self-respect

Miracle watch

Be the change

Welcome

I cannot tell you any spiritual truth that deep within you don’t know already.  All I can do is to remind you of what you have forgotten. ~ Eckhart Tolle

If there is one thing I am sure about, it is love.  Love is powerful.  Love is transformative.  I know, just from being human and from listening to other humans, that we want love in our lives.  We believe it is one of the most important things we ever do.

I have been coaching and counseling for a long time.  I work with people who are in all types of circumstances, from all different walks of life.  What I have found is that whenever anyone believes they have a challenge or an issue, the answer they are looking for is always love.  Time after time, it always goes back to love.  Remembering love, acknowledging love, understanding love and applying love to our lives.  Loving ourselves can address and heal all of the various situations we can dream up.  Loving ourselves can be our solution.

Love is a miracle cure.

We can choose to heal ourselves from any challenges we feel we have in our lives when we love ourselves.  The problems we believe we have are simply places where we can use more love.  Of course there are medical issues for some people that have been caused by physical disease, chemical imbalance or trauma that are not included here.  But for most of us, recognizing and embracing self-love can be life changing.

What I do more than anything else as a counselor and life coach is remind people to love themselves.  And that is what I am here to do for you too.

The consequences can be very serious when we believe there is a lack of love in our lives.  We can suffer from confusion and pain.  Perceived lack of, or loss of love can be debilitating.  Apathy, depression, stagnation can feel overwhelming if we feel a lack or loss of love.  Sometimes it can even be deadly.  Love is obviously an extremely important part of our lives.

When I started to write this book, I set out on a quest for more information about love.  Specifically, I looked for research on how to love ourselves.  I was amazed at the lack of material I was able to find on self-love.  There were variations on self-love.  How to take really great care of yourself physically – which is a part of self-love, but not all of it.  How to have good self-esteem.  But most of the material I found was about romantic love.  How to love yourself until you find a partner to love you.  How to love yourself so you can find a partner to love you.  Some books I read confused me.  I read many passages that claimed self-love is narcissistic, selfish and wrong.

Love seemed to only be about others in a lot of the material I was able to find.  There is no denying that romantic love can be beautiful, powerful and amazing.  But many people do not always have access to romantic love.  Does that leave some of us out in the cold?  Are we unable to access love unless we have a partner?

Can we provide a loving environment for ourselves?  Can we love ourselves?  Do we still have access to love, even when we do not have a partner to love us?  Yes.  I believe we can be our own source of love.  Love already lives within each of us – whether we recognize and acknowledge it or not…whether we use it or not.  It is there.  We can look to ourselves for the love we want to see in our lives.

I do believe that it is possible to find our source of love within.  In fact, I believe that we can be our own most profound source of love.  Self-love can radically change our lives.  I have seen it happen many, many times.

The journey into discovering self-love begins with accepting ourselves.  It begins when we allow ourselves to be who we really are.  With all of our imagined flaws and issues – not just the parts of ourselves that we are comfortable with.  We can choose to accept all of ourselves and that will start to change our lives.

We can turn our frustration and any self-hatred we have, into self-care and self-love.  We can choose to support ourselves.  We can learn to trust ourselves.  We can learn how to fall in love with ourselves.

We can surrender and let go of things that do not feel loving.  We can move past our fears with love.  We can learn how to tune out the voices (within and without) that say we cannot or should not do what we love to do.  We can learn to believe in ourselves.  We can learn how to follow our dreams when we love ourselves.

We can find that the more we love ourselves, the more we understand our personal power and effectiveness in the world.  Self-love is its own reward.  It is not something we do in order to get someone else to love us.  Self-love is for us.  It is its own end goal.  It does have some fantastic side effects, including the ability to love others more fully too.

The more we love ourselves, the more love we have for others too.

Whatever we have been through in childhood – our lives are now under our control as adults.  We have the ability to change.  We have always had the capacity to love.  We can now choose to use it.

Welcome to this exciting adventure into self-love.  I am so happy that you have chosen to be here.  Let’s get this self-loving party started!

Chapter One:  What’s Self-Love Got To Do With It?

What is self-love?

We have so many ideas about what love is.  Some people think it is a wonderful sensation.  Some people think it is a matter of luck.  Some think it is something we fall into, implying that we do not have a choice. 

Regardless of what we think it is, we crave love.  We watch movies, listen to songs and read books about love.  We sometimes desperately want love in our lives.  But often we find that what begins with such huge hopes and expectations seems to fail on a regular basis.  If this were anything else – our careers, parenting, anything that is important to us – we would demand to know the reasons why.  We would research and look for answers.

Why are we not looking into this thing called love?  Is love too big, too scary?  Do we believe that there is just no way to understand love?  Will others think we are weak or weird for exploring love?

If you have ever deeply cared about anyone, any