Love Your Self

By Sonia Baeriswyl

These two words carry the power to alter the course of your life, give you the strength and joy that can never be snatched away by this world.
It is only when we realize the importance of our existence, we can take a pause from the fast-paced life, drop the judgments we hold about ourselves and for once, love ourselves. Self-love is the birthright of all of us, irrespective of our worldly status, our shortcomings, achievements and our stage of life. Make yourself your priority and see how you get a more profound perspective about life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Sonia Baeriswyl
• Release date: Mar 2, 2018
• ISBN: 9781370458905

Sonia Baeriswyl

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Sonia Baeriswyl

LOVE YOUR SELF

Smashwords 2018

Copyright © 2018

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Sonia Baeriswyl

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Table of Contents

Chapter One

How To Love Yourself

Tips to love your body

Chapter Two

What Are The Chunks To Loving Yourself?

How We Come To Feel Unlovable

How We Come To Feel Unlovable: Step Two

Taking It Personally

How We Come To Feel Unlovable, Step Three

How We Come To Feel Unlovable, Step Four

The Taboo Against Loving Yourself

Getting Free All These Things We Have Learned. We See The World Exactly Upside Down

Chapter Three

How To Do It The Right Ways

Deciding

Hoping

The Break-Through

Chapter Four

Learn To Love Your Feelings

Where Does Feelings Come From?

Guilt Of Oneself

Another Aspect Of Guilt

What Sort Of Gesture Can Help?

Guilt Is A Concoction

How To Find What You Love To Do

The Answer Is: I Don’t Know

What Did People Praise You On Doing?

Clear Questions Lead To Clear Answers

Now The Time Comes ForFocus

Fear And Anger

Sadness

Feelings About Parents

The Big Lesson

Chapter Five

Learning To Love Your Body And Your Sexuality

Chapter Six

Clearing Your Mind

Chapter Seven

Learning To Love Yourself

While Being In Love

Chapter Eight

The Typical Journey Of Self-Improvement

Chapter Nine

How To Believe You Can Do Anything (Capability Model)

How Can You Avoid Doing That?

Chapter Ten

How To Be A Man

Other societies had a set rite of passage.

What is the essence of masculinity?

Self-Sacrifice

Self-Courage

Confidence to Overcome and Persevere

These Are Who We Regard As Men

Mentor Can Shape Your Direction

Chapter Eleven

Supercharge Your Action

Chase Goals That Fuel You

Nothing is Impossible – Everything is Achievable

Chapter Twelve

The Unstoppable Power of Focus

I Guarantee Your Mind Will Start To Stray

Be Very Grateful

Chapter Thirteen

A Short Psychology Of Forgiveness

The Experience Of Oneness

Chapter Fourteen

Experiments In Loving Yourself

Experiment One: A Love Meditation

Experiment Two: A second Love Meditation

Experiment Three: Love In Writing

Experiment Four: Love In Action

I Love Myself.

Switch And Give Your Partner A Chance To Try It

Experiment Five: Drawing Love

Experiment Six: Cataloging Your Love

Chapter Fifteen

Questions And Answers

How Do You Learn To Love A Person You Hate?

Chapter Sixteen

Principle Of Life: Choose Better To Live Better

Eliminate the Drain People

Living in the Present Moment

Be Fit and Healthy

Let Nobody Else Tell You Otherwise

I Hated Myself For Being So Weak Minded

I Believe There Is Something Great Inside Each And Every One Of Us

Train Yourself. Nobody Can Do It For You

Everybody Has Problems

Don’t Settle For Anything Less

When You Can Conquer Yourself, You Can Conquer Anything

Don’t Be Limited By Their Negativity And Ignorance

Chapter One

How To Love Yourself

These two words carry the power to alter the course of your life, give you the strength and joy that can never be snatched away by this world.

It is only when we realize the importance of our existence, we can take a pause from the fast-paced life, drop the judgments we hold about ourselves and for once, love ourselves. Self-love is the birthright of all of us, irrespective of our worldly status, our shortcomings, achievements and our stage of life. Make yourself your priority and see how you get a more profound perspective about life.

You would wonder how to achieve this state of unconditional love for oneself – imperfections accepted and all the falls and stumbles of life embraced? Is there anyone who did not struggle to achieve self-love? Despite life’s complexity, is it possible to do this one simple thing?

Yes. It is. In fact, you owe it to yourself.

Wondering how to love yourself and where to start? Then, here are a few guidelines for you to take those baby steps towards loving yourself.

1. Start by loving your body

The journey to love yourself begins with the body. Imagine if you wake up to find that your body is gone. You wouldn’t even be able to express your shock with a scream. You enjoy the world and even feel its pain through your body. It’s a gift that must be loved and taken care of.

It’s your body and it’s the only one that you have for this lifetime.

Love your body, no matter what.

Tips to love your body

Change your perspective: If you have even slight dislike for your body, then change gears now. Start accepting your body. Love your body the way it is and take corrective actions for your health instead.

Eat healthy: Eat what is conducive to your well-being and let your eating habits be governed by your intelligence rather than your cravings.

Take morning walks, strengthens the body and ensures it remains healthy and fit.

2. Stay away from negativity

Learning to love yourself becomes difficult when you’re brimming with negative thoughts about yourself. Thoughts about your unworthiness are a hindrance to let one be comfortable in their own skin. These feelings that pull the energy down originate in the mind. Thus, disciplining your mind and letting yourself loose from self-depreciating thoughts is the second step to love yourself.

Often, self-doubt is a result of comparing oneself with others. We forget to cherish our uniqueness.

Discipline your mind to not indulge in negative thoughts, rather be a silent observer of them. Let the thoughts remain.

"What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot. Everything and everybody has been designed with a proportion of uniqueness to serve a purpose that we can fulfill only by being our unique self. You as you alone can serve your purpose. Existence loved you so much that it broke the mold after making you so that another of your kind never gets replaced."

Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

There are also times when the feeling of unworthiness is injected from our surroundings and people. How to love yourself in these moments? Well, some practical wisdom for your mind can help you to simply remain unaffected.

There are even some special skills and knowledge imparted in the Happiness Program that can help you surmount the negativity in your mind.

3. You are more than your body and mind

We lose our confidence when our standard benchmarks of identity, the body and the mind dwindle in appearance and sharpness respectively.

However, there is a part of us that never changes an element beyond the changing mind and body. A glimpse of our own self empowers us with the confidence of the greatest kind and you learn to love yourself like never before. This element is the consciousness that is the source of joy and love in all of us.

Meditation helps one to tune to this aspect of our being. You can catch a glimpse of the changeless you through guided meditations. You can also learn the art of meditation from trained teachers.

Chapter Two

What Are The Chunks To Loving Yourself?

It seems noticeable to me now that I am a lovable and capable person, but not too long ago I felt unlovable and ineffective. I know nothing has changed except my own mind, my own opinion of myself. The rest of the world is the same as it was, but now I see myself differently in relationship to it. It seems so natural and easy now to love myself. How did I ever make it so hard?

Possibly we begin life in a state of being able to give and receive unlimited love. Then, in the growing-up development, we make decisions about ourselves and life that make us to fall out of love with ourselves. A decision like I am unlovable, made when we are two or twenty-two can affect the worth of our lives when we are thirty or sixty. I made a decision a long time ago not to belief people. I felt abandoned by my mother and father. In real sense, he pass away and she went to work. I did not apprehend about death, mourning, and economic needs. To my new eyes, it looked like I was being abandon by people I had been trusting upon. So I thought. This world is a place where people leave you just when you are depending on them.

We make decisions like Don’t trust people to make simpler the world, to make it make sense. It is safer, somehow, if we make rules. It will keep us from getting in trouble. The trouble is, of course, that in the deepest realm of life there are no rules. To make rules there instills rigidity where utmost pliability is called for.

The beauty of the human mind is that any decision that is made can be unmade. Since decisions like Don’t trust are made only of mind-stuff, and therefore do not exist in any real sense, they can be dissolved in a lash. It is reassuring to know that any limitation you have ever installed in your mind, for whatever purpose and regardless of how long ago, can be effortlessly shed.

How We Come To Feel Unlovable

Birth can be hazardous to your health. There we are, in a warm and blissful environment, all our wants and needs fulfilled instantly, when suddenly the worst disaster film of all time begins to roll. The walls shudder and contract, we start down a long, dark tunnel toward an uncertain end, only to be yanked out, pended, snipped, spanked, and forced to breathe the cold air of an alien world. And that is if we have an easy birth. It is possible, for example, to spend all day stuck in the tunnel or to experience one of the dozens of other complications of the birth process.

While we cannot go back and get birthed again, we can look at any decision our minds made at the time to see if any of those decisions are affecting us now. An example of a birth decision is, Just when things are going fine, the bottom will always drop out. Naturally, if we believe that this is the case, our lives will go precisely according to that formula. One of the central tasks of life is spotting the decisions and beliefs that are causing our lives to unfold in their particular ways. Once spotted, these beliefs and decisions can evaporate or be replaced by healthier beliefs.

How We Come To Feel Unlovable: Step Two

Somewhere along