How to Analyze People: Influence, Persuasion, Social Skills, and Body Language

By Jason Gale

☆★☆How to Analyze People: Influence, Persuasion, Social skills, and Body language ☆★☆
Every influential leader understood the power of body language and charisma. Winston Churchill, Richard Nixon, Barrack Obama, Donald Trump and even infamous leaders such as Hitler and Stalin.
Such powerful leaders have forged the landscape of our history for better or for worse. Some rose to power bringing freedom and prosperity, while others left terror and atrocities in their wake. These influential leaders intuitively knew the power of utilizing body language to advance their agendas.
Have you ever wondered what makes celebrities so likeable? In this book your going to discover why the masses are so attracted to certain celebrities. ( beyond physical appearance)
Do you want to learn how to influence your friends, persuade colleagues, and read body language effectively?
Did you know humans communicate mostly through body language? 80%-90% of what we say is revealed through our body language and the remaining 10%-20% is verbal communication!
If you want to be in control of every social encounter you come across, then I highly recommend you invest into this resource.

What You'll Learn

What makes celebrities likeable?

How to become more likeable

Making connections and genuine friendships

How to spot a fake friend

Why its difficult to make friends for some

Self-perception VS reality

And, much, much more!

This book takes you on a journey of self-discovery. Whether you want to become likeable, win friends, read people instantly, or influence others, this is your step to step guide to understanding the complex nature of the human psyche and the many intricacies and labyrinths of the mind.
These skills are universal whether you are prospecting romantic relationships, interview situations or spotting fake friends and inauthentic people.
Invest in yourself today! Become an influential leader just like the A-class celebrities, influence people, exude charisma and read people effectively.
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• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishdrive
• Release date: Jul 20, 2020

Jason Gale

Jason Gale a world renowned communication and social skills expert. Majored in behavioral psychology, his valuable life experiences go even further and expand as some people consider him a top relationship/dating guru. He found his vocation in empowering others who lack social skills, have communication impediments or even relationship problems with powerful techniques and approaches that seem to always work with great success. Jason stated in his earlier years he was quite an introvert in high school and socially awkward, he feels obligated to give people the freedom of socializing that he didn't have due to his social inadequacies at the time. Through the passage of time he started to become more observant and spent a lot of time in his college library reading books trying to understand human psychology, social culture, communication skills and behavioral science. In incremental steps he became an expert, and soon enough became an excellent communicator when engaging anyone in conversation. Jason now works as a life coach for personal development and devotes much of his time writing empowering books, answering emails and phone calls for people in need of guidance in the realm of communication, relationships and socializing. In his leisure time he spends it with his loved ones, he's a family man and spends much of his time with his wife who he's been married to for over 23 years, and two children. He also has a dog whom he's quite fond of. He enjoys traveling the world gaining new experiences , lessons and nature watching. Jason desires to travel the world and impact lives one person at a time and fulfill his true purpose in life, helping others in need.

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Chapter 1: How to become likeable and make people desire your companionship

Introduction

We continually interact with people, and the success of our interactions depends to some extent on just how likeable we are. People tend to form opinions about us in the first 7 seconds of meeting us. However, this opinion can change based on the attributes we show when interacting with them. Generally, we will form friendships only with people we find to be likeable.

To a significant level, our likeability makes people desire our companionship. Some of the exemplars we can see to have this effect are celebrities. People are drawn to a lot of celebrities, such as entertainers, charismatic leaders, and successful entrepreneurs, not just due to their popularity, but also due to their tendencies and personalities. It might seem that these highly likeable people are born fiercely social or incredibly talented, but in reality, likeability can be learned. This chapter looks at how to make yourself genuinely likeable so that people can desire your companionship and also examines some of the ways that celebrities use to draw the appeal of masses.

How you can become more likeable

The human brain is constantly processing the environment that one is in, a tactic that helped man throughout evolution. Among its primal instincts are the abilities to judge whether a person is a threat, attractive, or useful for survival. Hence, all these are qualities that man has developed to quickly read from the behaviour, attitude, and body language of others. Fortunately, these are attributes that can be learned, manipulated, or controlled to achieve the goal of making one more likeable. The following are some of the ways you make your companionship desirable by many.

a) Having a friendly demeanor

By natural tendency, we tend to avoid people who appear closed-off, angry, disinterested, and indifferent, yet we become drawn to people that display positive emotions such as openness and happiness. Thus, to become likeable, you ought to have a friendly demeanor in the presence of others. Your appearance and behavior should make you seem approachable and easy to interact with. Appearing cordial will make people like you and seek your companionship.

b) Being Yourself

If you are to be genuinely liked, you need to only present your authentic self to others. Thus, people should avoid putting themselves on pedestals that are often hard to maintain. For instance, it is tempting to portray a flawless and opulent status to gain the respect and admiration of others. Not only does this sell a fake personality to others, but it can also put one under constant undue pressure to lead an unsustainable lifestyle. Hence, this could lead to other complications such as chronic stress and depression alongside an imposter syndrome. Further, people will tend to dissociate from, mock, or dislike anyone they find to be portraying a fake persona. Therefore, it is important to only present your true self and personality. This boosts your confidence and charisma as you are not afraid of leading an unattainable lifestyle or being exposed later on as a fake. Genuine people are also more likeable as they are easier to identify with.

c) Be a conversation starter

Many people, particularly introverts and strangers, will often find it hard to start conversations. This is occasioned by the fear of embarrassment or being turned away by others. Thus, there are many missed interactions and uncomfortable silences, which could have been turned to your favor if initiated. Simply starting conversations with people can make you more likeable. The more you can socialize with people, the easier you can become a people's person, and, consequently, the more you will be liked.

d) Complimenting others

The simple act of complimenting other people increases your likeability. This is because it brings positive emotions in others and reduces the inner tensions that they have within themselves. The cause of this tension is usually a healthy amount of self-criticism we naturally have. Psychologist Ellen Hendriksen, while describing social anxiety, remarked that we are our worst critics. This makes us closely monitor our behaviours when around others. She adds that this healthy level of self-criticism keeps us in check, and people who do not have an inner critic voice are prone to becoming narcissists and psychopaths. Therefore, when you compliment other people, the affirmation reduces inner tensions and self-criticism. Unconsciously, this makes people like you more as they associate you with positive emotions.

e) Keeping a straight posture

A publication from Radford University, that contained multiple studies, concluded that there is a strong correlation between confidence and attractiveness or likeability. Posture is the main form of body language that can portray confidence. It is easy to identify people that are unconfident, disinterested or unenthusiastic based on their postures. For instance, slouching is looked down upon as it implies a lack of interest.

On the other hand, there are good practices that improve our appeal to others. When standing, one's legs should be at least hip-width apart, posture should be straight to make one appear tall but the shoulders and chest should be relaxed to avoid giving the impression that one is overly tensed. Similarly, one should sit upright to avoid the tendency that people have of making themselves small when they sit down. In both positions, there should be some tension to the core, though not much. The appropriate amount should be enough to allow one to make slight movements gracefully.

These posture practices, commonly referred to as power poses, are recommended as they exude confidence, alertness, and a level of positivity. Further, an upright posture alters body chemistry leading to low cortisol levels, which is a hormone that affects our stress levels. The immediate impact of maintaining an upright posture is that people will find you likeable and will appreciate your company or presence.

f) Remaining calm

It is uncommon for us to feel agitated or uncomfortable when meeting some people, especially for the first time. However, we ought to ensure that the first impression we give is positive. Therefore, we have to hide all signs that we are agitated or not comfortable with meeting someone. One of the most obvious tell-tale signs that we are not calm is the fidgeting of fingers. Additionally, our breathing patterns will change considerably and this might be observed as we speak. These are not attributes that should be used to define us, yet they are not always easy to conceal. However, there are two ways that can be effectively used to help us gain a calm composure.

To begin with, there is a secret to remaining calm often taught to people whose professions may involve remaining calm in adverse situations, such as military personnel. The technique is called combat tactical breathing, which just involves controlled breathing. One has to take a deep breath over 4 seconds, hold it in for 4 more seconds, exhale over 4 seconds, and wait 4 more seconds before inhaling again. This