Building Social Confidence: Proven Strategies to Overcome Insecurity, Become More Likeable, Converse Like a Pro, Improve Your Charisma and More

By Steven Wilder

Recent research has discovered that giving a speech in public is the greatest fear of the average person. The survey further shows that most people are more afraid of speaking in public than dying! 

The above statement is very true for most people and this is what this book focuses on; social confidence. Whether you are a singer, writer, accountant, doctor, plumber, or you are still a student, social confidence improves your life in more ways than you can imagine. There are so many opportunities you might be missing out on if you don't work on this aspect of your life. Just think about the number of people and potential clients you would be missing out on by avoiding social gatherings. 
Yes, the internet has made it easy for people to interact without being there in person, but nothing beats a physical meeting. You connect faster with people when you meet them physically than when you chat online. This is because emotions can't be well represented online, but with physical meetings, he/she sees you, shakes your hand, watches your body language, sees you smile, and all these gives the person a better picture of who you really are. 
Social confidence is not something that is out of reach for the shy guy or the introvert. Mastering some social skills, developing empowering beliefs, and some other steps listed in this book will guarantee anyone social confidence. This book is not a book filled with theories, but a very practical piece with steps and guides on how to go about getting socially confident.
 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Rockstream Press
• Release date: Oct 12, 2019
• ISBN: 9788835303626

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Building Social Confidence

Proven Strategies To Overcome Insecurity, Become More Likeable, Converse Like A Pro, Improve Your Charisma And More

STEVEN WILDER

Copyright © 2017 Steven Wilder

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Table Of Contents

Chapter 1

Introduction

Chapter 2

Why You Have To Improve Your Social Confidence

Chapter 3

Develop Beliefs That Empower You

Chapter 4

Stop Negative Self Talk

Chapter 5

Overcoming Insecurity

Chapter 6

Learning Self Acceptance

Chapter 7

How To Become More Likeable

Chapter 8

How To Build Charisma

Chapter 9

How To Have The Right Body Language

Chapter 10

How To Be A Good Conversationalist

Chapter 11

Developing Motivation

Chapter 12

Overcoming Fear Of Rejection Or Embarrassment

Chapter 13

Using Mistakes To Your Advantage

Chapter 14

Reduce Pleasuring Yourself

Chapter 15

Conclusion

Chapter 1

Introduction

A lot of people have the wrong belief that you are either born with confidence or you are not. But that is not necessarily the case. Confidence is a social skill that can be learned and mastered. People who are confident in social gatherings are not superhuman. These people just unconsciously use a variety of social skills which accounts for their confidence and these skills can be mastered by anyone.

Certain social skills like having the right body language, being a good conversationalist, and so on are vital to being confident in social gatherings. You would also need to work internally on curbing negative self talk, self acceptance, overcoming the fear of rejection, self motivation and overcoming insecurity.

You have to work on all these daily to get the results you seek. It won’t be a stroll in the park, but the journey would be well worth it.

A lot of people think outwardly when they think of what would make them more confident. They think getting bigger breasts, or a bigger butt would make them more confident in social gatherings. Or they might think if they dress in the latest designer styles, or drive the latest car, or have lots of money, they would be more confident, but this is not true. There are a lot of Hollywood celebrities with all these things who are still insecure and not socially confident.

Additionally, you also are not assured of social confident even if you are part of a royal family. A few decades ago, there lived a man, let’s call him John. He was a member of one of the royal families in Europe. He had money, land, power, friends and a supporting family, but he still had very low self esteem. In fact, his case of insecurity was so bad that on numerous occasions, when he took the stand to address hundreds of people at a social gathering, he wouldn’t get any meaningful word out before bolting off the stage. This is a true story.

Don’t ever think that money, or social status, or any other outward thing would get you to be more socially confident. Don’t get me wrong, those things are not bad, and they do help a few people get a little more confident, but if you want long lasting confidence, it has to come from within you. Journey with me through the chapters of this book as you learn how to gain social confidence.

Chapter 2

Why You Have To Improve Your Social Confidence

There are so many things you would be missing out in life if you don’t have social confidence. Even if you have chosen a career path that ensures you deal with very few people on a daily basis, there would still be times when you would need to interact with people one on one. For example, if you are a writer, you might be invited to address people at a social function. Or, you might be given an award at an event, and called up to receive it. You would have to at least give a short speech after receiving the award. What about if you need to have a book signing for your latest book, and your fans come out in their hundreds to support you?