The Mindful Guide to College Preparation:: A Five-Day Retreat for Students and Their Parents
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Lisa Palombo Moore
LISA MOORE has been a teacher of teenagers and their families for the past thirty years. She is best known for her powerful teaching style that brings mindfulness to daily activities. Her key teaching is that through discovering and living one’s own truth, we can live joyful lives. This joy reaches the whole world. Lisa lives in New England and skis with her husband and two children as much as possible.
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The Mindful Guide to College Preparation: - Lisa Palombo Moore
Copyright © 2015 Lisa Moore.
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With S. R. Gilbert Art Work by Chaldea Emerson Deyman
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ISBN: 978-1-5043-3376-4 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-5043-3375-7 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2015909566
Balboa Press rev. date: 08/04/2015
Contents
Bringing Mindfulness to the Entire Family
Finding a Time and Place
The Activities
A Checklist: What You’ll Need for the Retreat
Day 1: The Trap
Peppermint Tea
Mandala Artwork
Movement
Interlude: The Unhappy Outcome
How to Meditate
Journal Activity: Minding the Trap
Closure
Day 2: Shame and Forgiveness
Rooibos Tea
Mandala Artwork
Movement
Interlude: Forgiving Myself
Meditation: Forgiveness
Journal Activity: Shame versus Guilt
Closure
Day 3: Looking within to Heal
Ginger Tea
Mandala Artwork
Movement
Interlude: Finding Your Grief
Meditation: Wisdom Resides Within
Journal Activity: Healing Wounds
Closure
Day 4: Looking Forward
Masala Chai
Mandala Artwork
Movement
Interlude: The Beliefs of Others
Meditation: Walking
Journal Activity: Who Else Am I?
Closure
Day 5: Healing Together
Green Tea
Mandala Artwork
Movement
Interlude: Breathing to Connect
Meditation: Loving-Kindness
Journal Activity: Compassion for All
Closure
An Ending?
Pull-Out Yoga Pose Sheet to Hang on Wall
Suggested Reading
Bringing Mindfulness to the Entire Family
The summer after I finished high school, my father had a heart attack. He stayed in a Buffalo hospital for nearly two weeks. When at last he came home, he was thin and pale—and my mother did not look much better. After one glance at their faces, and one minute in that fear-filled house, I knew that neither had the strength to move forward. Their emotional tanks were empty, and so was mine. I realize only now, though, that we shared the same tank. Children and their parents usually do.
I come from a family of five. By the time of my father’s illness, my brothers and sister had left home, allowing my parents and me to begin a new phase in our shared life together: friendship. Still, the final two years of high school had not been easy. I was questioning who I was and holding my self-image up to some pretty unrealistic ideals. Amid this turmoil, I could hardly wait to head off to George Washington University in Washington, DC. Like so many American teenagers, this would be my first time living away from home.
As August unfolded, my parents began cobbling together a routine. I was glad to see some type of rhythm return, but my own did not. For a long time, possibly all my life, it had been I, the child, who had carried my parents’ emotions for them—their pain, their trauma, and their worries. And now, as I prepared to leave home, I took on the enormous fear that at any moment my father might die.
The summer inched along, and then, the week before the start of the fall semester, I made up my mind. I called the admissions office, explained what had happened, and said that under the circumstances I couldn’t possibly leave my parents. I couldn’t enroll that semester.
But wasn’t I lying to myself? It is only now, thirty years later, that I realize the truth: I wanted to be appreciated by my parents. As an eighteen-year-old, I saw this great trauma as an opportunity to be seen and acknowledged as an individual. I wanted my father and mother to thank me for my help, for the sacrifice I made. That never came. Over the year that followed, this painful truth came into focus. I went away to college to see if I could exist without them because I did not exist with them.
Now that I am a parent myself, with children fast approaching college age, I have written a book for families who want to avoid a legacy of tangled and unspoken emotions. I want to open new pathways of communication—pathways that show a family how to be loving and supportive while granting autonomy to its individual members. For we don’t need to take on one another’s emotions in order to love, to be close, and to care. But in order to get there, we need to look carefully at our own experiences. I’ll start with my own.
My parents had been wounded long before I knew them—childhood traumas, including some terrible tragedies in the world wars, had fragmented my father’s family and left my mother’s irreparably damaged. The only way my parents knew how to cope with emotional pain was to bury it. They bundled their parents’ feelings up with many of their own