Let's Just Agree to Disagree: A Male and Female Speak Openly and Honestly About Relationships

By Craig C. Thomas and Jacqueline Scales

Lets Just Agree to Disagree is a one-of-a-kind book that will help with the line of communication within a relationship. Too often we refuse to confront certain issues that could make or break a relationship. This book will provide an insight on how to broach those subject matters. Our goal is for you and your partner to be totally open and honest with each other, even though you dont agree on a specific topic. There is light at the end of the tunnel, if you just agree to disagree.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trafford Publishing
• Release date: May 29, 2012
• ISBN: 9781466938380

Craig C. Thomas

Jacqueline Scales is a math teacher from the Bronx. This is her first novel. She has been married for eleven years and has been through it all. She married her husband after only dating for four and a half months. She currently resides in Wappingers Falls, New York. Craig C. Thomas grew up on the Island of Barbuda. He moved to New York at the age of eighteen and had his first son at eighteen also. He is a union carpenter. He tried his hand at marriage, which produced three kids. This is his first novel.

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A male and female speak

openly and honestly about relationships

Jacqueline Scales and Craig C. Thomas

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© Copyright 2012 Jacqueline Scales and Craig C. Thomas.

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2012908932

Trafford rev. 05/18/2012

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgment

Preface

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Chapter 11

Chapter 12

Chapter 13

Chapter 14

Chapter 15

Acknowledgment

We would like to thank Shanti Thomas for all the hard work she put in to making our vision a reality. We are truly thankful for your friendship.

Preface

Have you ever sat with a group of your friends, both male and female, and just talked? The group would talk about the different facets of their relationships. Everyone would discuss what they’ve gone through or what they are currently going through, and everyone starts weighing in on the issue. You notice that what’s being discussed is a commonality among both men and women. The person with the relationship issue is able to get suggestions from both their male friends and female friends; they’re able to see both sides of the coin.

All those group discussions, that we’ve had, are what lead us to write this book. It is not meant to be a guide, but rather to give you insight on the male and female perspective of common issues in a relationship. We will speak openly, honestly, and objectively about the different topics that we have chosen. Together we bring a wealth of relationship knowledge, not because we know it all, but because we have been through it all, just like most men and women have. We hope you will be enlightened and entertained.

Chapter 1

Emotionless Women–

Can Men Handle It?

Female:

I have often heard people say that women are such emotional beings, because they are so moody, nagging, and/or complaining, which is why most men feel that dealing with women is like being on an emotional roller coaster. So how does a man react when he finds a woman who doesn’t take them on that emotional roller coaster? Most men would conclude that there’s something wrong with her because in their minds, all women are full of emotions. Some would even assume that this female is crazy and ready to snap at any time because of that lack of emotion. You would think that an emotionless woman is exactly what a man would want, but when they get that woman, they still are not satisfied because then they feel the woman doesn’t care enough.

My male counterpart, who will add his insight later, says, I want a woman who allows me to be myself. I can agree with that statement all the way because who doesn’t want to be with someone who allows them to be themselves? Women ultimately want the same from men. When it comes to my definition of a relationship, it is this, two individuals who maintain their own lives and create one together. As the female in a relationship, I want to be able to go out with my friends, hang out with my family, and also have male friends (with whom I have no romantic interest) and have no problems with the man I choose to be with. I want to be able to come and go as I please and not be interrogated by my man. Do I think there is a man that exists who will have no problems with me enjoying myself and allowing me the freedom to be me? Absolutely not! However, am I willing to allow a man to do those same things described? Absolutely!

I’m not the type of woman to check a man’s phone, pockets, e-mails, or any other personal property; that’s his business. It may sound shocking because women are known for snooping, but it’s true. My father once told me, If you were meant to find out something, then you will. You don’t need to go through a man’s personal property to find out what you already know. Those words have stuck with me, and my father has not been proven wrong yet.

It has also been my experience that when you don’t snoop and invade their privacy, the man tends to feel as though you don’t care. I had a female friend who was dating a guy who spent a lot of time hanging out with his family. He would call her almost every hour to update her on his actions. She told me that personally, she couldn’t care less about what he was doing, but he called often nonetheless. My thought is, if he’s without you, out enjoying himself, let him be. If he wants to go out and hang with his friends, let him. If he wants to spend hours on the telephone with his friends, let him. If he wants to have female friends, then so be it. It’s not that I lack emotion; it’s that I don’t have the time or energy to sit and think about what my man’s doing every second of the day, because I have my own life to live. A man is going to do whatever he wants