HIS BREAKUP

By Chris Finley

In His Break-Up:

Chris Finley explores the reasons behind how most guys behave after a breakup.

He looks into why a man behaves and the reasons behind a man's behavior when his girlfriend dumps him while trying to figure out what an ex-boyfriend's continued pursuit is trying to accomplish.

And what goes through a ma

• Language: English
• Publisher: Eugene Fitness
• Release date: Mar 22, 2024
• ISBN: 9798869270764

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HIS BREAKUP

How Your Ex Deals With the Break-up and Why an Ex Does What He Does When Dealing With It.

By Chris Finley

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You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world. But you do have some say in who hurts you.

John Green

When an emotional injury takes place, the body begins a process as natural as the healing of a physical wound. Let the process happen. Trust that nature will do the healing. Know that the pain will pass, and, when it passes, you will be stronger, happier, and more sensitive and aware.

Mel Colgrove

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: His Behavior Over the Breakup

Chapter 2: Why is He Having a Hard Time?

Chapter 3: How and Why He Tries to Fix the Relationship

Chapter 4: Why Your Ex Begs

Chapter 5: Is It Really Love?

Chapter 6: Why He Won't Move On

Chapter 7: You Ignore Him

Chapter 8: Him Being Nice by Trying to Get You Back

Chapter 9: You Still Care About Him

Chapter 10: Him Getting Over You / The Male Ego

Chapter 11: My Break-Ups

Chapter 12: Getting Over Her

Chapter 13: To the Men

Summary

Conclusion

References

Introduction

When a man goes through a breakup with a woman, society tends to brush it off as if it was the man's fault. It's considered normal. According to a study done by Michael Rosenfeld, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University, women are more likely to initiate a breakup than a man. Rosenfeld found that women initiated 69 percent of all divorces, compared to 31 percent for men. In contrast, there was not a statistically significant difference between the percentage of breakups initiated by unmarried women and men, regardless of whether they had been cohabitating with their partners.

But what isn't talked about much, because women are so caught up in their feelings in playing the victim in a breakup, is how the man feels when the woman he's been seeing decides to end the relationship. A woman’s feelings are often the first thing people think of after a breakup. It isn’t uncommon for friends and family members to coalesce around a woman and tend to her emotional needs. It is the way things are. Women tend to deal with the breakup in their own way regardless of the emotional impact the end of the relationship has on the man. Unfortunately, because society is teaching men how to be more in touch with their feelings and young men are being raised by single mothers, a lot of men are going through life not knowing how to handle the hurt of a relationship that didn’t work out.

I can say for myself, that during my first breakup I wasn't sure what to do, but only had a view of how my mother handled situations. So, I followed what my mother did when she was upset from dealing with a relationship, which was to react out of my emotions. When you are used to being nurtured by the only person who is parenting you, which is your mother, you come to believe all women are just like your mother. Most young men might not realize that the opposite sex has no remorse when it comes to their emotions as a man. And yet, there is still the expectation that you will handle the breakup like a man is supposed to. Because women are so smart when it comes to assessing their potential suitors, they can weed out, what I believe, is a high percentage of those men who have been raised by single mothers.

It is my belief from having several close friends who grew up with their dads in the household, that they are better equipped to handle a relationship breakup than single men who didn’t.

When it comes to breakups, we tend to think that women are devastated while men quickly move on. But a new study from researchers at Binghamton University and University College London reveals that breakups actually hit men harder than women. The study, which surveyed 5,705 people in 96 countries, found that women may feel more immediate heartbreak at the end of a relationship, but men experience greater emotional trauma over time. Many male respondents seemed to have never gotten over certain breakups, even decades later. These different ways in dealing with a breakup can lead to a lot of confusion. Women often