Why: A Guideline for Relationships (Ways of Women/Minds of Men)

By Johnnie Lee Behlin III

Whether its Valentines Day, your Anniversary, your birthday, or just a normal day, Why contains all of the answers to provide you with the knowledge you need in order to make your commitment successful. Are you tired of the same routine in your relationship? This year, how will you change things for the better? How can you ignite the flames within your relationship?
Its not as hard as it may seem. With the proper guidance of Why, you will have all the ingredients that are needed for a successful relationship; all you have to do now is Stir the spontaneity in the relationship. This book will change your view and outlooks of your Relationship. Get ready for the book that will change your life! With tips, scenarios, and examples on the right things to do, you cant go wrong! Why, Ask why. Continue reading...

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 21, 2009
• ISBN: 9781441576798

Johnnie Lee Behlin III

Johnnie Lee Behlin III is a resident of Columbia, South Carolina. He was born in Brunson, South Carolina. He Graduated from Wade Hampton High School. After receiving his AS in Criminal Law from Denmark College located in Denmark, South Carolina, he continued his degree in both South Carolina State University located in Orangeburg, South Carolina and South University College located in Columbia, South Carolina. Behlin has previously worked his Career field as a Correctional Officer, Police Officer, and now currently works as a Qualified, Well-Trained Statewide Nuclear Defense Officer in affiliation with SCE&G\SCANA Company located in the State of South Carolina, which includes (FOF) Force on Force. He studies now to become a Cyber Crime Computer Fraudulent Investigator. Behlin is also A Registered Music Entertainer with the company BMI; Located in New York, NY. He enjoys making a variety of music videos. He has been featured in many concerts/shows of several Artists. Behlin has made two appearances on the WSAV news of Savannah, Georgia, and is constantly ongoing with his Music Career as well. He has photographic pictures located in the HOTSPOT Magazines, along with other information located in The Weekly Newspaper of Hampton, Allendale Counties, and many others. His music currently airs on the following stations: 97.9FM, 93.5FM, and others. His Music and other work is currently copyrighted by the Library of Congress located in Washington DC. In the past, due to Behlin’s Entertainment, he had been recognized by Joe Wilson, Congressman of South Carolina whose office is within the Charleston, South Carolina, area. Letters were forwarded to him, commending him for doing an outstanding job, which influenced him to strive for the TOP in order to achieve his Goals. Joe Wilson noticed Behlin’s picture in the Hampton County Newspaper due to an Entertainment Tour at that time, and currently follows his Status. Behlin is also a member of United Love Christian Church of Fairfax, South Carolina, along with his Loving Church Family. The Author always puts GOD first; which enables him to have the outcome of A Happiness/Success Life! The author also has plans of creating a movie taken from the book itself.

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CONTENTS

PREFACE

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER 1

CHAPTER 2

CHAPTER 3

CHAPTER 4

CHAPTER 5

CHAPTER 6

CHAPTER 7

CHAPTER 8

CHAPTER 9

CHAPTER 10

CHAPTER 11

CHAPTER 12

CHAPTER 13

CHAPTER 14

ACCOMPLISHMENTS

PREFACE

WHY IS DEFINED as for what reason or that of. Why can also be used in the form of an adjective or pronoun as defined by Webster’s Dictionary . However, my question is not in Why as a random act, but rather the Why in relationships. It is this Why that has inspired me to take a closer look at my thoughts and my experiences.

This book is dedicated to the women who helped me to prepare for the woman of my dreams. Thank you because now I am prepared for the best gift that could ever happen to a man: Destiny. As a man, when you have met a woman who truly cares about you and loves you with her deepest sincerity it is truly amazing! Why is an extraordinary book that explains the trials, challenges, and the joys of Love.

Why is it that we men seek for lust when we have all we need right in front of our eyes? Women will never understand the manner of a man’s actions relating to this question. Men, ask yourself a question. What makes a man say to himself that today is the day that I will be unfaithful to my wife or girlfriend? Humans have unique, but complex minds that can sometimes cause us to make irrational decisions. Therefore, the decision-making process of a man and woman is very different, especially on the topic of relationships. If a man is a habitual cheater or afraid of commitment then no woman will ever be good enough for him. A woman could never compensate for a man’s insecurities. No matter how much she may love him or try to keep him happy. His actions are the very essence of defeat and stagnation caused in the relationship.

One stereotype about men is that they are all dogs. This label needs to be reformed. Instead of generalizing all men as dogs, we need to think of all men as having the capability of having doggie habits, but every man will not react to these habits. Every man is an individual. As beings that are capable of showing feelings and emotions, we need to keep an open mind that we decide our own fate; and if we truly care about someone we will try our best to maintain a level of respect, honesty, and trust. Most men realize this, and that’s why they model most of their relationships by it. Once men have sowed their wild oats, we will allow ourselves to become serious about one person and let down our defensive barriers.

A preacher once said to me that Love covers a multitude of sins. What women need to understand is that when you have accepted a man despite his flaws and mysterious ways, you have devoted yourself entirely to him. The instant you begin to have second thoughts about the relationship, ladies, you need to remember that you have two choices. You can choose to stay with this love or leave. However, if you are truly in love with this person and you decide to stay, remember that you will accept them for better or worse. If anyone is unhappy in the relationship, don’t torture yourself and try to make it work. Simply walk away.

Why should you make one decision after another whether or not you love this person? Well, in most cases your mate should want to make the right decision because it tends to play a major part in what lies ahead in the future. Until, one understands this in a relationship, they will always manage to run into difficult barricades that will cause problems in the relationship.

As you begin to read Why, pay attention to some of the scenarios in this book and mentally place yourself inside the subjects at hand. There will probably be some things that you would have done differently. If that’s the case, then feel free to do so. Elaborate, concentrate, and meditate on how you can be a more understanding mate and realize how your actions can cause certain responses or reactions in the relationship.

As you read along, you will get a taste of Why and what it is composed of. The primary goal of this text is to act as a guideline for a healthy, productive relationship. It also helps parties in the relationship to end in good terms versus bad ones. We all know that it’s not a great thing to burn a bridge that has been standing strong for years. This is a small world in which we live in, and there is no telling when we will need someone to lean on when the odds are against us. With no further ado, I introduce you all to Why in which questions and answers to some of our thoughts, which we seek for guidance from the beginning stages of our relationship or as it may relate to us on an individual basis.

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INTRODUCTION

IT’S AMAZING HOW a three-letter word may cause a major impact in your relationship!

Whether it’s Valentine’s Day, your Anniversary, your Birthday, or just a normal day, Why contains all of the answers to provide you with the knowledge you need in order to make your commitment successful. Are you tired of the same routine in your relationship? This year, how will you change things for the better? How can you ignite the flames in your relationship?

It’s not as hard as it may seem. With the proper guidance of Why, you will have all the ingredients that are needed for a successful relationship; all you have to do now is stir the spontaneity in the relationship. This book will change your view and outlooks of your relationship. Therefore, get ready for the book that will change your life! With Tips, Scenarios, and Examples on the right things to do, you can’t go wrong! Why, Ask Why? Continue Reading . . . .

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CHAPTER 1

Benefits of Knowing Your Mate

LET’S BE REALISTIC. You will never know your woman 100 percent . It’s a great possibility that you may know 90 percent of what might be the aspects of certain situations. One thing is for certain, Women are a lot different from Men! While men fall in love with their cars, games, and other material items, a woman can only love one person or thing at a time. They cherish the world around them, an extreme that men could never imagine even if they desired to.

Most women focus and socialize with their girlfriends on a daily basis. They talk about how much they love and care for their significant other. While, on the other hand, men dwell on just the opposite. There are things you must be aware of. First, you must pay close attention and discover what kind of woman you are involved with. Here’s the method: visualize and concentrate on her every move. A woman’s body language tells a lot. Although women may have similar behavior, no woman is the same as the other. A man will be able to determine the differences of his woman when comparing her to another. Choosy Lovers is what they are called.

Men always pick up on subtle hints. Hints can also be defined as clues – clues that are equivalent to finding out what could possibly be on her mind. Women naturally have high spirits, meaning they will always be excited when it comes to thrills and surprises. This knowledge determines the love, depth, and strength of the relationship. Men, don’t you know that most women love to be surprised? It’s in their nature. When a man makes a woman feel surprised, it mentally takes her to another level.

It can be uplifting to a man when he has successfully surprised his woman. The smile on her face is worth more than words. The little surprises help to keep the relationship spontaneous. When happiness exists in the relationship, both of you are fulfilled, and everyone feels loved. Whenever the opportunity presents itself to be spontaneous, Act on It! It may be these times that add to the growth of your relationship. Just like a plant needs water, a relationship needs spontaneity

Men, are you following me? This is one way you can satisfy your mate. For those of you whose minds are twisted or lost, let me bless you with an example.

SCENARIO

It’s your woman’s birthday, and you have decided to take her to an elegant restaurant. Great! While sitting at the table, place your order. When the waitress leaves the table, engage in a normal conversation with your mate. Explain to her how much this particular day means to you as well as it does to her. Continue communicating with her until the waitress has returned to the table with your order. After expressing your feelings toward her, quickly change the subject of the conversation. Ask your mate if she would like to go to the restroom before eating. In most cases she will do so, because she may want to check her makeup or hair.

Now, it’s your turn. When your mate returns to the table and she sits down, excuse yourself and head in the direction of the restroom. Make a quick detour and go outside to your car where you have a dozen fresh pink roses. This is just the beginning.

Casually bring the roses into the restaurant and quickly find the waitress. Give the roses to the waitress, explaining to her that you would appreciate it if she would deliver them to your table. Hopefully, this action will surprise and please your mate. Now sit down and let the magic be presented.

When you return to the table, engage your mate in a deep conversation, maybe about future events of the relationship. Your mate should be very comfortable at this time. Remember, never become a suspect, and don’t give the surprise away. Now get ready to float her boat!

When the waitress brings the roses to the table, immediately look at your mate’s facial expression. She will be so overwhelmed at that moment. Who knows, you might even see a tear of joy falling from her eyes. Caution! If she sheds a tear, hold on because you are in for smooth sailing. This could be the ride that seals your destiny with this person. Even if you make a mistake somehow, she will easily forgive you, but try not to test your luck with too many mistakes. Excluding mistakes, you should maintain this path directly as possible. If this experience is successful, then you and your mate will have a memorable experience to look back on. This is one of my best scenarios, and it’s definitely a benefit knowing and realizing your lady’s reactions in certain situations. After performing this scenario, you should have a feel for how your woman reacts to some things. Now ask yourself a serious question. Can you handle this woman’s