The Couple's Happiness Guide. Save your couple, save your marriage by using the secrets from your brain!

By Thomas Trautmann

70% of relationships end in failure. The high breakup rate in couples has been attributed to many factors such as stresses, finances and work. 

Dr. Thomas Trautmann's new book, "The Couple's Happiness Guide", examines the differences between the brains of men and women and explains just why relationships fail, and how you can save your marriage, save your couple.

Trautmann wrote "The Couple's Happiness Guide after experiencing relationship difficulties with his wife. The couple found that traditional therapies such as marriage counseling did not improve their relationship. Looking for answers, Trautmann used his own professional experience in persuasion and brain science to study relationships. He also delved into neuro scientific research to find answers to why relationships are so complex.

Thomas Trautmann has had an extensive career in various fields. After gaining a Computer Engineering degree, Trautmann worked in Artificial Neural Networks, a field he wrote his Ph.D. Thesis in. It later led him to work for the first NeuroMarketing agency, SalesBrain. Certified in NeuroMarketing, Trautmann has taken his knowledge of the brain and applied it to relationships. The result of his research is "The Couple's Happiness Guide".

Trautmann stresses that the male and female brain are not wired the same. The difference in each sex's brain results in complications in relationships. Trautmann's research and writing on the subject has made the information simple for readers to digest. 

Now, couples can find out why they have relationship problems that traditional methods are unable to fix. Rather than blaming one side, "The Couple's Happiness Guide" explains just why problems occur and remain, and how to save your marriage, save your couple.

The book is not only filled with research, but it contains simple tips and tricks. These give readers ideas on how they can save their relationships. Readers can then work toward making their relationship part of the 30 percent that succeed. 

Questions to the Author:

- Q: For whom did you write "The Couple's Happiness Guide"?
- A: I wrote" The Couple's Happiness Guide" to help women and men understand each other much better, getting them to smile again," and save their relationship, save their marriage, save their couple. "Happy couples will help to educate happy children who will build a better world."

- Q: Why is the content of the book unique?
- A: The traditional ways to save a relationship, to save a marriage, haven't proven their efficiency. Nowadays the breakup rate is in the 70% range for all existing couples! Therapies, lawyers, relationship theories don't work! It was highly time to find something new, notative and easy to use for all men and women. Thanks to the latest learning from brain science the differences between the male and female brains are better understood. It was then a matter of trial and error to create simple tips and tricks anyone can use.

-Q: How long does it take to save my marriage?
- A: How fast can you read? The book is 110 pages long, and each tip and trick presented and explained can be implemented in a couple hours. And some practice.

- Q: What type of differences are there?
- A: In a couple most misunderstandings come from the fact that tiny chemical reactions, wiring make the male and female brain run differently. Women like to share, men like to be quiet. Women are emotional, men are driven. There are so many differences it would take a book ... Hey there is one now! :-)
 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thomas Trautmann
• Release date: Aug 29, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386003335

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Table of contents

Disclaimer 

Introduction 

Why You Should Read This Guide 

Should You Read This Book? 

When Neuroscience Saves the Genders 

Singles 

Couples 

Homosexuals 

Should You Keep Reading? 

The Brain  

It Had To Start Somewhere 

Who is the Most Intelligent? 

Evolution is Good For You 

Are You That Different? 

Let’s Summarise  

At Work ... is it Sexism? 

Appearance-Based Prejudice ...  

Cultural impact 

Is Love a Drug? 

A Shot of Fresh Love 

A Twist of Stress 

A Blow of Trust 

A Pinch of Pleasure 

Emotions 

Are You Ready For a Change? 

Sex 

Tips and Tricks 

For All of You 

Don’t Stay Alone 

Language 

Visual Contact 

Get Closer! 

Don’t Make Decisions When Aroused 

No, You Don’t Really Decide Who You Are 

Think Before Acting 

Control Your Emotions 

Your Love Story Over Time 

How to Drive a Decision 

Be Tangible! 

Understanding Women 

Looking at Another Woman 

I Can’t Listen to Loud Music When She is Close By 

She Always Exaggerates 

At Least My Friends Listen to Me! 

Talk to Me, Touch Me! 

She Doesn’t Like to Have Sex 

She Knows Everything! 

She and Her Empathy 

Why Does She Say What She Does Aloud? 

Why Does She Tell Everything to Strangers? 

She Overprotects the Kids 

Monthly Bad Mood 

Here Comes a New Argument! 

That Old Story Again 

Make Her Laugh 

She’s Always Worried 

She Can’t Read a Map 

You Hate Shopping! 

Understanding Men 

He Stares at Other Women All the Time 

What About My Feelings? 

Listening or Solving? 

He Has to Be Deaf to Listen to Music That Loud! 

No Need to Talk 

Sex, Sex, and Sex! He Only Thinks About Sex! 

Can’t Get Him to Talk When Making Love! 

He Always Buys Me Sexy Garments! 

What is it with His Concentration? 

He Won’t Ask for Directions 

He Can’t Find Objects 

He Will Hurt the Kids 

He’s Always Aggressive 

Why Does He Get So Silent? 

He Thinks I’m His Mom 

He’s Still Watching Porn 

He Doesn’t Like the Way I Look Anymore  

I Want Him to Open Himself Up to Me! 

I Get the Feeling He’s Lying to Me 

How Should I Dress When I Go Out? 

He’s Driving Aggressively 

He Hates Shopping with Me! 

Dating and Social Networks 

For the Women 

Your Photo/Appearance 

Your Intro Text and Your Communication 

For the Men 

Your Photo/Appearance 

Your Intro Text and Your Communication 

Fidelity 

Take Action! 

Bibliography 

Disclaimer

All contents provided are copyright © Happy Brains and Dr. Thomas Trautmann. The information contained in this book, and its several complementary guides and media, is meant to serve as a comprehensive collection of time-tested and proven strategies that the authors of this eBook have applied to substantially increase the quality of their relationships. Summaries, strategies, tips, and tricks are only recommendations by the authors, and reading this eBook does not guarantee that one’s results will exactly mirror our own. The authors of Neuro Couple and any related media and content have made all reasonable efforts to provide current and accurate information for the readers of this eBook. The authors will not be held liable for any unintentional errors or omissions that may be found.

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Introduction

First of all, let me thank you for your trust and for having invested your time and money so that I can help you attain positive results in your intimate relationships. You have bought this eBook not only to learn how to survive your relationships but also how to enjoy them. As you know, empirical methods aren’t working for you, or you wouldn’t be reading this guide. Here, you’ll learn how to apply in your daily life the tips and tricks that your brain is hiding from you.

You are going to dive inside the science that drives your relationships and you‘ll discover how much our species’ evolution has a direct impact on your intimate relationships. You will learn the main differences between the male and female brains, what these differences imply in your relationship, and how to use this knowledge to your advantage.

I would also like to excuse myself for my special English style. Not being a native English speaker, I will use a mixture of English vocabulary, French sentence structure, and German straight-to-the-point writing style.

You may or may not have heard about me. My name is Thomas Trautmann. I am living in the south of France with my wife and our three kids. Like most of you, I’ve had more than one love story and intimate relationship. I got married twice (I have 5

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kids altogether), I’ve been divorced once, I’ve experienced break-ups, cheating, and have been wondering for a long time if I was couple-challenged or if there is a simple way to have a happy and lasting intimate relationship.

Just like you, I have wasted money on therapies that never worked and have read many books about couples and how to succeed in relationships. Of course, I didn’t implement all the ideas, theories, and concepts that I learned, mainly because none were tangible or explained in a way that I could relate to.

Being married to a woman I love, with whom I have 3 marvellous kids, I definitely don’t want to see all this disappear because of some misunderstandings.

Yes, we do have arguments together. I like to say that my wife and I are the perfect female and male prototypes, each of us having the reactions, behaviours, and thinking processes that belong to each gender. Being such perfect samples, we experience the traditional couple fights that definitely look stupid once the tension is over.

During the past years, I noticed that we always repeat the same behaviours, inducing the same results. I am not a psychologist, nor a therapist, but a persuasion science expert – this is called NeuroMarketing in the business world. As such, I have noticed that some behavioural and thinking processes are common to both genders, like the decision-making process. On the other hand, and this is where your adventure starts, many other processes are deeply connected to your gender. If you know what happens inside your partner’s head, you can adapt your behaviour and thinking in order to get what you want : a happy relationship.

I have spent the last years researching and developing Neuro Couple to make sure my wife and I would enjoy a great relationship - we still have some bumps in the road - but also to have the tools to properly handle misunderstandings and tension without killing our love.

I spent many years studying and modelling neural networks on computers, and these officeArt object years of work experience with helping my clients keep smiling became useful in my personal life as well.

As I like seeing people smile, I’d like, now, to share this knowledge and expertise with you.

You may not have years available, nor the same passion for science and scientific readings, and I absolutely get it. If you wanted to acquire that knowledge and understand what goes on inside your head, and impacts your relationships, you would need to read books on neurosciences, behavioural biology, anthropology, evolutionary psychology, sociobiology, humanity’s evolution, and much more. Reading would only be the first step, as after that, you would need to compile that knowledge and make it usable in your daily life.

Don’t worry! I did all the heavy lifting for you.

Up to now, if you wanted to succeed or just move forward in your relationship, you had a few options available: couples therapy, reading relationship psychology books, or using various empirical existing methods - none having any clear and precise basis.

All these solutions and techniques require a lot of your time, or that you should open your personal life