Date Him or Dump Him?
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Answer the questions and follow the pages to find out:
• How much do you two have to talk about?
• Not much. Turn to page 115.
• Anything and everything. Turn to page 22.
• We don’t really talk at all; we’re too busy making out. Turn to page 25.
With simple, straightforward advice, Date Him or Dump Him? will tell it like it is!
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Date Him or Dump Him? - Melissa Heckscher
Copyright © 2005 by Quirk Productions, Inc.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from the publisher.
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Number: 2004114531
ISBN 978-1-59474-038-1
Ebook ISBN 978-1-68369-000-9
Ebook design adapted from printed book design by Andrea Stephany
Illustrated by Austin Saylor www.sprdlx.com
Edited by Erin Slonaker
Quirk Books
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Philadelphia, PA 19106
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Contents
Cover
Copyright
Title Page
Foreword
Introduction
How to Use this Book
Date Him or Dump Him?
About the Author
Foreword
Romance doesn’t have to be complicated.
But, strangely, it oftentimes gets that way. As a psychiatrist working in New York City’s trendy SoHo neighborhood, I see it way too much: He likes me, but…
He’s married, but…
He doesn’t treat me well, but…
In Manhattan, sometimes even not dating gets complicated. The comments I hear are usually along the lines of, It’s so hard to meet someone
or Everyone always seems so busy.
Really, though, it’s simple: You meet someone; you decide if you like him. (Note: The question should always be Do I like him,
not Does he like me?
) But it doesn’t usually work that way. Women cling to the wrong guys all the time; men brush off the right girls all the time. Dating has become a game with no concrete set of rules. But there are a set of user-friendly principles that can be applied to dating and relationships. They are as follows:
Don’t be afraid of change. Life can be quite difficult at times, and often we are forced to either adapt and change or stay trapped. Have you ever noticed how many people choose to stay trapped? Make a conscious choice to end this cycle.
Take it slow. Whatever happened to foreplay? To meeting someone and having an extraordinary conversation, hoping that it would last? To becoming giddy with anticipation? Most people, in my opinion, move way too fast. A date becomes a relationship before its time, before individuals have time to be themselves and let others see them for who they truly are. Dating should be a long, hopefully pleasurable, interview for the job of partner,
and it takes a lot of questions and answers to fully understand what the job entails. Take the time to find out everything before settling on anyone. Ask a lot of questions. Be candid. There’s no need to rush to the comfortable
stages of a relationship. Enjoy the beginning; it can be exhilarating.
Have fun. If you’re in a relationship and you’re not having fun together, you probably should not be a couple.
Don’t pretend. A common mistake many women make is acting how they think a man wants them to act. Bad move. All that pretending eventually becomes tiring, and then the real person comes out. If you want someone to like you, he has to like you, not the person you’re pretending to be. I say if you want to act, do it on stage. If you try to present yourself as perfect and always agreeable, you’re just creating a fantasy.
Don’t be afraid to disagree. Roadblocks along the way are common. Watch out for comments such as, We never argue.
You should argue sometimes, at least a little bit. Recognize that roadblocks are useful; they provide a time out
during which we can collect our thoughts and refuel. Try to work through these obstacles and understand the significance of the event itself. While every event doesn’t have to be a disaster, it shouldn’t be ignored either. What defines a healthy relationship is how the two of you work through your inherent differences.
Work on yourself. Relationships require work. A loving relationship can be fulfilling, but if it becomes all-consuming it can be toxic. Don’t be defined by your relationship. Retain your individuality, continue to work on your goals, and make time for yourself outside the relationship. This allows a healthy perspective to flourish, and it makes for more interesting conversation. The best thing about relationships is that they give us the opportunity to learn about ourselves. They help us grow, mature, and evolve into more interesting individuals. When one person stops contributing, things can get really dull.
Finally, one last word of advice: Don’t take it all so seriously. Things change. Let your life be a journey. Welcome new experiences, and try not to have expectations. Don’t be defined by old-fashioned ideals: People can have more than one true love.
Keep all of this in mind as you assess the status of your current relationship in the following pages. Remember: All relationships are different—we are the ones that change, hopefully for the better. The full package—love, lust, trust, companionship, responsibility—is attainable, and it does exist.
Anthony Termine, M.D.
New York, New York
Introduction
Date Him or Dump Him? is the product of a breakup. Or, to be fair, a series of breakups.
The latest guy’s story? He hadn’t gotten over his ex-girlfriend. The guy before him was too young. The one before that, too weird. Somewhere along the