What Men Really Want: An Online Dating Guide for Women

By Jonathon Jones

A culmination of personal research covering 10 years in the online dating world as well as hundreds of discussions with happily married couples both young and old, this comprehensive guide is meant to provide valuable information to women looking for real love, and gives a multitude of suggestions on how to hold onto it when they have it. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jonathon Jones
• Release date: Apr 1, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386845676

Jonathon Jones

Born and raised in a small town in central Illinois, Jonathon Jones has spent most of his life involved in academic pursuits.   He received a Bachelor's degree in Art History at the University of South Florida. In addition, he also received a Master's degree in Library Science at that same University. He is also a member of the Society for Collegiate Scholars as well as the Phi Kappa Phi Honor Society. Some of his many research projects have involved nutrition, philosophy, art, antiques, history, and human relations. His personal interests are movies, trivia games, visiting historic sites, and museums. For many years of his life he has been an avid researcher and collector of antiques and collectibles, and since 2000 has been a seller as well, primarily via online auction sites such as Ebay. He has also collaborated with and sent textual and visual submissions (Using his alternate name--Jonathon Jones is a pen name) to Ted Hake, writer of the Hake's Character Collectibles Guides, and some of his former collection pieces have been pictured within the pages of those books. His most recent dream is to write informative manuals as well as short stories via the E-book format, and with the love and support of his family and friends, he hopes this dream will become a reality. He currently resides in Florida near his family, whom he would like to thank wholeheartedly for giving him the hope and inspiration that he needs to make all of his dreams come true.

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What Men Really Want: An Online Dating Guide for Women

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Jonathon Jones

Copyright 2016 by Jonathon Jones

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Table of Contents

What Men Really Want: An Online Dating Guide for Women

Introduction

A Good Guy’s Biology

Stability

Your Interests

Online Photos

Presentation Is Everything

Be Assertive, But Not Aggressive

Don’t be Scared

Dating in Real Life

Setting the Stage: Knowing Your Type

What To Wear

Relaxing Your Mind

Where To Meet Someone

How To Approach Someone

What To Talk About

Using Body Language

Getting Their Phone Number Or Email Address

Closing The Conversation

The Phone Call

Planning The First Date

What To Wear II

The First Date and Beyond: What To Talk About II

Things To Look Out For

If It Goes Well...Or If It Doesn't

The End Of The Night: A First Kiss?

Common Courtesy

The Follow-up Call

Planning The Second Date

In-Between Dates

Are They Farting Rainbows?

The Chicken Or The Egg?

Intimacy

Exclusivity

Predators

Maintaining the Bond

50 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship: #s 1-10

50 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship: #s 11-20

50 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship: #s 21-30

50 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship: #s 31-40

50 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship: #s 41-50

How to Get Someone to Marry You

Conclusion

Introduction

In the 21st century, it is fairly obvious that dating isn’t what it used to be.  As the years pass, people seem to be trained in ways that focus less on real-life human interaction, emotional openness, and conveying a sense of inner peace.  Instead, they focus more on distant technological communication, always being emotionally guarded, and acting out in certain ways that make it obvious that they are not at peace with themselves.  As with everything, we seem to have lost our sense of balance, especially when it concerns one another.

If you have guessed that this book isn’t just about getting you a date, you’re right.  It’s also not just about getting the right kinds of men walking your direction.  Partially, yes, but not entirely.  What I hope more than anything that people get from this manual is that they are finally able to bring that much needed balance back into their lives where it truly belongs.  Only then will a person be able to attract and keep what they truly need.

However, it doesn’t stop there.  Gaining the skills you need to truly convey a sense of balance and, in turn, start dating in a more successful way, isn’t the end of your journey.  Whether starting out online or in real life, in no way, shape or form should the work ever stop once you have someone.  To further strengthen your bond as well as getting them to fall head over heels in love with you to the point where they might even want marriage, certain measures need to be implemented that can solidify that bond.

If you don’t lay the foundation of what you have on a balanced and even ground, it doesn’t matter how much you two become enamored with one another.  Because without balance, and thinking as a potential couple and how each and every action and word can affect the other, nothing else you can say or do will make it a happy or even lasting relationship.  The foundation will crumble when a person doesn’t start things off right.

Of course, this advice isn’t really needed until the end of the book, now is it?  In the beginning, quite frankly, it doesn’t get any simpler that one simple word.  Attraction.  It’s all about attraction, but I’m actually not talking about looks.  It’s funny in a way, because many women might instantly think that’s all a guy cares about.  Perhaps with men who just want to get laid, that may be true, but to real, emotionally ready men, that is most certainly not the case.  Looks may get us to walk across that room or hit the send key to talk to you to begin with, but for the men who are looking for something real, looks are most certainly not what will keep us talking to you and stick around for the long haul.

This is why your perception needs to be altered a bit.  Believe me, I wholeheartedly wish with all of my heart that I could say all women were incredibly skilled at dating.  However, after having been immersed in the online dating circuit for a decade now, it has come to my attention that the majority of women do not seem to understand what it takes to attract a guy who is looking for a long-term commitment.

In addition, they often times do not understand that what they are presenting to the online world and the real one will inevitably make them end up with someone who is not going to stick around, is not worthy of them, or overall just not compatible in any way whatsoever.

It is my sincerest wish that this information will hopefully help women to not only develop the skills necessary to find and keep a good guy out of the myriad number of male daters, but also to help spread the word to other women what they may be doing wrong and need to correct.  It’s time to stop all of the false information that is being distributed, and it’s definitely time that we wash away our societal programming and truly cut to the chase.

A Good Guy’s Biology

Before I get to the true ins and outs of the online dating world, which is where our journey will begin, what women first need to understand is how men work.  It’s simple, really.  Men exist who believe in one of the following.  They either believe a man and a woman were meant to be monogamous, or they believe in spreading their seed far and wide.  Advocates for monogamy are usually men who have found that the predictability, stability, and safety that long-term commitments offer gives them a sense of belonging and a peaceful state of mind.  Overall, in my opinion, these sorts of commitments are more suited to men who are more in touch with their emotions, aka their sensitive side.

Men who want to spread their seed far and wide, unfortunately, from all of the myriad number of women in relationships I have ever talked with, may be fun to play with because they’re usually more virile, manly, and have alpha male qualities, but they  usually make lousy relationship partners because their emotions have simply not evolved.  In truth, biologically speaking, these men often present a greater draw for women because of their higher level of confidence and often times masculine qualities, which offer a multi-thousand year Darwinist need to procreate with a stronger survivalist.

However, we no longer live in a physically tough world where rules aren’t apparent and it’s okay for a man to play sex roulette.  Instead, we now live in a world where intelligence and emotions are what will keep two people together, and intelligence and stability is what will allow them to survive.  Therefore, mating with a man who will be fun to mate with but doesn’t believe in monogamy or have the intellectual or emotional means to make a relationship work will not help you out one iota.

At this point many women might be thinking, okay, it seems easy enough.  You may think all you have to do is avoid the alphas and go after the sweeter, more harmless men who will be good for you.  It’s not that easy, and I’ll tell you why.

What faithful, monogamous, good men are lacking in the virility department they often compensate for in the intelligence department.  What this means is that these guys are intelligent enough, unlike the others, to discern which of you will make a good long-term mate, and which of you will not.  The un-evolved ones simply don’t care because they have no reason to, but the evolved ones usually do care.  This is why you need to present yourself in the best light.

Stability

Quite frankly, how you present yourself all boils down to one simple thing.  Stability.  No matter how much we talk about equal rights or skewing the lines between masculinity and femininity, one thing exists that does not change.  The thousands and thousands of years of emotional evolution it took to get some men to want and see a great need for monogamy came about for a reason.

To these men, it simply makes sense.  When a man no longer has to wonder