THIS ONE IS FOR THE LADIES

By Derrick Williams

PERSONAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Being that this book is about women, there is absolutely no way I could have put it together if it wasn't for the women that have crossed my path. During my years of dealing with various women, I have to admit that I have had more than a little, whether it was laughing with them, going out to dinner, to a movie, to the park, to the beach, shopping, joyriding, playing cards or having sex. I enjoyed every precious moment with them and I will cherish those moments as long as my brain continues to work.

Thank you so dearly for putting up with me. On the flip side of this coin, there are women I have dealt with that I pissed off or hurt during my years of immaturity. If there was a way I could go back in time and undo the pain and frustration I caused you, I wouldn't hesitate to do so because I know you ladies thought more of me back then. I know you all didn't forgive me back then, but I surely hope you do now.

Whether it was good times or bad times, I shared with you wonderful women, each one of you played a significant role in the man I am today and for that wonderful experience I am humbly grateful, deeply honored and sincerely appreciative to have been blessed to have had our journeys connect.

I wrote this book to start a dialogue, create awareness and get women to realize and believe that they are worth way more than they can imagine in life. I want women to know that they do not have to settle for any man just for the sake of convenience, security or whatever. There will always be a gentleman available; who is not only compatible with them, but one that will find them intriguing, interesting, intelligent and beautiful.

Sometimes it takes a little time to find a man that really honors women, but trust me - it's always worth the wait. I intend to reach millions of readers, mostly women. If I can get one woman to read my book and walk away feeling much better about her life and the direction she wants to go in terms of a relationship, then my mission will be complete.

Nothing that I have written in this book is intended to disrespect or offend any of my readers. I mention this because some of the language in this book may not agree with the readers.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Newman Springs Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Feb 7, 2024
• ISBN: 9798890614476

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Table of Contents

Title

Copyright

Prologue

Does He Love You for Who You Are?

Cheating Is Not a Mistake

Are You Really Being Sexually Fulfilled?

Marrying Is Not Marriage

Verbal and Physical Abuse Is a Dead End

Abortion Is Never Good

True Beauty in a Woman

No Trust, No Sound Foundation

Missing in Action Fathers

Drinking and Drugging Ain't Getting It

Spiritual Woman vs. Nonspiritual Man

Prison Relationships

Power of a Woman's Body

Patience Supersedes Impatience

Growing Old Together Is So Beautiful

Special Appendix Section on Ten of the Most Prevalent Reasons Why Most Men Cheat

Special Tribute to Fifty of the Greatest Women in the World

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THIS ONE IS FOR THE LADIES

Derrick Williams

Copyright © 2023 Derrick Williams

All rights reserved

First Edition

NEWMAN SPRINGS PUBLISHING

320 Broad Street

Red Bank, NJ 07701

First originally published by Newman Springs Publishing 2023

ISBN 979-8-89061-446-9 (Paperback)

ISBN 979-8-89061-447-6 (Digital)

Printed in the United States of America

This book is dedicated to a woman who has been through so much and too much, as a mother and as a wife. Mom, if I were to live to be a million years old, I could not say and do enough to thank you for the outstanding job you've done to define true motherhood.

Mom, more than anything, I want you to know that you will always be my guiding point and shining star and hero. If it wasn't for you, there is absolutely no way this book would have come to print. I love you immensely.

Prologue

Ladies and ladies! Before I introduce what type of book this is, I believe it is best that I introduce myself. My name is Derrick Williams. I was born in Bennettsville, South Carolina and raised in Brooklyn, New York. I am the oldest of six brothers. My parents separated in 1979 due to my father's physical abuse, drinking and gambling.

As a kid, coming up in the rough streets of Brooklyn, I had big dreams of swinging a baseball bat for my beloved New York Yankees. In 1979, that dream vanished as I hit the streets and ventured into a life of crime. My criminal career began with me shoplifting (boosting is what we called it back then) and ended up with me doing big heists.

During my years of living the fast life and being a true Scorpio, I was heavily attracted to the opposite sex. I don't say this to brag or boast, but I have to call it the way it happened for me. When it came to women, I've been blessed and cursed to deal with all types. I was blessed in a sense that I had the golden opportunity to deal with and understand a variety of women; cursed in a sense that at one point I didn't respect and value women the way I was mandated to do.

For years of my life, I've heard people say that everybody has a calling in life, but I couldn't seem to find mine until I came to the aid of a close friend of mine in the year 2000. After that, I realized that, hey, this just might be my calling to be an advocate on behalf of women—protect them and inspire them to be the best they can be. Every day across the planet, sadly there is a woman who is being disrespected, discriminated against, abused, raped, neglected, unappreciated, sexually harassed, and murdered at the mouths and hands of a man (someone who is supposed to do all he can to protect, value and honor women). This has got to stop immediately because not only are women the backbone of men, but they're also the mothers of civilization.

What I've written about in this book mainly comes from personal experience and tons of research. People say that experience is the best teacher and I have lots of experience in dealing with women. Some of what is written is raw, uncut, but all of it is real. This book covers a lot of issues that women experience with men, such as cheating, abortion, sex, trust, love, kids, abuse, marriage, etc. If you have been a victim of any kind of abuse, this book is for you. If you're not sure your man loves you for you, this book is for you. If you are not getting the passionate lovemaking you deserve, this book is for you. If you had been cheated on, this book is for you. If you have been deceived, this book is for you. If you had to deal with a drug addict or an alcoholic, this book is for you. If you had to deal with a man who is in prison, this book is for you, and if you want to know the ten most prevalent reasons why most men cheat, then this book is definitely for you.

While working on this masterpiece, people have asked me, why did I decide to write it and what am I hoping to get out of it? That is quite simple, but sometimes we hear people say things and say to ourselves, Hmm, that was deep. These words will stick with us for a long time and sometimes we might even use those words as a guiding point in our own lives.

When I was a kid there was an old guy by the name of Pete who used to run a funeral home. Every time I saw him, he would give me a quarter and he would always tell me that when I grow up, there are certain things I don't want to be in life. I asked him what and he would tell me, Old, broke, and stupid. Those words of his never left me and sometimes I find myself saying what he told me to younger people as if those are my words. I'm striving hard not to wind up old, broke, and stupid.

I wrote this book to start a dialogue, create awareness and get women to realize and believe that they are worth way more than they can imagine in life. I want women to know that they do not have to settle for any man just for the sake of convenience, security, or whatever because there is always a gentleman available who is not only compatible with them but one who will find them intriguing, interesting, and beautiful. Sometimes it takes a little time to find a man who really honors women, but trust me, it's always worth the wait. I intend to reach millions of readers, mostly women readers. If I can get one woman to read my book and walk away feeling much better about her life and the direction she wants to go in terms of relationships, then my mission will be complete.

Nothing that I have written in this book is intended to disrespect or offend any of my readers. I mentioned this because some of the languages in this book may not agree with all readers.

Have a great read!

Does He Love You for Who You Are?

So many women would like to believe that when it comes to a man loving them, they are loved for all the right reasons. However, sadly, they're not and by the time they realize their love for all the wrong reasons, so much damage has been done to their heart, mind, and soul, that it's virtually impossible for them to bounce back and find true happiness.

I can't think of one woman who I've come across in my lifetime who didn't want to be happy with a good man. It is not difficult for this to happen. All women have to do once a man starts singing that he loves her is to find out what it is about her that he loves. If it's not a quality that will last forever, then she needs to do one of two things:

Tell him to find something else about her to love that's meaningful.

Walk away before she ventures down a cold, dark, painful road where she will run into road bump after road bump.

Most men fall in love with what they see as opposed to what they know about a woman and everything that a man sees in a woman is not actually what it appears to be. We have all heard the saying, Love at first sight. Learning to love someone is a slow, wonderful process. It's so easy for a man to see a beautiful-looking woman walking down the street and instantly fall in love with what he sees, but the important part of this is that he needs to get past her physical beauty and find out if he can fall in love with her inner self.

Now as I just said, there are too many women being loved for all the wrong reasons and the sad part about this is that most of these women don't even know they're loved for the wrong reasons. For all of you women who don't know whether or not you're in love for the right or wrong reasons, I'll gladly explain the wrong reasons and why the wrong reasons don't last, and why the right reasons always last.

Physical beauty. As a man who highly respects women, I'll be the first to say there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman's physical features being a part of a man's desire to court her, but her physical attractiveness should not be a reason why he loves her. Nowadays, more and more women are sporting huge booties that are attracting booty-hungry men, particularly black women. Every time I turn on the television, browse through a magazine or walk down the street, there is one big butt after another and men are loving it. Some women are so possessed with having a monster backside until they're doing practically anything to get one, whether it's wearing butt pads or getting butt injections, and because of this, more and more men are chasing them, sleeping with them, and telling them they love them. They're in love with these women's backsides. Whether a woman has a pretty face, pretty feet, big boobs, big behind, etc., none of these physical attributes will be a reason a man loves her forever because physical beauty eventually fades.

If a man is in love with a woman because of her big juicy booty, she needs to ask herself what will happen through the years, once her butt isn't so big and juicy anymore and it loses its tempting attraction? More than likely, that same so-called loving man who fell in love with her outer beauty will fall right out of love with her because she's not as appealing to him as she once was.

I can't begin to say how many men I've met who used to be involved or married to a wonderful woman and when I asked him what happened, so many of them told me she doesn't look as good as used to look, or she doesn't have that hourglass figure she used to have.

In my personal opinion, a man should never stop loving a woman based on her outer appearance, and he should never begin loving a woman based on her outer appearance because there will definitely come a time when a woman's butt will not look so good anymore. Her eyes won't be so pretty anymore, her breasts won't be so firm anymore, and her face won't be so cute anymore. Once this happens, the man she is so in love with will fade away, right along with all of her outer beauty. So sad but so true.

Physical intimacy. A man's body doesn't have to be as sexually fulfilling to a woman, as opposed to a woman's body being sexually fulfilling to a man. This is mainly because it is so much easier for a man to become satisfied than it is for a woman. Whenever a man first gets with a woman, he is always curious about her sexual powers. I cannot recall how many times I've heard men say among each other that she has some good pussy, or he's pussy whipped. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being sexually pleased with his woman's performance in bed. In fact, I think it's great that a woman has what it takes to overly satisfy her man between the sheets, but whether or not a woman has great sex should not be the reason her man loves her. Let us not misconstrue falling in love with loving someone because they both have very different meanings. A woman has no control over how her body changes throughout the years, just as her pretty eyes, pretty face, and nice figure will lose its natural beauty someday, so will the fantastic walls of her vagina. Whether it's menopause or old age, there will come a time in a woman's life where her lovemaking won't please her man as it once did. If she's involved or married to someone just because he believes their sex is out of sight, there's a good chance that he will really miss what used to be and go out and recapture that good feeling once again. It's called cheating!

A lot of women get a kick out of a man telling them that they got it going on between their legs. Many women will laugh and joke about it with close friends. Some women will even go as far as to bring about how good their stuff is. As it's been said for so long, all good things must come to an end. A lot of women are too blind to see the end. Because they are too caught up in the moment in time where their sex is so good until they can't envision an end in sight.

A lot of couples may not admit this to others or to themselves, but thousands of men and women are together because of the sex. For all women that have a man loving them for their flesh, keep in mind that the older you get the more your body changes, the more your sex drive decreases. Moreover, once this happens, you might not get what you used to get from your man in bed if he is still around.

Her money. I have nothing against women in today's time, with great careers and huge salaries, but I really miss the old days when most men were the breadwinners and women stayed home to care for the kids and maintain the home. There was something special about that era in the United States, but as we all know, nothing stays the same.

I personally believe because of this change, where more and more women are financially stable, it is yet another reason why no-good men hoodwink women into believing that they love them. Let me be perfectly clear on this issue, there's nothing wrong with a woman buying her man a gift or helping him out financially if he needs it, but there's no way a woman is supposed to constantly dish out gifts and shower her man with cash just to keep his fake love. I say fake because if a man is with a woman because she can fatten his pockets, he does not really love her.