Breaking Modern

By Nim Nam

A true masterpiece of the realities of Modern day dating and how you a man can be modernised, whic is to be fully adapted with the knowledge and skills to build the relationships which you truly desire  with women. The main pillars of Modern dating has the bluepill, redpill, black pill and Modern female psychology. ALl these are based on more than six years of research from personal experiences, evolutionary biology, insights from divorce lawyers and interviews with honest women.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Nim Nam
• Release date: Mar 27, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224118953

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Breaking Modern

A Men’s guide to winning in the mating and dating of today.

Table of Contents

Title Page

Breaking Modern

Chapter 0 : Introduction

SECTION I:

Chapter 1: Romance

Chapter 2: Knowing yourself

Chapter 3 : The Blue Pill

Chapter 4: The Red pill

Chapter 5 :The Black Pill

Chapter 6 : Looks Maxing and Social Presentation

Chapter 7: Social Status and Money

Chapter 8 : Female Psychology

Chapter 9: The right woman

Chapter 10: The art the  conversation

SECTION II

Chapter 11: Identifying attraction

Chapter 12: Getting to know each other

Chapter 13 : Establishing the relationship

Chapter 14:  Proper Conduct in the normal relationship

Chapter 15: Cheating

Chapter 16: Breaking up

Chapter 17: Other types of relationships

Chapter 18: Becoming the Modern Man

All modern dating concepts in a nutshell.

Read this book and you will never need a guru to explain any of the basic stuff, you will be a master now capable of doing your own research in matters pertaining to dating.

The biggest mistake I have made in my dating career was to not to identify and appreciate women who were good for me.

Written by Nim Nam

Chapter 0 : Introduction

0.1 About the author

Hie there, I am Nimrod if you are a straight male looking for answers about modern day romance I can help you become an answer book yourself. To begin with, I was naïve too, I thought it was a simple matter of putting myself out there finding some woman and then become happy together. When I felt I was ready I tried it blindly end I ended up traumatized by the unexpected inexplicable behaviors of modern women. In 2015, that is when I met the first bizarre experience with modern women, my cousin sister who gave me the number of a girl on my college so I go to see her, there were other girls in her room. We started talking, her name was Shylet everything at first seemed fine but there was a weird look in her roommates eyes whenever they saw me and because I was blue pilled I thought nothing of it. I was the one to always come and her friends would always find an excuse to get me out of the room, excuses would range from private calls , discussion and their need to change clothes and I kept coming back. See back in the day I thought all I was doing was actually good, I was being resilient and noble and that made me believe that I was in the end going to be rewarded by a long-lasting, loving and happy relationship with Shylet. Little did I know that tension was building in her room, the bone of contention being my mere presence. I absolutely had no idea sometimes I’d be loud and jovial, whilst they would look at each other until one of her roommates broke the silence, Where did you get this guy, the look on her face made it all clear, her tonality deliberately intended to be offensive, Shylet feeling the pressure responds, Oh well he is just a guy who comes to collect movies that’s it, there was not an ounce of her soul defending me  the whole atmosphere was just evil, I just looked at the two in disbelief and I walked out. Shylet never texted me to say sorry or anything and I never looked back, see Shylet was a slender the kind which is a little unhealthy, she was a plane Jane an average looking woman, I expected more humility from her and also based on the effort I put, I expected to be treated more decently and It just hit me so hard that for a fortnight I could not talk to a woman but afterwards I met some good women and I had learned the hard way the importance of looks, the unfairness, and ruthlessness of the dating game is but over all I learned the importance of knowing the truth, no matter how ugly it is, and how loyal and empowering the truth is. Later on my cousin asked me what had happened with Shylet and I concealed the truth told her we had many differences and that’s when she informed me that she had been impregnated with some low life cobbler who made her have a dangerous abortion, who was just good looking but completely irresponsible. At hearing all this and making sense of what had happened to me, my hunger for knowledge about dating became insatiable and my journey of understanding romance, men and women started. I wanted to help just myself and before long I realized that other men could use the information that took me years of studying , talking to hundreds of women, men and analyzing a lot of cultures, consulting divorce attorneys to come up with and after being in a couple of different kinds of relationships myself. Any way, I live somewhere in the Western Hemisphere but I am from Africa, I move from place to place and I am an honest man, an honest man, who is trying to help you by teaching you what is out there and even more, I plan to teach you how to measure the heuristics that are relevant to your dating life and Its my goal to show you how to think effectively for yourself. I once read from the work of a philosopher, he always said , If you want to help yourself, tell them what they want to hear but if you want to help them, tell them the truth and yes I actually intend to help you.

0.2 About the book

In the modern era women are being taught feminism and most of modern feminism is not really about brining equality between men and women it is about demonizing men and conventional marriages as they are depicted to be oppressive. So as a result women have become more and more, promiscuous entitled and toxic, so on the dating market the supply for women who are relationship material and are willing to be in relationships with the average men has plummeted. However on the other end of the scale, men are still being socially programmed to believe that marriage is still important, life is about finding a woman and building your life around her and that is how as a man you realize fulfillment and happiness. At the end, we have men and women who both believe they can work for themselves for a living, what about fulfillment needs?, well for a woman it is now being ‘strong and independent’ ,for men it is about finding some woman, so on the dating market the demand for women is still high as many men are still looking for relationships so some men are doing whatever it  takes to secure a relationship and things are ending very badly for them. This is the reason why a lot of men are depressed and killing themselves over women who frankly do not give a damn about them. Look at the statistics, men do all the effort to establish the relationships and women are the ones who breakup or file for divorce sometimes for the most sinister reasons and when they do they are cheered and clapped for as encouragement by lots of people, so something clearly needs to be done to help men- this is where this book comes in. Breaking Modern is about breaking new grounds of dating which are the modern times. 

It is not the strongest of species that survives nor the most intelligent but the one most responsive to change- Charles Darwin 1809.

For men to get back up again they need to adapt to the new modern era so that they can make the best out of their lives. The Breaking Modern movement is designed just to accomplish that, it is a movement for men to be armed with reality, which inspires an ideological revolution and ensures a behavioral and attitude transformation when it comes to women. Men will have a new modus operandi on how to deal with modern women. They will make well informed and  calculated moves to give them the best odds with modern dating  and relationships as of : what woman deserves what?, who is who amongst men? , what is best for who?  And how to stay happy and satisfied whilst you are single. Once you have ‘Broken Modern’ you will become the Modern Man  and you will find the perfect answers to all these and do well in dating, one aspect of this book that makes it special is that it’s wholesome in respect of the information, unlike those YouTube dating videos that give a bit of information  at a time, in here you get the full information more-over, It’s academically sequentially written which means that the information is given in an order to allow you to grasp everything in a way that makes it usable; imagine if your calculus lecturer just came in with random topics every day, it would be very difficult for you to grasp the subject. Furthermore, this book teaches you to think effectively by engaging your brain through assignments that you are supposed to do. This is a no BS book and no, I have not used and editor to keep the magnitude of  honesty and transparency unadulterated. Honesty is about stating facts of what is actually happening on the ground as opposed to what is commonly said or believed transparency will be about explaining those facts to enable the reader to use them for their own benefit. In cooking it is not enough to have a recipe, you also have to understand the recipe to bring out a good dish, the same applies here, its not about having good information it is also about understanding the information. Ultimately there are things people want to hear and there are things people need to hear, I am here to deliver on the later and yes I may have less followers and less likes but It does not matter much as my goal is to help those who consume the content I make and I do believe that if you want to help people you tell them the truth. This book is written in text book format which means its highly conceptual, and the concepts are in such a way that you need to understand a chapter before you attempt the next one and you also need to do the assignments there to train your brain to bring the winner you are meant to be. Roughly it is going to take 5 to 7 months to fully learn the concepts in this book. When you get to the required state you will become the  Modern Man you will be able to fully understand women and should you have a query about something you do not want to ask advice you will want to go out there to get raw facts from the real world and you will be able to process it to get all the answers you need to fully understand dating particularly modern day dating. You will learn how to get and keep a romantic relationship for straight men.

0.3 Partitioning of the book

This book is written in two sections: Section 1 is about Primary dating knowledge which concerns what you need to know about yourself, women and dating in general. Section 2 is about establishing relationships and how to maintain them. Do not jump to section 2 it’s a wrong cut you need to understand section 1 first. The Modern Man need to be fully equipped with the right knowledge skills and attitudes.

SECTION I:

Primary Dating Knowledge

Chapter 1: Romance

1.1 Introduction

Romance is a form of interpersonal multilateralism usually between two individuals with the fundamental aspect of mutual sexual attraction between the individuals involved and a clearly communicated and mutually approved aspect of commitment to love one another. This is done for the purpose of enjoying the benefits of being together with the common goal of finding happiness in a portion of the couple’s lives.

1.2 Why Romance?

People indulge in romance to be happier together .To have better options of how to use their time and resources. There are so many things couples can do together they cannot possibly do on their own and these give some advantage. They can share their bodies sexually and emotionally i.e. hugging, kissing, sex. They can share memories, moments, personal resources ideas and having each other’s back. They can get married be each other’s world start a family and make a very positive difference to themselves, their children and their communities at large as they lead a prosperous and happy life together.

1.3 The Foundations of Good Romance

Romance is like a building, if the foundation is bad the building will collapse damaging the people inside it and costing time, money and energy that may never be recovered. Romance needs a good foundation this is because if you know the woman who is willing to let you in her life the right way, where you have a chance of finding real healthy love and you put your time and effort on her you will win. However if you put your time and energy on the wrong women, you will have a very miserable love life if any. Your story will be heart break after heart break, trauma after trauma and a sea of endless meaningless and unnecessary pain. Never try to cheat reality by trying to make a woman who does not like you be with you, never be resilient on a woman and never try to trick a woman into a relationship it will only work against you.

There is a predisposition of factors is what influence if a woman will be sexually attracted to you or not and it is eighty percent of what determines if she will be with you these are factors outside of your control like your height , social status , looks and background. The other twenty percent are the things you can control. They include how you treat her and talk to her your social presentation. So go to the woman whose predisposition of factors makes her want you and this is shown by giving you choosing signals or when you approach her she embraces your presence. If the predisposition of her factors choice do not like you , there is nothing you can do, sacrifice her and let her go. After seeing her predisposition of factors of choice that like you open up in a healthy way and make an effort to establish a mutually benevolent romantic relationship.

1.4 The reality of Romance, its limitations and risks

Romance is this perfect thing and love is always wonderful. Such that without it someone is nothing. Women are such amazing creatures such kind of thinking may feel good in your imaginations and will only cast you into a dark chasm of agony and pain if you base your actions on it. Those who follow this belief system of love and romance end up immersed in extreme toxicity of hate, depression or violence.  In romance there are no real laws that protect your feelings from being hurt, If your partner tries to kill you, you can report her and she can get arrested, however if she tells you that you are disgusting and you are traumatized you can’t do anything except leave. As a man it is your duty to understand the realities of romance and defend your interests as it is also a woman’s duty to guard her gates from being penetrated but the wrong men .It is also her duty to defend her own interests without crossing some boundaries.

The ugly truth about romance is that romance is a brutal dictatorship. Up to 80 % of what determines whether if she is going to like you is instantiated before she even knows about you, this has to do with her personality, experiences hopes and the environment you are in, the kind of friends she has. All that you can do is basically 20% of what can connect you to become together so if 80% is against you then you cannot have her. If she does not like you she doesn’t like youshe does not care how much you wanted her, she does not want you and it is that. You can not appeal to a court or anything the best you can do is to see a therapist to help you move on and forget about her. And also in romance we also attract women we do not want and they can be a pain in our lives and there is nothing we can do except reject them multiple times or get a peace order.

1.5 Primary knowledge of beatitudes

Before you expect someone to value you, value yourself by being a better version of  yourself . Before you expect someone else to accept you, first accept yourself. Before you expect someone to love you love yourself. Before you expect to make someone else’ life better, make your own better .Before you comfort someone else comfort yourself . Always be there for yourself first so as to create room for yourself to be better and then for someone else so that you can be together .Heal