The Woman’S Shield: (Secrets About Men Your Mother Never Knew …And Your Father Was Afraid to Tell You.)

By D.M. Keith

Secrets of men are finally exposed. These secrets have never been expressed for fear of societal retaliation and scorn. This riveting and controversial information leaves you empowered and on the path to lasting love. Women in successful long-lasting relationships unknowingly operate within these secrets.

It answers questions, "Why do men cheat?" and "How do I know if he really loves me?" The answers may surprise!

D.M Keith is a father of two daughters and seeing the life changing pain that occurred in one of their lives compelled him to breath the MAN CODE and tell it all.

Get "Shielded"!...Protect your heart.

This book bucks the standards of conventional wisdom and relationships...Some of the secrets may be hard to swallow but you will be glad you did.

You will learn:

Men have sexual cycles like women have menstrual cycles
Why men lie?
What a man really wants from a woman and how to give it to him
The ultimate and the only real reason of what drives your man to cheat.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Aug 26, 2010
• ISBN: 9781452043821

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ABOUT THE BOOK

D. M. Keith observed the hurt, pain, and misery of women on five continents. He asked himself these questions, Why do men have to lie when they are in love relationships? and why don’t men tell the truth about what they want when they love someone?

This book tells the secrets of why men lie when they are in a relationship. Keith tells us that men are forced to keep these secrets sacred because of societal values that have been placed on them.

He informs us that sex is the driving cause of these secrets as to why men lie and cheat. He lays out mens’ secret sexual desires and how they interfere with the possibility of having a healthy love relationship with a woman.

He’s breaking the MAN CODE and telling the secrets of men in hope that women can better understand men.

Knowing these secrets a woman will:

Know what a man really thinks about sex & love. Know the type of man she’s involved with. Know the real reasons why a man cheats. Be 100 percent sure when a man loves her. Know when it’s okay to ask a man for marriage– and get a resounding yes.

Guarantee a quality relationship with future prospects. Know what a man really wants and how to give it to him. Know the real reasons why a man lies. Learn about the sexual cycles of men.

See how some women have unknowingly operated within these secrets.

DEDICATION

To my wonderful daughters, Nicole and Madison. Both of whom have brought me such wonderful joy that they can never imagine. They have made me realize my job as a father is the best job a man can ever have. It has truly been a pleasurable one.

To all the women who have experienced or will experience hurt and pain in their love relationships while trying to understand the man in their lives.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I would like to extend many thanks to the wonderful people who helped me to bring out the uniqueness of this great book. First, I would like to thank all the men I interviewed for their candor in their honest answers to my many questions. It was their honesty that was the impetus for this book and for me deciding it was something truly needed.

I also would like to thank Amos Nkhoma for the wonderful insight you provided the many nights we talked comtemplating the plight of women all over the world. To Lynn Benard, thank you for your assistance in the research of the subject and the encouragement you provided in insisting that I persevere in finishing this work and getting it published. To Valerie Dillard for the many discussions we had on the subject and helping me to see a different point of view. To Victoria Kaye for helping me to see the advantages this book offers to women. To Stephan, my editor, for being such a wise. patient, and decent human being.

Finally to my very dear friend Nicola Marcel for being such a good friend who provided me the enthusiasm, dedication, amazing patience, research, and thoroughness, as well as agreeing to be a contributing writer to this work.

PREFACE

I’ve looked at the plight of women in love relationships with men and have found what they have in common is hurt, pain, and misery. Women are often deceived by men. This deception is caused by societal pressures.

In this book, I try to tell the truths about men and how they think. These are truths that men are unable to talk about or discuss with women. I talk about the biological and fundamental truths that men keep secret to themselves, that they are not allowed to show in public because of scorn or retribution.

I try to show that these truths are so fundamental to a man that he is compelled by nature to satisfy them. He will lie, steal, cheat, and kill to do so. His attempts to satisfy these truths cause him to be deceptive to women. As he deceives them, they become hurt and are forced to endure pain, misery, and frustration. This is the relationship disconnect that we, as a society, cannot figure out or repair, leaving in its wake, hurt, pain, misery, deception, and disappointment.

Some information in this book will be hard to swallow, but is based on evidentiary truth. It will be hard to swallow because society has created a standard concerning relationships that is false. We try to dismiss relationship problems as matters brought into the relationship by both parties. We move in and out of relationships not realizing that the problem moves right along with us.

The deception the man brings into the relationship creates a cloak of defenses for a woman as she moves from one relationship to another. Eventually, she begins to realize that all men are dogs. She becomes discouraged, thinking there’s no man out there for her. She withdraws from engaging in a relationship for a while, then reenters the game. The end result is always the same.

A man is a sexual being. He is visual. In our society, women try to look their best. Upon first meeting a woman, a man is attracted by the way she looks; he only wants to have sex with her. If she’s attracted to him, she becomes giddy and happy and dreams what life with him would be like. Her thoughts are light years away from what he’s thinking. The two engage in conversation. The woman is usually honest; the man usually misleads her, for his only intent is to get her into bed. Her honesty and his deception cause them to agree that they have something in common and they have sex. After a few days she may wonder why he doesn’t call. He disappeared from her life as quickly as he appeared. This has happened to every woman who is reading this; if not you, then one of your friends. This book will detail why this happens in hope that our society can adopt a new standard, one where deception has no place.

In this book I write about the reasons problems occur in relationships and support my theory with empirical evidence. This evidence was gathered by extensive research and is mostly based on the lives and relationships of famous people in popular culture. As you read this book, every woman’s name can be replaced by yours and every man’s name came be replaced with your partner’s; the points will still hold true.

This book asks women to try to change how they perceive men. It will be difficult to do, but if you can stretch your thinking that far, you will have better intimate relationships. The task will be easier for younger women, who have had fewer experiences in a love relationship. You will be protected from the pain and misery you are sure to see your girlfriends endure if they don’t read this book and apply its principles in their lives. This book gives the honest truth about men, not what you think men are, or what you’ve been told men are. It is what men are, though they may change in the future – we don’t know what or when that future will be – but this is what they are today. It does not attempt to sugar-coat relationship problems so women can keep searching for that good man. The best way to deal with a problem is to begin with the truth. If we deal with the truth, we can find an honest solution and move forward.

A woman has work and responsibilities if she seeks to attract the right man into her life. They include presenting herself in a way to ensure that the man will not feel a need to mislead or deceive her. These responsibilities start with NEVER, EVER going to bed with a man the first time you meet him (no matter what he says to you). He will not respect you, EVER. This is a preview of one of those truths mentioned before. Another is to NEVER think he will not cheat while he is involved in a relationship with you. You must guard yourself as if in battle. Your life and your heart call for your protection. I am arming you by telling you what arrows a man has in his quiver. You must use this information to construct your shield; thereby making it your WOMAN’S SHIELD.

Contributing Author

Nicola Marcela

Whenever you find yourself on the side of majority it is time to pause and reflect

-Mark Twain

The above quote is one that I take to heart because pause I did… but I am still reflecting. I’m from the East; He’s from the West…opposite points of this great union. I, young female; he middle-age male -unlikely to have very much in common except for what some would consider the obvious-

That obvious factor was a RELATIONSHIP…probably not what you think or not the type you’re thinking. DM Keith, a dear friend, through the years has counseled me through my relationship woes. He is what I would call a relationship guru …he has insight to what some may call an unconventional way of thinking. I have had several relationships over the years, some good and some terribly bad. Teachers, Athletes, Actors, Physicians-all men who shared the same secrets. I must admit that I was a little reluctant at first to accepting and applying this secret information that DM had offered. I believed whole heartedly that with time and determination I would find that ever faithful man. Ladies, I was not a self defeatist or a pessimist but a realist who has now been armed with a Shield of information. I took the concepts of these secrets and gradually applied them to my relationships. Oh, the wonders it prevailed! I incorporated these basic principles into my life and have saved myself time, effort and pain. So when DM asked me to partner with him on this book I was more than happy to. I have studied behavior and learning theories at the doctoral level. I have researched many a relationship book, but it is the secrets that we have complied in The Women’s Shield that have helped me to truly understand men. Knowledge is key ladies! Be the chess player not the chess piece… Get Shielded and protect your heart!

HOW YOU RESPOND TO THESE SECRETS WILL AFFECT THE WAY YOU VIEW RELATIONSHIPS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

Contents

ABOUT THE BOOK

DEDICATION

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

PREFACE

INTRODUCTION

Chapter 1. SECRETS THAT LET YOU KNOW HE REALLY LOVES YOU

HIS FAMILY

HIS HOME OR APARTMENT

HIS CAR/BOAT/AIRCRAFT

HIS CHILDREN

HIS MONEY

Chapter 2. SECRET ACTS OF MEN OFTEN MISTAKEN FOR LOVE

CATERING TO HER INTERESTS

PUSHING HER EMOTIONAL BUTTONS

GIVING GIFTS

SEXUAL DESIRE

INTRODUCING HER TO NEW THINGS

GREETING HER WITH A KISS

STAYING IN CONTACT

MEETING HIS FAMILY

CATERING TO A WOMAN

LEAVING LOVE NOTES

Chapter 3. SECRETS THAT LET YOU KNOW WHAT HE REALLY WANTS

Chapter 4. SECRETS OF MEN’S SEXUAL STIMULATION; COMMONLY KNOWN AS CHEATING

Chapter 5. SECRETS OF WHY MEN CHEAT

Chapter 6. SECRETS OF WHY MEN LIE

Chapter 7. CONSEQUENCES FOR WOMEN IN STATUS QUO RELATIONSHIPS TODAY

RAGE

SPYING

HURT

DISILLUSIONMENT AND DEVASTATION

INTENSE SADNESS

BETRAYAL

Chapter 8. SECRETS TO DEALING WITH CHEATING MEN

VANESSA BRYANT (WIFE OF NBA STAR KOBE BRYANT)

JADA PINKETT, ACTRESS (WIFE OF WILL SMITH, ACTOR)

FERGIE (BLACKEYE PEAS SINGER AND WIFE OF JOSH DUHAMEL, ACTOR)

DINA MCGREEVEY (WIFE OF FORMER NEW JERSEY GOVERNOR, JAMES MCGREEVEY)

CYNTHIA RODRIGUEZ (WIFE OF FAMED, BASEBALL PLAYER ALEX RODRIGUEZ)

CARLITA KILPATRICK (WIFE OF FORMER MAYOR OF DETROIT, KWAME KILPATRICK)

HILLARY CLINTON (U.S SECRETARY OF STATE, FORMER FIRST LADY OF THE UNITED STATES, AND WIFE TO FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, BILL CLINTON)

Chapter 9. SECRETS TO KNOWING WHO HE REALLY IS

THE WOMANIZER

THE JOHN

THE COMMONER

THE PEDOPHILE

THE GAY MAN

Chapter 10. IT’S NOT A SECRET! MEN AND THE DESTRUCTION CAUSED BY THEIR CHEATING

THE WOMAN’S SHIELD

(SECRETS ABOUT MEN YOUR MOTHER DIDN’T KNOW

… AND YOUR FATHER WAS AFRAID TO TELL YOU)

RAW, ABSOLUTE TRUTH ABOUT MEN AND HOW THEY RELATE TO WOMEN

INTRODUCTION

I am the father of two daughters, ages 11 and 32. I love both dearly and have always desired the best for them. They are the treasures I hold dear in my life. As a father, I often wondered if I had given them proper instruction on how to orchestrate life while in a relationship with a man. One of the purposes of this book is to elaborate some of the instruction I may not have provided.

My older daughter called me about five years ago. Her husband of two years was having an affair with another woman. He no longer desired to be with my daughter, so she felt rejected. She was inexperienced with rejection, believing that if she was good and true, her husband would be good and true in turn. They had a beautiful daughter and she’d been a perfect wife and lover. The night she called, however, she found that he had not met this standard of perfection.

She was depressed and filled with sadness, believing she had failed as a wife and mother. She felt unattractive and undesirable. She thought she had been the perfect woman, having done everything right for her husband. She had called, looking for reasons why a man would have an affair with another woman.

I received her call around 10:30 in the evening and remained on the phone with her till nearly 6:00 the following morning. I love her so much I would have stayed on the phone with her forever.

She lived in the East and I in the West. Hopping in the car and driving across town was out of the question. My immediate thoughts and concern were how to provide over the phone what I’d give her if we lived in the same town. I could not visit and take her back to my house. I could not take her to Starbucks for a talk over coffee. I could not take her to a doctor to help handle her emotional distress. I was equipped only with words I should have spoken when she was my little princess growing up. I felt a terrible anger with myself for not having better informed or prepared her for a man.

I finally convinced her that her husband had the problem and the problem was not her. It was not that she had not been a good wife and lover. It was not that she was unattractive and undesirable. It was nothing she had done. She had done everything right. It was him. He is a man and she did not understand a man.

I had never told her the truth about me. Giving her this truth was forcing me to look into a mirror. I was telling her about myself and my behavior. It was like baring my soul or stripping me down to my core. It forced me to look at myself and see the true man within. I couldn’t keep it a secret anymore. Keeping the secret was causing harm to her and would eventually cause harm to her little sister. I had to tell her the truth and it would mean laying myself on the chopping block. She would discover her true DAD – the real man. He would not be a pretty sight to behold, but one she needed to