The Playbook: It's All a Game Until You Get Married

By Brittney Brown

This controversial playbook is a woman’s guide to getting what she wants from the man she wants. Always brutally honest with a touch of humor, chapters include: Knowing Your Opponent , Playing Offense and Cheating. Men have treated dating like a game for years and have been brushing up on their skills. It's time women did the same "Men have accepted they cannot put all their cards on the table." Brown writes "They understand that it would be counterproductive to their ultimate goal. Men know they can’t just say:

'I want to have sex with you. I want you to be there when I want you, but I want to give up as little as possible when it comes to time, money and effort. And I certainly don’t want to give up my freedom to see other women, just in case there’s another woman out there that’s better than you.'

That wouldn’t go over well and most men have the common sense to not say it. They don’t feel they are being denied their right to be themselves. They don’t complain about playing games and not being able to be open and honest. They don’t claim it’s childish or unfair. What do they do? They do what works."

Practical, specific, and never sentimental Brown asserts that in the world of dating you’ll always find “It’s All a Game Until You Get Married”

• Language: English
• Publisher: Brittney Brown
• Release date: Jun 12, 2011
• ISBN: 9781458160065

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The Playbook

It’s All a Game Until You Get Married

Brittney Brown

Copyright © 2010 Brittney Brown

All rights reserved.

ISBN-10: 1463514840

ISBN-13: 978-1463594846

Smashwords Edition

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http://whatihavetheballstosay.blogspot.com

CONTENTS

Introduction

1 Knowing Your Opponent

The Advice Men Give Each Other

His Star Player: What Men Say They Want

2 Playing Offense

Why Pursuing a Man Never Works

Training a Man to Treat You Well

Fixing How a Man Treats You

Shaping a Man’s Perception of You

Sex

Be a Prize in Your Own Eyes

Recap

Offense Power Moves

3 Playing Defense

How Men Fight

The Key to Playing Defense

Knowing When to Hold and When to Fold

Winning

Keeping Your Feelings in Check

Recap

Defensive Power Moves

4 The Fourth Quarter

Breaking Up

Breaking Up While Shacking Up

A Word on Marriage

When to Stop Playing the Game

5 Cheating

The Players in a Man’s Life

Rules to Being the Other Woman

Rules to Dealing with the Other Woman

Competition

6 Bad Coaching

Common (bad) Advice

7 Power Conversations

How to Talk to a Man and Get What You Want

8 Frequently Asked Questions

9 35 Tips to By

INTRODUCTION

After reading the title of this book you may be wondering, after all we’ve been told about dating and relationships, is it really just one big game? Well, yes and no. Mostly yes. Dating and relationships are something of a competitive sport. You are trying to get what you want, he is trying to get what he wants, and neither one of you wants to get hurt or taken advantage of in the process. In the game of dating and relationships there are struggles for the upper hand, strategies, and power moves all in play at any given time. The reason so many women don’t play the game well is many times they don’t even realize it is a game. Many women say I don’t play games, I’m just me and to them I say: you are already playing the game whether you realize it or not and you’re probably losing. Lest you think playing games is only for manipulative bitches, understand that men are already aware of everything I‘m saying. Men have looked at dating as a sport for some time now. They refer to being good with women as having game, when they have sex with a woman they scored or if they didn’t they struck out, when a man prevents another man from getting with a woman its blocking, and if a man succeeds in marrying a beautiful woman she’s considered his trophy wife.

There was a time when the game was only played for a short time before two people were married (and social norms prevented a woman from giving too much too soon anyway). But in this day and age men and women are waiting longer and longer to get married, extending the playing time of the game even more. Too many women are getting hurt and/or taken advantage of because they are not equipped to go toe to toe with men that have been brushing up on their skills for years. Yes it is all a game ladies and it’s time we start brushing up on our skills.

Obviously, the term game is being used in this book as a cheeky analogy meant to help women better understand the mindset they should be in when dealing with the opposite sex. Of course it’s not meant to be taken literally, but don’t underestimate the parallels between a relationship and a game of football. Or, better yet, chess. There are rules and strategies and a hint of competition on the dating field. Don’t be so naïve as to think you can just be yourself. Especially if yourself tends to be clingy and transparent.

Before we go any further let me say this is not a book about love. However, when you play the game right a man is so impressed with you, so shocked that he met his match, so intrigued that you’re not like other women, that he often does fall in love. But if you’re looking for a book on feelings and emotions and creating intimacy then look elsewhere. There are plenty of books on the subject, but this is not one of them. This is a book on Knowing Your Opponent, Playing Offense and Power Moves. It may sound highly manipulative, but it’s just the way it is. If whatever you’ve been doing up until now has been working, then by all means continue to do it. However, it is highly likely you’ll find It’s All a Game Until You Get Married.

The bulk of this book is set up into four sections, four quarters if you will, with each quarter roughly representing the four stages of a relationship. The first section, Know Your Opponent, covers the first stage of a relationship. The stage when we’re still trying to figure out exactly who we’re dealing with. We go over the mentality of the average man and what he’s looking for in and from a woman. We won’t spend too much time delving into why men do what they do nor will we spend much time analyzing why certain behaviors work with men and others don’t. It’s just the way it