This Girl's Got Game: A Smart Girls Guide to Having the Upper Hand over Men in This Game Called Love

By Leandra De Andrade

Do you want to know why men act the way they do and how to get through to them? Are you tired of men having the upper hand in relationships? Are you tired of being deceived, having your heart broken and feeling powerless? Are you tired of only attracting Mr. Wrong or feeling neglected and disrespected in your relationship?

Well Leandra De Andrade’s This Girl's Got Game is a how-to book filled with unique checklists, strategies, tricks and real life scenario solutions to make you a winner in this game called love. Her entertaining Transformation Tasks and Secret Lessons will assist in converting you into a Girl with Game. A Girl who is confident, classy and always two steps ahead of her opponent. A woman who makes the right men fall in love effortlessly and keeps the affection and devotion of her Mr Right.
This smart girls’ guide will teach you how to harness your power as a woman and relate to men on a whole new level whilst gaining the love and respect you deserve. Once you've discovered how to unlock your own potential you will discover that there are no limits to what you are capable of and what you are worth.

It's time you even up the score, ladies. Your perception of love, men, and happiness as you know it is about to change.

May the best woman win.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Leandra De Andrade
• Release date: Apr 15, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370613380

Leandra De Andrade

Hi my name is Leandra, I am a dating/relationship coach and author who is passionate about helping women be happy in love. Let me quickly tell you what I believe...I believe in creating a movement, a force of women evolving into knowledgeable, classy, beautiful, independent ladies who will be treated like gold. The force of women I refer to are the women who are comfortable in their own skin, who do not chase a man, they do not let a man have control over them and they do not put their happiness in someone else hands. Even at an early age, I was notorious among my friends as being the female 'Hitch', the woman who truly understood how a man's mind and heart worked. I helped my friends and even strangers attract and maintain the affections of the men they wanted. Some call it my sixth sense. Others say it was a result of my upbringing surrounded by men considered players. But I think I have just paid attention. Whatever the case, I uncovered the secrets of what works (and what doesn't!) in relationships. ​ I was tired of reading bad advice in magazines and listening to single girls give detrimental advice to their friends. You have probably heard of these or read this kind of advice before. The kind of advice like the gushy "leave love notes around the house for him to find" or the too ambitious "cook a 3 course meal on the first date to show your culinary prowess." And of course the worst being those raunchy tidbits like "drop by his office unannounced with no panties on." ​ Young women are absorbing this awful, misguided counsel and when they try it out, it doesn't work. These poor girls then feel like failures because they have no positive results from their experiments. I am not saying that all advice is damaging to your relationships, but most of these so called “tips” fail in the long term for female after female. So isn't it time we women check where we are going wrong? Instead of just listening to that bad advice and thinking to myself (“No, what are you talking about”) I was going to reach out to women. Over the years I have helped hundreds of thousands of woman from all corners of the world with their relationships and self -confidence and now I have the opportunity to help YOU. ​ It's time you even up the score, ladies.

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This Girl’s Got Game

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Having the Upper Hand over Men in this Game Called Love.

Leandra de Andrade

Copyright

This Girl’s Got Game

Copyright © 2017 by Leandra De Andrade

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Edited by Kimiko Wadriski of Wadriski Writes.

Dedication Page

Dedicated to YOU – the woman who reads this book

Never underestimate your power as a woman.

Be a woman who changes The Game for all girls who will come after you.

- Leandra de Andrade

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication Page

Introduction§

Chapter 1: Men Play the Game, Girls Can Make the Rules§

Using the Power§

Being His Ferrari§

Having Game = Playing Hard to Get§

Getting It Wrong§

Making the Game Work for You§

The Game Plan: Making the Rules§

Secret Lesson Recap: Making the Rules§

Transformation Task: Playing Hard to Get§

Play Your Cards Right: Making the Rules§

Chapter 2: Preparation – The Key to Confidence§

Understanding Confidence§

The Best Version of You§

Three Things I Love About Me Exercise§

From Boring to Bombshell§

Trying Too Hard§

Little Miss Independent§

The Game Plan: Preparation§

Secret Lesson Recap: Preparation§

Transformation Task: Boosting Your Self-Confidence§

Chapter 3: Girl Code... Or Not§

The Sisterhood: Is There Such a Thing?§

Being the Other Woman: The Ugly Truth§

Top Lies Cheaters Tell the Other Woman About the Main Woman§

Top Lies the Other Woman Tells Herself§

How to Identify the Husband Huntress§

Is She His Friend or Your Frenemy?§

Top Tactics the Husband Huntress Uses§

Playing Dirty: Step Two’s Plan B§

Game Plan: The Girl Code§

Secret Lesson Recap: The Girl Code§

Transformation Task: What to Learn from a Bad Girl§

Chapter 4: Understanding What Makes Up a Man’s DNA§

A Man’s Love is Different§

Understanding the 4 Ps that make a man feel like the Alpha§

The Pursuer§

The Provider§

The Performer§

The Protector§

The 4 Types of Players in The Game§

The Joker (The Fake Alpha Males)§

The Suits (Beta Males)§

The Trump (The Alpha)§

The Wild Card (The Betalpha)§

Your Top Questions about Men Answered§

The Real Secrets Your Man Doesn’t Want You to Know§

Newly Single Men: What Are They Really Up To?§

The 10 Biggest Put-Offs for Men§

Game Plan: Understanding Men§

Secret Lesson Recap: Understanding Men§

Transformation Task: How to Handle His Secrets§

Chapter 5: Be a Dating Diva§

Get Him to Call and Make the Date§

What to Wear on a First Date§

Where to Go on a First Date§

First Date Ideas§

The Bill – To Pay or Not to Pay§

How to Secure Dates 2 and 3§

How to Deal with Rejection§

The Game Plan: Be a Dating Diva§

Secret Lesson Recap: Be A Dating Diva§

Transformation Task: How to Be a Memorable Date§

Chapter 6: Make Him Fall Quicker Than He Can Say Girlfriend§

Attract a Man by His Senses§

Embrace Being Cute§

Supply, Deny, Reply§

Compliments He Loves and Will Never Forget§

Game Plan: Make Him Fall

Secret Lesson Recap: Make Him Fall

Transformation Task: Texts to Make Him Want You

Chapter 7: Biggest Mistakes Women Make

Putting Out Too Soon

Giving Up Your Power for a Man

Warning Signs of a Sacrificial Love Victim

How to Discipline Him as a Girl with Game

4 of the Cardinal Dating Mistakes That Keep Women Single

Hot and Crazy: What He Considers Psycho

The 6 Types of Psycho Women

Phone and Social Media Mistakes to Avoid

Phone and Social Media Techniques a Girl with Game Uses

Why You Shouldn’t Baby Your Man

How You’re Destroying Your Relationship

Game Plan: Biggest Mistakes a Woman Makes

Secret Lesson Recap: Biggest Mistakes a Woman Makes

Transformation Task: Take Your Power Back

Chapter 8: The Hook Up Behind Your Back

How to Catch Him When He Lies

Why Men Cheat and How to Prevent It

Signs He’s Cheating

He Cheated. Now What?

7 Phases of Being Cheated On

The Talk

Revenge: Is It Worth It?

Discipline Him the Right Way: The 6 Rule Reinforcement Guide

Game Plan: Handling the Hookup

Secret Lesson Recap: Handling the Hookup

Transformation Task: The 7-day Breakup Survival Guide

Chapter 9: How to Keep Him Once You’ve Got Him

Never Be Completely Conquered

How to Create a 50/50 Partnership

How to Control Your Jealousy and Insecurity

Bringing Back the Spark

Everything You Need to Know About Relationship Sex

6 Mistakes Women Make with Relationship Sex

Why Men are Distant After Sex

Sexy, Sizzling Tips to Make Him Want You

Game Plan: Never Lose Him

Secret Lesson Recap: Never Lose Him

Transformation Task: Communicate, Participate, and Eliminate

Chapter 10: Now This Girl’s Got Game – The Finishing Touches

Being a Girl with Game is Easier Than You Think

Believe in Your Potential

Kiss the Old You Goodbye

Know Your Value in the Marketplace of Men

Practice Makes Progress, Not Perfect

Game Plan: The Finishing Touches

Secret Lesson Recap: The Finishing Touches

Transformation Task: Extra Rules a Girl with Game Lives By

Introduction

You would think women have learned enough about relationships and how to get Mr. Right. There are certainly enough books written on the subject. So what makes this book different from all the rest?

This Girl's Got Game isn’t just a book. It is the ultimate instruction manual to get from where you are to where you want to be in the eyes of men.

This book will teach you how to harness your natural powers as a woman. It will empower you with the skills you need to become the best seductress in this game we call love. Like attractiveness, education, and charm, think of having game as a necessary resource to get what you want. Having game is a commodity.

Even at an early age, I was notorious among my friends for being the female 'Hitch,' the woman who understood how a man's mind and heart worked. I helped my friends and even strangers attract and maintain the affections of the men they wanted. Some call it my sixth sense. Others say it was a result of my upbringing surrounded by men considered players. But I think it’s because I have paid attention.

Whatever the case, I uncovered the secrets of what works (and what doesn't!) in relationships.

I'm tired of reading bad advice in magazines and listening to single girls give detrimental advice to their friends. You’ve probably heard or read this kind of advice before. The advice like the gushy leave love notes around the house for him to find or the too ambitious cook a 3-course meal on the first date to show your culinary prowess. And of course, the worst being those raunchy tidbits like drop by his office unannounced with no panties on.

Young women are absorbing this awful, misguided counsel and when they try it out, it doesn't work. These poor girls then feel like failures because they have no positive results from their experiments. I am not saying that all advice is damaging to your relationships, but most of these so-called tips fail in the long term for single female after single female. So, isn't it time we women check where we are going wrong? Isn't it time to have a step-by-step guide on getting what we want in our relationships?

Instead of listening to that bad advice and thinking to myself What the hell are you talking about, I decided to write a practical instruction manual to help every girl in the world.

I have created this opportunity to help YOU.

Girls with Game is a movement of women who have evolved into knowledgeable, classy, beautiful, and independent ladies. They are women who expect to be treated like the gold they are. Girls with Game is a force of women who are comfortable in their own skin. A woman in this force doesn’t chase men and she definitely doesn't give men control of her happiness.

Girls with Game are confident, kind, and feminine, but they are also strong and mysterious. They are hard to get and hard to forget. They attract the most eligible men and maintain the interest of these men.

They are independent, opinionated, successful, and fun. Girls with Game respect how men feel and think, but more importantly, they are consistent in communicating their message: I'm confident (really confident!) and I refuse to go into overdrive to please anyone more than myself, especially a man.

Girls with Game are both a challenge and a prize. They don’t follow the rules, they create the rules. These girls are the ones men want, the ones they think and talk about. Men love, respect, spoil, and admire them. Girls with Game are legends. They are who you want to be.

Throughout this book, I will provide checklists, tasks, tips and examples for you to understand how to use your birth given gifts as a female to entice and keep men of high quality.

You don’t have to follow every tip. And you don’t have to change your behaviors, beliefs, or who you are all at once. The purpose of the information is to help you gradually become a better version of yourself.

You might have to read this more than once before understanding how men operate and the impact changing a few of your behaviors can have in your relationships.

Think of your opinions about men and relationships as you would think about remodeling a house. You don’t break down the entire house at once to transform it. You renovate room by room and, after a while, you have an improved, more alluring home.

You are remodeling a step at a time to become a Girl with Game. This is a process.

If you want to prove to yourself that you can be one of those Girls, you must make a point of entering this experience with an open mind and a committed mindset to make changes for the better.

So, before you ask to be dealt into The Game, believe in yourself. You will discover that there are no limits to what you are capable of and what you are worth.

It's time you even up the score, ladies. Your perception of love, men, and happiness as you know it is about to change.

May the best woman win.

Chapter 1: Men Play the Game, Girls Can Make the Rules

Imagine you had the power to know everything you ever wanted about men. You would know what they think, how they think, and why they do what they do. More importantly, you would know what qualities men want women to have.

Visualize that you are the ultimate seductress. You are edgy, full of intrigue. Every man falls head over heels in love with you. You have your pick of any man. And you can choose from the ones who treat you like the only girl in the world. You could have Mr. Right.

Imagine you had that capability within you. Well, guess what? You don't need to imagine; you already have that power.

Do you realize how influential you are in your relationships? Do you realize you have the upper hand on men?

There’s a common misconception about power in relationships. Women assume we need to think like men to hold power. But, I ask: why think like a man when women are the ones with all the power? You only need to learn about the leverage you have to unlock your potential.

Men have always been aware of the power the female race possesses. It's why men have tried to suppress women in countless ways for centuries. Archaeologists and scholars have evidence of a matriarchal age in ancient times. In other words, women ruled the world.

I know, it sounds untrue. But that's only because men have concealed these facts. They have misconstrued history to where the current social revelation is women should be seen and not heard.

Can you imagine the uproar if we knew the real history: that women ruled the world peacefully before our subjugation?

So why would you want to think and act like a man when you can learn to tap into your own power like women of ancient times?

Using the Power

Women are naturally created to be alluring, beautiful, influential, sensual, and persuasive. We have maternal instincts which help intuitively identify and avoid dangerous situations and individuals. We are psychologically superior at communication and processing words. We have better cognitive skills. And the female body even produces pheromones specifically designed to attract men.

So why do women chase men and allow men to use them for amusement and sex? Why do women tend to fall so quickly for sweet talkers and bad boys? Why do they turn a blind eye when men cheat and settle for men who don’t make them happy?

I’ll tell you why. It's because few women understand the power they have. They don't know the secret of depicting that "je ne sais quoi" as the French call it, the something special we can't quite explain. Just look at French women who are notoriously known for being comfortable in their skin. They view themselves as obvious equals to men. They understand everything involving a relationship with men, from sex to cooking, is a partnership. French women make full use of all their assets. They don't focus on their flaws but rather use their influence, intelligence, and confidence to make their men ultimately loyal to them.

The media has brainwashed women into thinking they must be everything to men. According to society, these women must have sex like porn stars, cook a four-course meal like a chef, and still pick up a man's dirty socks.

I’m going to be in your face here: how is that working out for your self-esteem and your relationship?

Here’s a hint: it isn’t working.

SECRET LESSON 1:

Looks aren’t nearly as important to a man as charisma.

Legendary, Egyptian queen Cleopatra would have laughed at the information society forces on women now. After thousands of years, Cleopatra still inspires filmmakers, poets, and writers to encapsulate her elusiveness because she knew the secret. She had that je ne sais quoi. But it wasn't her looks.

Cleopatra understood the power of feminine charm and the art of persuasion. She is proof that tapping into this natural gift can make a man weak at the knees, even if there isn't a huge amount of physical attraction. You see, despite popular belief, Cleopatra was not extremely beautiful. She was average looking, but she understood men and what makes them fall in love. And this is not lust, but love. Cleopatra had Julius Caesar and Mark Antony, two of the most powerful men of her time, fall madly in love with her.

How?

She seduced them with her confidence, charisma, and intelligence. Cleopatra believed she was powerful, and because of that belief, she was. Her influence over men was because of her self-belief. She concentrated on developing and displaying the qualities she possessed. And that is what made her unforgettable.

One story that depicts Cleopatra's feminine prowess is when Mark Antony asked her to dinner. She denied him, saying he would dine better if he came to her.

Do you think Mark Antony refused? No. In fact, after he came to her, he stayed for a prolonged time. He even began to take an interest in her interests, like banquets and music. His sudden fascination with these hobbies was in direct contrast to his reputation in the military. But Mark Antony did it because Cleopatra intrigued him. He was trying to figure her out since he hadn’t met a woman who discarded his requests so boldly.

Cleopatra knew how to draw men in: by making her standards and expectations clear at the beginning of the connection. She set the pace of the relationship.

These days few women focus on what makes them happy in a relationship. They are so used to trying to cater to the needs of others. In general, women are people pleasers, which is what prevents them from enjoying the rewards of relationships.

Another ancient woman we can learn from is the former Queen of England Anne Boleyn. Before her tragic beheading in 1536, Anne had the complete devotion of King Henry VIII, the most unruly, arrogant king in English history.

King Henry was infatuated with Anne. He sent her 17 handwritten love letters, which is important if you keep in mind kings would have hired servants to write for them.

King Henry’s love letters demonstrated Anne's ability to mesmerize a man and create an emotional connection with skill and restraint. The king had the unchangeable intention to make her his bride despite his womanizing character and his current wife.

One letter he wrote reads: For my part, I will outdo you, if this be possible, rather than reciprocate, in loyalty of heart and my desire to please you.

When Anne declined being merely a mistress, King Henry apologized in response: Beseeching you also that if I have in any way offended you, you will give me the same absolution for which you ask, assuring you that henceforth my heart will be dedicated to you alone, and wishing greatly that my body was so too.

Not only did he apologize to Anne, but he also wrote of his great agony at being unable to decipher her letters to him. She was mysterious. And King Henry could not resist exploring the unknown.

In turning over in my mind the contents of your last letters, I have put myself into great agony, not knowing how to interpret them, whether to my disadvantage, as you show in some places, or to my advantage, as I understand them in some others, beseeching you earnestly to let me know expressly your whole mind as to the love between us two. It is absolutely necessary for me to obtain this answer, having been for above a whole year stricken with the dart of love, and not yet sure whether I shall fail of finding a place in your heart and affection, which last point has prevented me for some time past from calling you my mistress...

She kept him in suspense for an entire year. And he still didn’t give up. She was not going to be an easy conquest. Anne believed she was a challenge to be won. She waited until he promised her more than her fair share in committing herself to him.

But if you please to do the office of a true loyal mistress and friend, and to give up yourself body and heart to me, who will be, and have been, your most loyal servant, (if your rigour does not forbid me) I promise you that not only the name shall be given you, but also that I will take you for my only mistress, casting off all others besides you out of my thoughts and affections, and serve you only.

She had this great king begging, pleading on bended knee to have her hand and her answer. He implored: I beseech you to give an entire answer to this my rude letter, that I may know on what and how far I may depend.

What captivated the king's attention? Was it her looks?

In the 15th century, eye-catching features were pale skin, blue eyes, and blonde hair. Of these, Anne had none. She had dark skin, dark hair, and dark eyes. She also had small breasts. One myth even states she had 6 fingers and had enormous moles and warts all over her face and body.

Anne didn’t concentrate on the fact that she wasn’t a striking beauty to 15th century (or even 21st century) standards. She knew there wasn’t anything she could do about her appearance. Instead, she went to France and learned how to be the ultimate seductress from French women.

So how did these homely women make men love