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“Why do I feel distressed talking about my past?

Q It’s been 20 years since I left my first marriage, but I still get upset by questions about it. I lived in fear of my ex-husband and for ages I’d get heart palpitations and couldn’t breathe if I was in the same room as him – at parents’ evenings, for example. I hardly see him now that our children are grown up, but someone asked me recently, ‘Did he actually hit you?’ and I choked on the answer. Can you help me with this?

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