Wear the Pussy in Your Relationship: Reclaim Power & Control Without Alienating, Manipulating, Or Acting Like The

By Stacy Freeman

Who wears the pants in your relationship? If it's your boyfriend or husband, there's no need to blink twice—help has arrived.
Ladies, if you want a happy and lasting relationship your man shouldn't even think about wearing the pants, and neither should you.

Am I proposing no one hold the power? Absolutely, not! Every couple needs a leader. However, if you’re tired of being in rocky relationships with men who don't meet your needs and always have the upper hand, you need to learn how to wear the pussy!

Wearing the pussy in your relationship doesn’t just mean using what you’ve got (and what men desperately want) to get your way. It means getting men to value and respect your opinions, needs, desires, and emotions—without acting like the ‘man’ or emasculating your partner.

Wear the Pussy in your Relationship will teach you how to tap into and use your unique feminine powers, above and below the waist, to grab the wheel and steer your relationship on a stable road to happiness. Men may still rule the world, but women are the axis they revolve around. Learn how to keep them in check today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Stacy Freeman
• Release date: Oct 25, 2017

Stacy Freeman

Stacy Freedman is a best-selling author who empowers women with honest, helpful advice about important, and sometimes taboo, matters of the heart. Her book like The Friends With Benefits Rulebook, and How did SHE Get HIM? have given countless women their dignity and pride back. When not writing books or blogging, she can be found on all the popular social media sites @stacyfreedman.

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WEAR THE PUSSY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Reclaim Power & Control Without Alienating, Manipulating, Or Acting Like The Man

BY STACY FREEDMAN

Also by Stacy Freedman

The friends with Benefits Rulebook

&

How Did She Get Him?

This book format was made by Derek Murphy of Book Formatting by Derek Murphy

WEAR THE PUSSY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Copyright © 2017 by STACY FREEDMAN.

All Rights Reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

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http://www.Stacyfreedman.com

First Edition: October 2017

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 – What ‘Wear The Pussy’ Means

Chapter 2 – Claim Your Power

Chapter 3 – Feminine Women

Chapter 4 – Use It or Lose It

Chapter 5 – Get in the Driver’s Seat

Chapter 6 – What Do You Want?

Chapter 7 – Express Yourself

Chapter 8 – Set Expectations

Chapter 9 – Assessment Test

Chapter 10 – Some Training Required

Chapter 11 – Abuse of Power

Chapter 12 – Sorry Not Sorry

Chapter 13 – Get Your Life

Chapter 14 – Pros and Cons

Chapter 15 – Wrap Up

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INTRODUCTION

Have you ever wondered why movies, books, songs, television shows, social media photos and even commercial advertisements are so popular and suck us in for hours when we would be more productive doing almost anything else? Wonder no more. The reason we are so engaged and mesmerized by these forms of entertainment is because they all do one thing exceptionally well: tell stories.

A wise man by the name of Robert Mckee once said Storytelling is the most powerful way to put ideas into the world, and I happen to wholeheartedly agree. You know what they say: great minds thinks alike. And since wisdom is a quality you should definitely want the author of any book you invest in reading to have, I’d submit to you that we are off to a great start.

Now, although my wisdom game is strong, my memory leaves much to be desired (hey, nobody’s perfect). But thanks to that aforementioned wisdom I’ve found a way to refrain from looking like an escaped hospital patient wandering the streets asking strangers what year it is or who’s president (although sometimes I wish I could forget). That way is through stories.

If I hear a good, funny, touching story that resonates with me, the idea or message will likely stick. Unremarkable stories get routed to my short-term memory while interesting and profound ones get long term memory designation, but at least they don’t just go in through one ear and fly right out of my head through the next.

The reason stories are so powerful is because the human brain is a master at telling and remembering them. For millions of years before history was recorded, everything we knew about everything was passed down from generation to generation through a series of stories.

Besides its practical purpose of retaining cultural and historical information, stories are great for seemingly smaller things too, like commanding attention at a party or gathering, getting excused for tardiness, and even as a little hack for remembering the names of strangers. That last one is particularly helpful.

For example, if we met and you told me your name was Mary, I would probably be forced to either sheepishly ask you to remind me of your name the next time we saw each other, resort to greeting you with an awkwardly long heeey, or call you girl until a Facebook friend exchange occurred.

At that point I would slyly hand you my phone to search for yourself, and voila, name acquired without having to admit forgetting in the first place. By the way, feel free to steal this trick the next time you are drawing a blank on someone who’s name you should know by now.

Tell me a story about how your mother named you Mary because Mary Poppins appeared to her in a dream cradling a baby girl and sang supercalifragilisticexpialidocious so hard she almost dropped the baby while doing the dance number, and I honestly wouldn’t be able to forget your name if I tried.

Should your name lack a remarkable origin, I could create an insane, silly, or ridiculous story about it in my head. Like let’s say I noticed Mary was rocking a crop top and short shorts along with some pretty gnarly body hair. My story to remember her name could be that Mary is the hairy woman who refuses to be ruled by the patriarchy and succumb to shaving her legs and pits because like Solomon, she believes her hair is her strength. Yeah, that would probably stick with me for a little while.

Chances are whether you have an elephant memory or can’t remember what you ate for breakfast this morning, you’re an expert at remembering stories. You can’t help it; you’ve been hard-wired to be that way.

We should thank our lucky stars that we’ve evolved to figure out the importance of storytelling to teach and make an imprint in our minds; help us understand each other; recall history; and even challenge previously held beliefs. For these reason, we are going to kick things off with a little tale.

Once upon a time there was a great big guy from Texas who married a tiny little petite girl from New York. On their wedding night he takes off his pants, hands them to his new bride, and says, Here, try these on!

She tries, and tries, but no matter what she does they just won't stay up on her tiny frame. Her new husband looks at her, and says, Well, now you know who's gonna wear the pants in this here marriage!

The new bride is a bit shocked and dismayed by her new husbands attitude. So she reaches into her dresser drawer, takes out a pair of her very small panties, hands them to her new husband, and says Here honey, try these on.

The big guy tries and tries, but no matter what he does he just can't fit. He looks at her, and says, I just can't get into them.

His new wife smiles at him and says, That's right, and until you change your attitude you never will!

I wish I could take credit for this gem or even bestow credit to the writer—I can’t do either—but what I can tell you is that she is a woman after my own heart (I’m going to assume the writer is a bad ass woman).

My hope is that through her cute but poignant story, and the ones throughout this book, you’ll get the message loud and clear and you won’t forget it.

That message is that power dynamics in relationships are a very real deal and women have the ways and means to start challenging them. In fact, you do a disservice to yourself by blindly accepting the status quo.

It’s high time women stop letting men get away with thinking they’re automatically entitled to hold the power or be the default pants wearer in the relationship just because they have a penis—especially since you have a pussy.

If you have a say in things (and you do) they don’t just get to declare themselves qualified and give themselves the job. We’ve allowed men to lead the free world all these years because we’ve let them declare themselves the best candidate, and convince us that they are the better leaders, but look what good that has done.

The power dynamics have been out of whack for far too long because their brazen attitudes have gone unchecked. But it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s time for women to shake things up and rearrange the distribution of power and control in our favor—just like the new bride in the story above. And we’ve got some ace cards up our sleeves to do just that.

I’ll bring this introduction to a close with this fun factual story: all fetuses start out as a female, physical and phenotypically speaking (hence men’s nipples and raphe lines—that seam running down their scrotum).

Everyone comes from a common genetic and developmental framework that is tweaked by sex hormones. It is the presence of the Y chromosome that makes one male, not the presence of a second X chromosome making one female. So someone whose genotype is XO will be effectively female.

And the genes in the Y chromosome do not kick in until about 5-6 weeks of development when hormones enter the picture. Without hormones like testosterone, everyone would stay on the path to womanhood. What that means is that female is the primary and default sex of all humans, which should tell you something about how amazing our gender is and capable we are of wearing the pussy.

CHAPTER 1

WHAT ‘WEAR THE PUSSY’ MEANS

"I didn’t come this far to only come this far" – Unknown

Ladies, I want you to stop a second and take a look at the world around you. If you haven’t noticed we are blessed to live in one of the most progressive periods for women’s rights in history. We can vote; hold positions in high office; run for President; rule countries; start multi-million dollar companies; dominate the music charts; write, direct, and produce award winning movies and television shows; and fight alongside men in our armed forces.

Have we won all the battles? Not even close. We are still not yet treated and compensated equally in the workplace, deal with victim blaming, and can’t seem to get the government to remove the magnifying glass from our ovaries, so there is definitely some unfortunate work left to do.

However, we cannot and should not diminish the leaps and bounds women have made. In this brave new era we’re no longer confined to the gender roles that were once so deeply ingrained in society. Nowadays you can decide to put your career before marriage and kids, have your own opinions and express them freely, and chart your own course through life. This is pretty amazing given these are things that would have been considered unfathomable just a few short generations ago!

There are many people to thank for what we now take for granted: the feminist movement, the media, evolving notions of gender, and gradual acceptance on the part of men about women’s capabilities and contributions. Regardless of these strides though, many women, perhaps including you, still seem stuck in the past in one crucial area—love and relationships.

Unfortunately, far too many women choose not to exercise their hard-won rights when it comes to matters of the heart as if there is an unspoken notion that doing so will render them unlovable. While countless twenty-first century women reject the girlfriend or wife role as requiring baking and sewing skills, they still accept the nineteenth century way of thinking that men should wear the pants in the relationship.

What does that mean exactly? Here’s a quick history lesson for you: the expression wear the pants dates way back to at least 1612, to a time when ladies were treated as second-class people who could not own their own property, vote, or enter into contracts. Basically, men called the shots and made all the final decisions. Back then, ladies only wore dresses and men wore trousers (or pants). Hence, wearing pants, a typically male article of clothing, symbolized holding all the power.

Thankfully, it is no longer necessary to be born with a penis to wear the pants—figuratively and literally, for all you ripped jeans, leggings, and wide legged trouser aficionados out there. You also don’t need to act like the most insufferable depiction of the macho man or give up your feminine traits even a little bit to pull it off.

In fact, I wanted to make my point so unmistakably clear that as a woman you can hold the

Reviews for Wear the Pussy in Your Relationship

[shannon Hardy · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

this book changed my life. I see things completely different now.

[Athalyah Israel-Merriman · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

It's okay. I like books that get to the point. If you are a reader like me you have read it all. You know all the filler stories and this and that. The pep talks and inspiring stories. Many times during reading this I just wanted to get to the point of how to do what the book is supposed to teach how to. How to & how not. There were too many times in this book that the author just kept going on and on about stories that at times the information even contradicted itself. I found myself skipping over a large number of pages just to get to the point aka the good stuff. Which this book does have a lot of good stuff but it's hidden in many pages after many stories that I just felt were unnecessary.