How to Get Over Her in 1 Month: Learn How to Rise Like a Phoenix from the Ashes of a Breakup.

By Tadhg O'Flaherty

If you’re ready to not only recover, but to rise like a Phoenix from the ashes of a breakup than this book is for you.

As men we have a tendency to bury our bad feelings in the deepest recesses of our mind and hope that they will never resurface again, but this approach actually makes things worse in the long run. This easy-to-use guide will walk you through each day step-by-step on what you need to do in order to fully recover after your heart was trampled on. 

You will be kept very busy through the coming 31 days but by the end of it you will look and feel, better, stronger, more confident. By dipping into your subconscious mind you will slowly reprogram it in order to make all of your dreams a reality. 

It doesn't matter if you were with her for 6 months, 1 year or 10 years. Through a stringent program of vigorous exercise and self-development over the next 31 days I am going to help you to get over your ex-girlfriend. 
 

Here’s what you will learn:

• How to process the horrible emotions in just 1 day
• The real reason she dumped you
• The benefits of strenuous physical exercise
• How to increase your happiness by removing negativity
• How to stay positive no matter what happens
• How to build the life you deserve
• How to always be a winner
• Proven methods to convince yourself to be happy, even if you are depressed
• Why they always want to be friends after ripping your heart out and what to do about it
• How to improve yourself and your home
• How to live a stress free life
• How to become fearless
• How to stand tall and be a strong, confident, winner.

You can become a far better version of yourself in as little as 31 days from now. Do you want that? Great … then what are you waiting for?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tadhg O'Flaherty
• Release date: Nov 3, 2015
• ISBN: 9781533793836

Tadhg O'Flaherty

Tadhg O’Flaherty was born in Limerick, Ireland in 1977. Tadhg attended the University of Limerick as a mature student and graduated in 2013 with a B.Sc. in Computer Game Development. As a computer whizz-kid Tadhg was naturally inept at writing until he discovered that by utilising the Law of Attraction he was able to seamlessly transition into the field and is now a full-time author with two books currently self-published on Amazon. Tadhg’s second book “Surviving a Realistic Zombie Apocalypse” gained local notoriety within days of publishing and was featured on the front page of the Limerick Leader newspaper, which has a readership of 110,290, and also received airtime on local and national radio.

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How to Get Over Her in 1 Month

by Tadhg O’Flaherty

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Each night, when I go to sleep, I die.  And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn.

Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)

Copyright © 2015 by Tadhg O’Flaherty

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All Rights Reserved.  No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the author, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law.

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This document provides exact and reliable information with regards to the topic covered.  The publication is sold under the understanding that the author is not required to render accounting, officially permitted, or otherwise, qualified services.  If further advice is required, legal or professional, a practised individual in the required profession should be consulted.

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The information contained in this book is intended for educational purposes only and is not for diagnosis, prescription or treatment of any health disorder whatsoever.  The exercises described within are potentially dangerous and should not be performed without first consulting with a competent healthcare professional and/or a professional exercise coach.  By following the program described in this book you do so at your own risk.

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The author will not be held liable for any reparation, damages, or monetary loss due to the use or misuse of the material contained within.  The information within is offered for informational purposes only and is without contract or any type of guarantee.

To Madlen.

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Without you, this book wouldn’t exist.

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I will always cherish the memories.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Day 1 (Sunday)

Day 2 (Monday)

Day 3 (Tuesday)

Day 4 (Wednesday)

Day 5 (Thursday)

Day 6 (Friday)

Day 7 (Saturday)

Day 8 (Sunday)

Day 9 (Monday)

Day 10 (Tuesday)

Day 11 (Wednesday)

Day 12 (Thursday)

Day 13 (Friday)

Day 14 (Saturday)

Day 15 (Sunday)

Day 16 (Monday)

Benefits of asking her to come back

Day 17 (Tuesday)

Day 18 (Wednesday)

Day 19 (Thursday)

Day 20 (Friday)

Day 21 (Saturday)

Day 22 (Sunday)

Day 23 (Monday)

Day 24 (Tuesday)

Day 25 (Wednesday)

Day 26 (Thursday)

Day 27 (Friday)

Day 28 (Saturday)

Day 29 (Sunday)

Day 30 (Monday)

Day 31 (Tuesday)

Conclusion

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Introduction

Afflicted by love’s madness all are blind.

Propertius Sextus (c. 50-15 BC)

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The chances are, you’re reading this book long after she has left you.  But if by some miracle, you see a break-up coming and you got this book as a result, one of the biggest tips I can possibly give you is, the moment she calls it off with you, do not, under any circumstances ... cry in front of her.  And I know you might want to, but this is vital.  Do not cry in front of her.  It is a huge sign of weakness for a guy, who is supposed to be the strong one, to cry in front of a woman.  You do not want to show her any weakness.  You might be thinking that getting this book before she calls it off with you will give you insights that can help you change enough so that she will stay with you.  Sorry, but this book doesn’t deal with trying to keep her, it is designed to help you recover from the inevitable heartbreak.

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You might be reading this book if she left you a week ago, a month ago, a year ago or several years ago, and you still haven’t got over her.  Even if you are in a new relationship you may not have gotten over your ex-girlfriend sufficiently to enjoy the wonderful relationship that you can have with your new love interest.  If you hold a grudge against your ex-girlfriend then you haven’t gotten over her properly.

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Through a stringent program over the next 31 days, I am going to help you to get over your ex-girlfriend.  It will be a difficult 31 days, but no matter what, you must do it.  You have no choice.  Well, you have a choice.  You can complete the 31 day program, or you can put this book down now and suffer for longer, but eventually you will have to get over her, so why not get it over and done with in the shortest time possible and become a far better version of yourself while you’re at it.

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Perhaps you’re reading this book in the hopes that you might get your ex-girlfriend to come back.  Well, I have some good news for you.  If you follow this 31-day program, there is a possibility you can get her back.  Maybe it’s possible, but you must complete the program in full first.

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If I just want my ex-girlfriend to come back then why do I need to complete this 31-day program?  Good question.  In a strange twist of faith, it seems that ex-girlfriend’s only come back after you have successfully gotten over them.  I don’t know why this is the case, I just know that it is.  If you do not get over her and she does come back then there is a very high chance that she will eventually leave you again.  You will find yourself heartbroken by the same woman twice and probably in a short space of time.  Do yourself a favour and get over the last heartbreak before a second one arrives.

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Throughout the next 31 days, I will get you to perform some visualisation techniques.  Now, before you start thinking that this book is going to be a load of hippy nonsense let me tell you that I am not a tree hugging hippy, never have been, never will be.

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Similarly, I am not trying to force any form of religious belief on you.  I do not follow any organised religion and do not believe in a traditional description of God.  This visualising comes from you and not any form of deity.  All you will be doing when you are visualising is to relax and go into your own imagination and seeing your day unfold or seeing your future dreams coming true as if it has already happened to you.  When you are imagining these things it must feel as real as possible to you in every aspect.  I will describe more about the visualisation process in a later chapter.

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Just remember that everything happens for a reason but there is always a way to overcome any obstacle.  It doesn’t matter why she left you, what does matter is what you will do to overcome this setback in your life.

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Who this book is NOT for

•  If you were physically abusive towards her and she walked away from you

•  If you were emotionally abusive towards her and she walked away from you

•  If you cheated on her and she walked away from you

If you are in the above categories then stop reading this book and wallow in your own misery, you don’t deserve to recover.  I have no sympathy for you if you hit your ex-girlfriend or any woman.  The only time you can hit a woman is in self-defence.

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•  If you are an alcoholic

•  If you are a drug user, either recreational or addict

If you are in the above categories then stop reading this book and seek the professional help needed for conquering your addiction first. This 31-day program requires that you stay away from drink and drugs for the next 31 days.  If you cannot abstain from drink or drugs for a mere 31 days then you may be addicted and require urgent help.

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Who this book IS for

•  If you were in a committed long-term relationship and she walked away from you

•  If you were married and she walked away from you

•  If she cheated on you and you had to walk away from her as a result

Did she break your heart?  It doesn’t matter if you were with her for 6 months, 1 year or 10 years.  Men have the capacity to feel a deep love even if they were with a woman for a short period of time.

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You might be thinking that this 31-day program is not enough because you were with her for so long and loved her so much that you might never recover.  I was with my ex-girlfriend for 10 years.  She was the love of my life, my soulmate.  This was the woman I was going to marry.  Before she left I was already looking at engagement rings and planning to propose on our anniversary.  I didn’t see the break-up coming and it completely destroyed me when it happened but I still managed to recover in only 1 month.  You can too.  You deserve to recover and become a far better version of yourself along the way.  Don’t waste time.  Don’t make excuses.  This pain can end in only 1 month.

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•  If your ex-girlfriend was physically abusive towards you

Just like women in abusive relationships you may have also been in one.  It is rare but it does happen.  This is nothing to be ashamed of.  Perhaps you have left her as a result of this abuse but are still heartbroken because you are in love with her.  I encourage you to get any necessary restraining orders or other law enforcement help, if needed, throughout your 31-day recovery process to ensure that she stays away from you.  If you have been physically abused by your ex-girlfriend I can assure you that there are beautiful, kind and sensitive women out there for you that would never consider harming you.

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Who this book MIGHT BE for

•  If you play MMORPG games

If this is the case then there is a possibility that this book will be of benefit to you.  Many people who play massively multiplayer online role-playing games are addicted but don’t even realise, or are unwilling to accept that they are.

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The biggest problem with these games is that they can never be completed and the human brain will always look for a logical beginning, middle and end to everything.

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Are you able to stop playing this game for 31 days?  What I mean by that is not only stop playing the game but also stop engaging in forums that relate to the game and completely forget about the game for 31 days.  If that is not possible then you are more than likely addicted to this game and should seek professional help for this addiction.

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If you refuse to stop playing and you think that I’m full of shit and don’t know what I’m talking about you need to know that I have researched this form of addiction thoroughly and have given several guest lectures on the subject.  Your addiction to this game is no different to a junkie addicted to heroin.  The brain is responding in the exact same way in both cases.

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If you refuse to stop playing and refuse to seek the help you need then let me ask you this one question; are you allergic to vaginas?  Because when you are addicted to such games, then you might as well be.

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Women have absolutely no interest in being with a guy who is addicted to these games.  That troll you had virtual in-game sex with the other night is not a little hottie like they said, it is more than likely that this is another addicted guy stuck in his room 24/7 playing this game non-stop, just like you.  Stop playing that game and make a positive change in your life.

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Why you miss her

See how she leans her cheek upon her hand.  O, that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!

Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare (1597)

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The reason you miss her so much is because, just like a drug addict, you are addicted to her.  You are used to spending time with her, sharing your life, your dreams and future plans with her.  She was your best friend, soulmate, the apple of your eye, the love of your life and now she’s gone.

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All that time you used to spend together is now just free time.  What are you going to do with all this free time?  Chances are you are spending much of that time wallowing in sorry or just lazing around watching TV all day.  Maybe you are spending your days walking around like a zombie and just going along with the motions of everyday life.  Maybe you think that you are perfectly fine but still think of her constantly and play out "what if" scenarios in your mind.  If it is a recent break-up then you are probably seeing her everywhere.  Of course it’s not her but your brain wants it to be her.  You can also be obsessed with the idea of her showing up on your doorstep begging for forgiveness and asking you to take her back.  Your brain comes up with such scenarios because it simply cannot leave her go due to how addicted you are to her.  Just like a heroin addict trying to quit, or a sex addict trying to control himself, you are seeing references to your particular addiction absolutely everywhere because the brain has a hard time letting go.

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Why You MUST Get Over Her

Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.

Aristotle (c. 384-322 BC)

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How can you possibly build a truly lasting relationship with a new woman (and you will) if you are brooding over the last one?  In my life, I have had women come and go but the most prevalent aspect of this is that the next one is always better than the last in every way, more attractive, more fun to be with and more sexually adventurous.  But this only happened once I got over the previous ex-girlfriend.  Only when I got over the last one did the next one appear in my life and things were a lot better the next time round, and they will be for you too.  But you need to get over your ex-girlfriend first.

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Let me tell you a story about a friend of my brother.  Let’s call this guy William.  I remember this story very well even though this all occurred about 20 years ago.  The impact of what happened to William is something to remember.  William was once engaged to a girl who walked out on him.  Since then, anytime he was out with his friends in the pub or nightclub and a slow set was played William would vanish.  This happened so much that it became part and parcel of the night out.  His friends would not be worried about him or look for him anymore; it was just