Yes, You Need Space

By Yani Bautista (Tia Manila), Guevarra and Sha Nacino

Have you been living under a rock? No idea how 'like' and 'follow' work? Overwhelmed with the social media phenomenon? In need of online inspiration? Then, this is your reference manual and survival kit!

For this book's purpose, the author, Yani Bautista refers to the female quarter-life demographic of social media users as Tia / Tita (Auntie). Whether they have settled down or stayed single, they are at a point in their lives where they are trying to re-experience and re-discover things in order to thrive in a social media-dominated world.

This book tackles a very specific aspect of a Tia's life -- her social media life. But Tia or not, Millennial or Generation X, this book has so much to say about our modern day social media usage.

If you need help with social media because you've been exposed to it for so long that it gets the best of you sometimes, then let this be a digital detox program that will refresh your system and lead you to do better things online, like make money, learn new skills, find closure or a new love. Prepare to log in.

• Language: English
• Publisher: eBookIt.com
• Release date: Feb 8, 2018
• ISBN: 9781456630386

Book preview

AUTHOR

FOREWORD

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Facebook. Instagram. Twitter. I use all these social media platforms.

Sometimes I find myself mindlessly scrolling my FB and IG feeds.

But there was this one particular afternoon when I was so happy FB was invented.

My team and I were planning the first ever public run of our Goal Setting Blueprint Workshop. For the past few weeks and until two days prior to the event, we were looking for the best venue for our LIVE workshop.

We’ve checked some places, and they were good.

However, I wanted something better. Something world-class. I wanted the participants to feel so special the moment they enter the venue. I wanted them to say, Wow! What a beautiful place! I feel so special here!

One venue came to mind. That venue is so beautiful and classy. I already visualized the workshop and the participants in that venue.

But for some reason, we couldn't book it.

Then an inspired idea came, Sha, how about crowdsourcing from Facebook? Ask someone who can help you book the venue.

I heeded my instinct. I posted a favor on FB. Within a few minutes, a friend who I haven’t seen for years responded. He even went out of his way and booked the venue for us. Wow!

That’s the power of social media (and law of attraction). You can reach people with just a few clicks. Help is within your fingertips.

But you have to be careful also with social media. It can steal away valuable time from you. While it can connect you to the rest of the world, it can also disconnect you from the person right in front of you.

The key is to be educated with the proper use of social media.

This is what I love about Yani’s book. This is your guide to using social media the right way. Yani’s way of writing is both interesting and informative. Whether you’re a young millennial or you’re a tita or tito of Manila, this book on social media will be of blessing to you.

Personally, I’m proud of Yani. I knew Yani through the 90-Day Book Writing Challenge. She dreamed of writing a book and now, you are holding her masterpiece.

Enjoy the book! I wish you success and happiness!

Sha Nacino

Founder, The 90-Day Book Writing Challenge

shanacino.com/write

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INTRODUCTION:

Hi I’m Tia, and this is my first book ever.

From the front cover to the back, I will be your

AUNTIE SOCIAL, your Social Media Guide.

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I assume that you picked up this book because you are a social media user, and you can tell social media and social networking apart. When old…uhm, more mature people ask me to define them in simple terms, I say – social media (treated as both singular and plural) are medium or channels for online information production, and sharing. Some refer to it as the new media, the sassier younger sister of traditional media. Social networking, on the other hand, is a structure that connects social media users.

Allow me to briefly talk about the age group I belong to and our social media behavior -- I am a borderline millennial and generation X social media user who is actively using seven platforms: Facebook, Messenger, Viber, Telegram, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. With their help, I could carry out work-related tasks such as research, coordination, and communication. Believe it or not, the people I deal with are easier to get a hold of through social media than a text message or a call to their mobile phones. I’m probably working with too many millennials.

Despite seven social media platforms, I still believe that I am a private person, compelled to use social media. I rarely use it for personal socialization purposes like updating a status, sharing a photo, or reposting a quote. But like traditional "Titas of Manila" (a famous moniker for Aunties here in the Philippines), I enjoy being discreetly online while peeking into other people’s lives, especially Netflix celebrities, international/local musicians, British royalties, and the cast of Game of Thrones.

Back when Friendster was a thing, I loved how convenient it was for not-so-sociable people like me because I simply added friends and had über low maintenance relationships with them. I didn’t have to see them in person; I simply wrote on their comment boxes to make my friendship felt.

Contrary to popular belief that social networking may render you unsociable in the offline or real world, the right amount of Friendster usage actually helped me become more sociable. If I got to chat with a co-worker online, we naturally picked up from where we left off when we bumped into each other at work.

But the advent of Facebook, which is capable of accommodating a million new users each day, gave me the share scare. Suddenly, non-friends could easily see our timelines, grab our photos, send us messages, invite us to play Everwing, add us to groups, and even take the ownership of our accounts.

It made some of us feel helpless. While we have no control of how social media grows more powerful by the day, we do have control over how much we expose or share about ourselves.

The key is to understand how social media and the platforms work