Understanding how your child's - or your - behaviors protect against re-experiencing toxic shame and what it looks like will help you along the way to healing toxic shame.In this episode, you’ll learn:What behaviors might you see that are related to toxic shameHow and why behaviors protect us from re-experiencing toxic shameHow Internal Family Systems helps us make sense of these behaviorsHow toxic shame can protect us from experiencing the grief of alonenessResources mentioned in this podcast:Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClubIlyse Kennedy's book: The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma through Internal Family Systems Therapy.Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame2Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith