It's hard to write a summary of this episode because it is so rich with goodness.Mark Vatsaas is a dad and parent coach for parents of kids with challenging behaviors.  He's compassionate, clear, articulate, and has a knack for seeing straight through to the heart of the manner (that's my observation of him!!)There are so many brilliant sound bytes in this episode.  It's long but you are going to want to listen to the whole thing.Mark gives us a peek into his process as a parent coach and describes how he often sees these four themes emerge in his work with struggling parents:1. Attachment and our drive for survival2. How our emotions help us navigate our world3. Defendedness 4. How parents show up- and specifically how they send cues of safety and connection to their childrenThere are a few tears, some laughter, and by the end you will understand by Mark's business is called Seen and Heard.  Just listening to this episode will help you feel both seen and heard.  Promise.To learn more about Mark's work, head to www.SeenandHeard.coach.  He offers a free 90 minute consultation for parents- no obligation to schedule any additional sessions.  *************************There are so many more free resources just waiting for you over at www.RobynGobbel.comBlog: www.RobynGobbel.com/blogFree resources, including video resources on the impact of trauma: www.RobynGobbel.com/freeresourcesWhile you are there, sign up to be the first to know when the indepth, comprehensive brain-based and attachment-supporting course for parents opens for registration!  www.RobynGobbel.com/parentcourse*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith