On May 10 and 11, 2021, I taught a free masterclass called What Behavior Really Is and How to Change it.  Maybe you were there!  But maybe you weren’t.  To be honest, I do not love watching videos myself.  I would much rather put in my ear buds and listen to the audio only- even if it meant missing the slides. So, with that in mind, I’m releasing the audio from that masterclass here as a bonus podcast episode!If you want to stop playing behavior whack-a-mole, there are THREE questions to ask when kids are struggling- and when we stay focused on those questions instead of on the behavior, we will finally be able to solve the real problem.After you finish this episode, you can head over to robyngobbel.com/masterclass if you’d like to watch the video, too.  There might be a few ideas in the masterclass that are easier to express with the slides that are in the video.  I hope you enjoy!!!********************************I suggested several resources in this episode!Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainThe Club: A Virtual Community for Parents of Kids Impacted by TraumaBlogs:Focus on Arousal, Not Behavior Part 1Focus on Arousal, Not Behavior Part 2Felt-Safety?  What's That?Connection or ProtectionAlways Yearning for ConnectionWhat's Regulation Got to Do With ItBoundaries with Connection*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith