Kids who have been hurt inside connection and relationship protect themselves from getting hurt again.This can leave us feeling that they don't want connection.Which leaves us feeling like we don't want to offer connection.  It starts to hurt too bad to keep offering something so vulnerable when we keep getting rejected.Maybe it would help to know that humans need connection to survive.  Your child may be acting like they don't need or want connection, but they do.In fact, the intensity with which they work to reject connection is the intensity with which they've been hurt in connection.It feels hopeless, sometimes (or much of the time) to love a person who rejects connection.It feels hopeless but it isn't hopeless.  In fact, in this episode I'll tell you what that hopeless really is.Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and add Parenting after Trauma to your podcast player!Then head over to robyngobbel.com/masterclass for a F R E E video series on the three questions we should all be asking ourselves when our kids are behaving in baffling, confusing, frustrating and overwhelming way.*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith