People pleasing is different from cooperation. Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerancePeople Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship.  People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated.  If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrainI also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, What Behavior Really Is, which you can download HERE.  Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.”I call this “trickster” behavior.  Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/PeoplePleasingOver on my website you can find:Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainCLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith