The good Texas social worker that I was (am???) meant I discovered...and loved...Dr. Brene Brown's work on shame resilience pretty early on.I loved it.  Finally.  A way out of shame!Except...then I stopped loving it.  It seemed I couldn't even do shame resilience right because all the things Dr. Brown talked about weren't helping me.It wasn't that I wasn't doing it right.  It's that there was a missing step.  When I learned about the neurobiology of toxic shame, it began to unlock itself for me, ever so slightly.The science helped me believe "There is nothing wrong with me."  Once I could believe it with my thinking brain, I could begin to explore feeling it.  Without a doubt, that's much harder!  But I'm not sure I would have ever risked that hard work without first understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame.Toxic shame is not uncommon for people, including children, who have experience early trauma, abuse, neglect, and loss.  There is a sense of "I am something very wrong" or even "I exist wrong."  It's not true!  And understanding the mechanisms of toxic shame proves it.****************************************If you are new to the podcast, you will definitely want to watch my free three-part video masterclass on the 3 Reasons Kids Struggle: Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety.  You can start the masterclass here: https://robyngobbel.com/masterclass *****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith