Podcast #449
The Best Advice to Stop Overthinking











Overthinking, or the inability to stop thinking so much, can make you mentally and emotionally exhausted, not to mention, it sabotages your self-confidence in the process. The act of overthinking, replaying conversations in your head, or second-guessing yourself, is a subconscious expression of doubt and lack of self-trust in your own actions, interactions and decision making. You don't have to stay stuck in this pattern of thinking. In this podcast episode you'll learn the best advice to stop overthinking and manage your mind with confidence, calmness and certainty. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/449


In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about: 


Overthinking: what it is and why we get stuck in it3 things you can do right now to break the overthinking habitThe best advice I can give anyone to stop overthinking


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 



Trish Blackwell is Amazing!, tere621



When I first started listening to The Confidence Podcast, there was an anxious pit in my stomach. I would not eat, when I did it- it would not stay down, and I would wake up every morning to dry heave and cry because I felt helpless. Trish ash helped me understand that I DO NOT HAVE TO BELIEVE EVERY THOUGHT that comes through my head. Thoughts can make you believe the most evil and negative things, she helped me understand that I have the power to change my thoughts and choose to believe my truth. Thank you Trish, you truly are a gift to this world!







 
OVERTHINKING: WHY WE GET STUCK IN IT



If you've ever wondered how to not overthink ever again, this video will teach you how. Overthinking leads to anxious thinking, a lack of self-trust, indecisiveness and stress. When you overthink, you create a cycle of negative thoughts, catastrophizing, uncertainty, stress and overwhelm, and your mind is lying to you about feeling stuck. Your mind lies and makes you feel like you are insecure, uncertain about what to do next and that your thoughts are not good ones.



Your thoughts are powerful, and anyone can learn how to stop overthinking, how to trust your decisions, how to be more decisive and how to have confidence in your choices…it all starts with learning how to manage your mind.


 
Ways that overthinking manifests:



Racing thoughts - especially at night.Replaying of and obsessing over conversations.Creating narratives of what people are thinking about something you said.Delaying a decision because of decision overwhelm and decision fatigueWorrying that the decision you made was the wrong oneCatastrophizing scenarios and living in the future or the past


 
What it does to us:



Perpetuates self-doubt


Puts us into a place of desperation for outward validation


Removes confidence in our own gut and natural instincts


Causes us to live out of integrity - we don’t always do what we say we are going to do or what we want to do


Increases our anxiety and stress


Messes with our sleep 


Directs our focus on what people think of us instead of what we think about ourselves (by the way if you want coaching on getting free from this in particular, watch my free masterclass, How to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring) 


Disconnects us from self-trust 


Removes us from the ability to be in the present


Complicates and waters down our relationship with others


Delays our future success and limits our opportunities (because we move forward with major hesitation and obvious self-doubt)


Create a pattern of playing small when God created us for so much more


STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN


 
3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO BREAK THE OVERTHINKING HABIT



Every overthinking pattern has a root habit: identify yours.



-Does yours come from fear?



-Does yours come from inheritance / what you saw growing up?



-Does yours come desire to control?



-> Figure out your main root emotion.