Podcast #510
 
SILENCING THE SELF-CRITICAL VOICE






 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:


The mean voice that lurks inside of you and spirals you into defeat, discouragement and discontentSelf-criticism as intentional self-sabotage Believing in the neuroplasticity of your brain - and your ability to change how you think


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:



My dentist recommended me to this podcast. the kindness he shared so I could find and listen to a podcast that was able to start directing me. With always asking how and where even to start, this was an answer. 



Thank you both for providing hope.



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QUOTES ON SELF-CRITICISM



One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide. -Charles Horton Cooley



You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. -Louise Hay



Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. -Dale Carnegie



If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never walk or talk. Can you imagine infants stomping, "Aargh! Screwed up again!" Fortunately, babies are free of self-criticism. They just keep practicing.  - Dan Millman



We all have the tendency to believe in self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for you, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged. -Kelly McGonigal


 
DEFEAT, DISCOURAGEMENT, AND DISCONTENT



The inner mean voice.



We all have one.



What does yours say?



Acknowledge that you're the critic.Decide that criticism isn't necessary.Dare to try a new way - to try on kindness.Know what thought tracks you typically revert to (so you know the bully when you hear it)Understand what happens when you believe the voiceTalk back to the bullyGive birth to a baby believe that your brain is transforming


 
SELF-CRITICISM AS SELF-SABOTAGE



It keeps you stuck. It makes you tip-toe. It creates stagnancy. It makes your world smaller. 



The voice, especially if you've practiced it a lot in your past, will still be audible, but it can be placed on mute, or have the volume turned down significantly. 



Understand why self-criticism served you (or you thought it did)



Did it bring you to action



Did it make you feel shame



Did it motivate you to be better



Did it repeat a pattern you were taught?


 
BELIEVING IN THE NEUROPLASTICITY OF YOUR BRAIN, AND YOUR ABILITY TO CHANGE



Focused Attention



-grow new neurons by connecting them with stronger neurons that already exist; engage your brain in planning, complex concepts, self-reflection, and emotional self-regulation awareness



Deliberate Repetition and Practice



-structured mindset growth habits, journaling; new connections are fragile, massive repetition matters 



Maximize your physical health



-there's a brain and body connection - hydration, nutrients, movement, sleep, and stress matter.



Spiritual Expansion