Podcast #450
How to Stop Feeling Awful About Yourself
 










Beating yourself up, or indulging in the emotion of feeling awful about yourself, when you're not where you want to be isn't effective. It's not a helpful thought pattern, and yet, we find ourselves in places of despair. Despair drives us to desperation, depression and disillusionment. It morphs our ability to see where we are, how well we are actually doing, and intimidates us on how far we have to yet go. This podcast episode covers how to break the cycle of self-criticism so that you can start feeling encouraged, hopeful and like you like who you are again. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/450


In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:


·       Indulgent emotions, and how to know when you need to really take control of them (and how to do just that)



·       A 3-step, simple process to help you stop feeling awful about yourself, whatever the situation is



·       How to stop believing that you're stuck or will always feel this way … and some specific thought substitution examples for you to try on in your own brain


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
 


Awesomeness - 5 stars



Hooked oof of the first episode I heard on self-criticism! Felt like she knew me personally … and she's faith based!!! 



(brenelso) 




 
INDULGENT EMOTIONS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM
 


Indulgent emotions are emotions that keep you stagnating in a place of self-pity and powerlessness. 



For me, these emotions were 



-self-hated



-disappointment (most notably in myself)



-disgust (most notably about my body)



-hopelessness (most notably about my progress)



-confusion



Recognize that you are in power.



You are choosing to indulge your toddler, dramatic brain.



The more you indulge it, the more convincing, and a monster it becomes. 



Put the toddler in the corner.



Remember that you have a bigger perspective than the thought.



Decide to not give into the dramatization or catastrophizing … and that all of the narratives you have created about what other people are thinking about you are just not happening. 


 
HOW TO REALLY NOT BELIEVE YOU'RE STUCK
 


I've been in places of awfulness.



1.     Body dysmorphia, insecurity and eating disorder.



2.     Financial rock bottom and hopelessness / powerlessness 



3.     Hustle mindset and entrepreneurial comparison.



Most importantly: stand firm against the pitiful thought … "I'm stuck". 



How to Not Believe You're Stuck?



Believe in the compound effect.



Take your thought management seriously.



Credit yourself for the new tools you have.



Acknowledge your dissatisfaction with stagnancy.



Remember you can create anything.



Success leaves clues - keep yourself inspired. 



Take your commitments and plans with yourself seriously - be of integrity. 


 
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