Podcast #438
The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It
 










The fear of disappointment can keep you playing it safe and staying small on the sidelines of life. You may think you're protecting yourself or being realistic, but really all you are doing is guaranteeing that your life as a whole will be less than you were created for, and that's disappointing. Disappointment is part of being human, and when you learn how to feel through your disappointments, they end up being tools to deepen your confidence, hone your drive and leverage what really matters the most. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/438


 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're diving deep into disappointment, specifically:
 


The relationship of disappointment to self-criticismHow to process and feel disappointmentThe key to moving past it for good - and not being held back by the fear of it in your life


 
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HOW DOES DISAPPOINTMENT DESTROY OUR CONFIDENCE?
 


Let's talk briefly about the relationship with disappointment, our fear of disappointment and self-criticism. 



-Disappointment in ourselves



-Disappointment in others



-Disappointment in how our lives have panned out



-Disappointment in choices



Or even, the fear of



-Thinking you’re a disappointment



-Being told you are a disappointing



-The classic, "I'm not mad at you, I'm just disappointed"



-Telling yourself that you've disappointed God 



Disappointment seems to sting deep in our character, burning us at the core of our identity where it hurts the most. But we are separate from our disappointments, and our disappointments can't and shouldn't hold us back from living fully.



I paused many years of my life because of disappointment. I thought by trying to control more things, play it safe, set smaller - more controllable goals, not get my hopes up, etc that I was protecting myself from emotions I didn't think "I could handle."



First - I didn't know that I can handle anything. Maybe you don't know that either. But it's true, you can.Second - I protected myself, that's for sure, but from a full, fulfilling and impact-making life. Third - Disappointment is part of being human; it's not something avoidable, either you let it make you miss out, or you embrace being willing to feel your feelings and move through them. 


 
THE FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT
 


Quotes on Disappointment:



Disappointment opens our hearts to know what we really care about. Don't worry about the perceived closed door, focus instead on the open heart. More opportunity will come. 



-Trish Blackwell



We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain or regret or disappointment. –Jim Rohn



The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trail with humility. –Thomas S Monson



If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. –Henry David Thoreau



Fear of disappointment is a false sense of control and a disillusioned belief that we can avoid a basic human emotion.


 
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