Podcast #453
Why You're Not Doing What You Want to Do











Not doing what you say you want to do is one of the most frustrating patterns that is easy to fall into and will perpetuate low self-esteem and stagnancy. Be kind to yourself though! This isn't an issue of lacking discipline, laziness or not caring - it's a belief issue, and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast you'll learn exactly what you can do to break the cycle. It's time to be a person of absolute self-integrity who always keeps their promises to themselves.


In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:


The 3 main reasons keeping you stuck and holding you back and resulting in your feeling like you're a person who doesn't do what you want to toHow to really decide and commit to doing what you say you want to do5 things you can do right now to start being someone who does what they say they're going to do


 
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WHY NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IS TOXIC



It breaks your integrity with yourself.It creates an atmosphere of self-doubt and hesitation.It imposes self-limitations that actually don't exist.It convinces you that things are harder to achieve than they actually are.It sabotages your confidence and courage.It discourages you and disappoints your self-concept.It invites you to play small and justifies a "I can't help it" victim mentality 


 
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YOU HAVEN'T REALLY DECIDED TO DO IT
 


Sure, you think you have.But deciding to do something means that you're committed completely - anticipating the challenges, the resistance, the times when you aren't going to feel like it.You haven't created a plan for the days when it sucks. You can commit to self-doubt, or you can commit to your goal – you can’t do both.The emotion of confusion is keeping you in doubt. 


 
YOU DON'T REALLY BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT



You're burdened and bogged down by the evidence of the past and you're misinterpreting it. Instead of seeing it as an example of how not to do it, or a way you have grown and learned doesn't work, you see it as a limitation and prediction of what is possible in the future. “It’s never worked out before” is the one thought that keeps us from our potential. It drags our past into our present unnecessarilyEverything in the future should be something you’ve never done in the pastIt's time to create and foster new belief.Belief creation comes from intentional thought creation.I have a course on this in the College of Confidence, but for now, here's what you need to know:



Decide what you want to believe.Write down a thought - or list of thoughts - that bridge the way to that belief.Repeat these daily.Catch and substitute every thought that doesn’t align with your new belief.Track the evidence of how you are changing on the inside out. 


 
YOU HAVE CONVINCED YOURSELF IT WILL BE TOO HARD



And therefore it doesn't feel worth the effort. It's not too hard.