Podcast #457
How to Give Yourself Approval and Believe You're Good Enough







Not feeling good "enough" and always needing the affirmation, approval or acceptance of others can severely limit your ability to tap into your fullest potential and greatest amount of joy in life. This coaching explores how to give yourself approval, believe you're enough and trust your own decisions, even if you've struggled in the past with being a people-pleaser or with thriving on words of affirmation or on someone else telling you what to do.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:


How to break over-attachment to other people's affirmations, approvals and opinions, even if you're a words-of-affirmation-love-language-personLearning how to give yourself approval, trust yourself and be your own voice of encouragement … how to know you're on the right path when the path isn't visible or laid out by someone elseA list of affirmations you can use to speak life into yourself - the ones that will help you believe you are good enough and that will help you trust your own voice, intuition and innate, God-given potential


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK



Awesome podcast - 5 stars



Trish's calming voice, relatable storytelling and spot-on advice has been SO helpful for me. I just started a new job within my company and the confidence and stop caring what people think specific episodes have been really beneficial to me. I love that she has so many episodes that I can glance through and take what I need for the day.



-SageSC





 



LET'S COACH!



The path is unknown.



Even if you think it's obvious for others, it never really is.



The acceptance of the unknown is an acceptance of our humanity.



It invites us into a life of faith, and confidence.



It challenges us to think with belief and active mental management.



We grow up in a very directional, progression-based environment. You complete first grade, you move to second grade. You advance your skill set in a sport, and you progress to the next level of mastery, training or competition. You graduate high school, and you move onto college.



And in many ways, this structure is excellence.



But in some ways, it handicaps our confidence in our own choices.



You have a path unique to you.



You get to learn how to trust the direction you choose to go.



Whichever direction I take, it will be awesome.


 
OVER-ATTACHMENT TO PEOPLE'S AFFIRMATION



I needed applause, affirmation - but this belief limited my full growth, my access to impenetrable peace and real freedom.



It's okay to be a words-of-affirmation person, and feel loved by compliments and affirmation; we all need that to some extent … but, we also have power when we learn how to give it to ourselves.



If you wait for others, then you'll get stuck in the performance/pressure cycle…or people-pleasing, and you'll get the affirmation you crave, but perhaps not for an area of life you want or care about.



Overly relying on other people's validation or direction removes you from your own natural ability to trust your own judgment.


 
GIVING YOURSELF APPROVAL



Yep, good job, me.



Yes, that's a good decision.



Yes, I've got this.



Sure, I can probably figure that out.



Absolutely, I'm growing and on my way.



We do this as young children, and so why did it lose it's luster?



We shout "I did it!" or "I can do it!" and yet we outgrow that as adults?



It became uncool at some point.



But what's more uncool than that, is the self-doubt that suffocates the real you from shining. The desperate need we all have within, hoping we are accepted, loved and noticed.



You don't have to wait for someone to notice you, you can notice yourself.



When you decide to think that you are amazing, you'll feel amazing.



When you feel amazing, you'll carry yourself amazingly.



And when you carry yourself amazingly, people notice.


 
TRUSTING YOURSELF



Make a choice and stick with your choice.