Life support for young people offender: Self-reflection and personal Developmenauthor

By Samuel Samiris

Guide to youth welfare psychology
The book is about self-discovery and reflection. Juvenile delinquents usually have a difficult past. Mistreatment and sexual assaults are not uncommon and so there are deficits in their development that should be compensated. I use simple examples to show how they can find each other again and how they can connect to society. Program yourself positively and shed guilt. How the psyche and emotions dominate them and what needs to be done to finally counteract old patterns. You will find yourself in the book and get help.
This book goes very far and deep and will touch you so much.

• Language: English
• Publisher: tredition
• Release date: Apr 28, 2023
• ISBN: 9783384125866

Book preview

The author and his pseudonym Samuel Samiris.

I am writing this book under the pseudonym Samuel Samiris. Although I stand by all of this and make others and myself vulnerable with my open and honest statements, I don’t want to compromise anyone. Therefore, I write under a pseudonym to remain anonymous.

The goal.

My goal in this book is to deal with young offenders and to show young people in the discovery phase what is happening to them emotionally and psychologically and how this affects their lives. I would like to show strategies for disciplining yourself and maintaining full control over yourself in order to enable your personality to develop as normally as possible. By reading the book, young people and parents can learn how to reflect and become aware of their actions, build their self-confidence and selfesteem, and accept and love themselves. It explains how problems and complex feelings arise and how to solve them. In addition, misguided feelings/emotions that are problematic are identified and corrected.

Life support for young offenders.

Young offenders are usually exposed to complex problems and are often unfamiliar with the normal world. But it is precisely this normal world and its rules that show them how they should behave. This is a big mistake, as criminals are usually excluded from this so-called normal world and laughed at in secret. This creates no feeling for this other world and no basic acceptance. Because of my own experiences, I understand young people very well and therefore write on an equal level.

I myself have gone through a major change and am now free of many things that once burdened and triggered me. By intensively dealing with the psyche and emotions as well as by studying gestures, facial expressions and body language, I have managed to grow from a person who was overlooked and unfounded with complexes to a mentally strong and balanced person. This means triggering is hardly possible anymore.

In this book I write about phases of life and explain the influence of psyche and emotions.

Example: - why do you have complexes and where do they come from?

- What do they cause in you?

- What drives you?

- Why do you keep making all these mistakes?

- How to cure all this? Etc.

I’ve always asked myself why I am the way I am. I thought that in reality I wasn’t like that at all and was more of a nice guy! Nobody saw it except my dear Grandma Elsa. So I always asked myself the same questions: Why do I still make mistakes? Why did I surround myself with the wrong people? Why did I have friends who often humiliated me?

Why do I feel inferior to normal people? Where was my mind?

Why didn’t I have strength within me? Why didn’t I care about anything?

Why, why, why… Unfortunately, it often happens that you are neglected at a young age and therefore lack certain social behavior.

You often don’t understand why this is the case.

The parents who are responsible for this are usually busy with themselves. You have neglected the child due to lack of time, ignorance or your own problems, and without intention. They often don’t know any different, and so it’s normal for them. Basically, they are often just as much a victim as their child, whom they are now turning into a victim without knowing it by leaving the child alone to fend for themselves and giving little guidance. Parents are often unable to raise their children lovingly because they don’t know how to do it themselves. They’ve never been shown it, and so that’s their normality. The victims are now turning into the perpetrators.

Early childhood is a time when a baby gradually develops his emotional mind, without words and numbers. It learns to interpret the facial expressions, gestures and body language of its parents more and more and stores everything in images and the associated emotions. It has an instant feel for every facial expression.

As he learns the language, he neglects this again and trusts people’s statements more and more, and so in the end all that is left is his gut feeling.

If there is a lack of communication and information, a deficiency arises. The child often compensates for this in his thoughts, which are always connected to the emotion. In this way, misunderstood experiences remain stuck in images in the emotional world of thoughts. These emotional images and their associated events are clarified over time by the developing mind. If the experience is too drastic for the mind to be unable to clarify it for itself, then a child will find other ways in their thoughts to compensate for a lack of information. Such a deficiency often means psychological pain.

In extreme situations, a substitute world often develops alongside the real world of thoughts in which survival mechanisms are present. In order to continue to survive, our minds allow little white lies. This causes reality to become slightly distorted until everything is bearable again. These white lies in our minds help us escape, endure or alleviate emotional pain. Over time, complex patterns can emerge that give us some quality of life again. Lying to ourselves is helpful and helps us deal with suffering well into old age.

Maybe you’ve experienced this too: Because you’re lonely, you go to a party that doesn’t actually interest you. Or you have wrinkles removed or breasts implanted because you suffer from a feeling of inferiority. Or you buy food you don’t need just to reward yourself. All these lies and complexes make our existence easier and make us forget the mental pain for a while.

They make our lives more bearable for a short time. But we must not be aware of any of this and suppress all reason. They are repressed feelings that have not been heard or processed for many years.

When the loss of reality due to lying to ourselves progresses and the emotional pain can no longer be compensated for, young people even accept crime. This often happens due to lack of attention and selfconfidence. We all want to be loved and not feel alone. Some people are willing to take a risk for this.

No one is born a criminal, but complexities and lack of self-esteem can lead people down the wrong path. I can’t blame anyone here because if there is someone to blame, he is just as much a victim. A mother who abuses her child does not do so because she wants to. Most of the time she cannot deal with her own suffering. She is unable to cope with the situation and is only compensating for her own suffering. However, that doesn’t mean their behavior is acceptable. A person with a normal upbringing may not be able to understand this and often judge too quickly. However, there is an unpleasant world for people who have been spiritually alone or mistreated and have therefore chosen the wrong path. These people often do not know which emotions control and guide them internally. They don’t know why or who triggers this in them.

Those who come from such an environment usually do not have the mental strength and knowledge to question themselves or reflect honestly.

This is exactly why I am writing this book.

These people have a developmental disability, but are by no means stupid.

They lack the knowledge and understanding of the psyche and emotions so that they can make correct decisions for their lives.

Normal interaction has been lost and so they usually look for people/groups who are going through the same things as them. They then show solidarity and this is where the vicious circle closes.

To anyone who accepts my help, I pass on my knowledge and experiences and provide information. Because they don’t act out of their reason, but out of their emotions and therefore don’t know what they’re doing. They don’t deserve to be sidelined because of their past. They need psychological and emotional education so that they can make up for everything they are missing. Only then

Can you reach the spiritual height that your age dictates?

They usually only react to stimuli and pain that lies deep within them. You are triggered and, out of ignorance, you cannot do anything about it. So they keep going in circles. Only in their circle of friends do they get the understanding that they lack at home. This group of friends usually has similar problems. This explains why they keep seeking refuge in these circles and do not avoid them.

Young people assimilate themselves in order to be recognized and accepted. There they have confirmation and a status that they lack at home.

They have no strengths within them, no self-confidence and no self-esteem. They fail to accept themselves and therefore cannot love themselves. You were never taught anything like this. On the contrary, they were usually shown no or false appreciation. All of this makes them vulnerable and easily hurt. They hardly know anything about the psyche and emotions. Anyone who allows emotions risks being vulnerable. That’s why it happens that you’d rather go for a tough guy, no matter what you think. They constantly want to prove themselves in order to gain a place and status in the world. They seek attention, not humiliation. They want to be loved and not disrespected.

I am able to write about all of these issues on an equal level and speak about them as a guest speaker to give them an expanded and new awareness. This new awareness changes their thought pattern and thus their life course. But it is clear that this does not happen overnight.

It is a seed that needs to be watered for a while until the stem is stable enough not to fall over at the slightest gust of wind. The rapidly growing awareness of this reduces the recidivism rates of young offenders.

Now back to the escape into the world of thoughts Toddlers.

Escape into a world of thought in which everything is possible is normal. Because it is only here in our imagination that we are creative and consider things. In this fantasy world we try out a lot of things. We learn and reason in it without much effort. Compensate for our problems and feelings there and find solutions to alleviate the pain within us. So it’s not surprising if we allow a lie within us to keep away greater damage or the misery of reality. In this toddler time

The emotional world and beliefs grow within us. One of those natural mechanisms within us is to scream when we need something.

But as we get older, we become more and more detached from our parents and become more independent.

So we find more and more solutions for our lives and hardly need our parents. It’s a good idea to have an advisor for emergencies or someone in your family who can help with financial difficulties. This is completely normal and strengthens family bonds.

If you have a small child where no one responds to their crying anymore, that will help itself over time.

Whether it has learned this or not, it means that it has no instructions and is trying as it goes. If the toddler is left alone too often, a developmental disorder is possible.

If abuse or mistreatment is prevalent, this becomes even more difficult. A small child has no way of escaping and ducks. It remains dependent and escape or help is hardly possible. If babies or small children are not valued, the reverse conclusion is that they are worth nothing. If a toddler or baby does not express the problem because he or she does not speak, then the experience is stored in images and emotions because the child’s understanding does not process this.

Rational thinking lacks understanding of the problem and vocabulary. The relevant experiences and words are missing to achieve an understanding of all this. So they only have the option of expressing their needs through sounds and their emotionality as well as through their gestures, facial expressions and body language. They only process everything in images and emotions because the spoken word of clarification does not exist for them.

They interpret the facial expressions that they have saved in saved images and thereby recognize what the parents want to communicate to them. When the mother takes out the breast, the baby knows it is time to eat.

It is important to understand that beliefs are not set in stone and can be changed. A person who has been conditioned by their experiences and environment to show aggressive behavior patterns can learn to react differently through targeted training but also through therapeutic measures. However, it requires patience, commitment and the willingness to question and change your own beliefs.

It is also important to emphasize that every person is responsible for their actions and reactions, regardless of their beliefs and experiences. We have the ability to consciously choose how we respond to certain situations and should strive to make our actions consistent with our values and beliefs.

But what if the baby does not understand aggression and is not aware of guilt? Nobody tells the child that the mother had a bad day and that someone at work reminded her of her brutal father, who often abused and humiliated her as a small child. She cannot cope with the stress and reacts in the same way as her father, as she only knows this aggressive behavior, which is deeply anchored in her through constant repetition. It’s all of their stored images and associated emotions that make them react the same way their parent once did.

Often it is the unbridled anger and the scenario of the images that she sees in her mind and sees as a normal reaction to what has happened. Yes, it is her right to act as she once saw and felt, because this was her reality and truth in which she lived for a long time.

This has shaped her beliefs over time, and she has known no other way for many years. Therefore, this is their normality and truth, their subjective reality, which is deeply anchored in their beliefs. Beliefs are supporting pillars in our psyche and emotionality. Therefore, we are sensitive or insensitive to certain situations depending on how we are conditioned.

An example:

Nobody would think of killing someone for no reason because we are who we are. In other words: We are conditioned in our beliefs so that we don’t do this. These beliefs are almost unshakable.

However, if we are conditioned differently in our beliefs, we are ready to kill and go to war that was once senseless for us. Or how we humans condition our dogs, we are also conditioned by a lot of things outside. Let that sink in.

Another example:

For a murderer, the parameters of the beliefs are different than for a peaceful person, but as the beliefs change, the priorities also change.

Anyone who thinks they can exclude themselves is wrong. Because in another time, taking life wasn’t a big deal.

Through the constant experience of brutality, murder, manslaughter and wars in his environment, the abnormal becomes normal. The many repetitions form the beliefs. Through the many repetitions (habit effect) of lies, wrong becomes right. The suggested truth is thus established in their eyes. Over time, these become their truth and beliefs.

People who have experienced great psychological suffering at an early stage and over many years tend to act accordingly, as they once imagined. Anyone who doesn’t talk about it because of a lack of understanding, pain or shame has not processed it and runs the risk of being triggered. If it is not emotionally processed and understood, it does not heal. If man only achieves justice in his imagination and his just revenge is only lived out there, then the constant repetition in the mind’s eye develops into his own truth and beliefs. They program themselves through their own sense of justice to their truth, which has become alien to reality.

Most of the time it is the unbearable pain that is repressed. If this person is triggered by their memories or other circumstances and is thus confronted with pain, shame and much more, but they cannot bear it themselves, this can change depending on the extent. Up to and including the rampage. There are people who seem completely normal and have largely adapted. They are often nice, friendly and helpful. However, if you get on these people’s nerves and accidentally trigger them, there is a risk that they will fall out of their usual behavioral pattern and immerse themselves in a different world of thoughts or get mentally stuck there.

If you let your emotions flow and vent in this world of thoughts, you relieve yourself and let everything out.