Children Need Both Parents

By Joseph Heckler

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, the author exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Joseph Heckler
• Release date: Jun 15, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201600624

Book preview

PART 1 The inheritance of parenting

As the saying goes : Words are worse than deeds. Before thinking about your child's behavior, consider the role models they follow, one of which is you.

This section will focus on you because you have a significant impact on your child. In this section, I will give examples of how the past affects the present when it comes to parent-child relationships. Children often evoke old feelings in our hearts, and when we face children, we accidentally react to those evoked emotions. Therefore, it is extremely important for parents to constantly examine their hearts and do more self-criticism, so as not to pass on the destructive power to the next generation.

Influence of past experience

Children need warmth and acceptance, a gentle touch of the body, your presence, and love with boundaries, understanding, reassurance, and communication with people of all ages, and your attention and time. Oh, if only that were easy, this book could end here. But things are not that simple, because you will always encounter some obstacles, and there will always be some troubles in life, such as: bad environment, cumbersome parenting details,

money pressure, work pressure, lack of time, physical and mental exhaustion, etc. . .

However, there is something more likely to hold us back than these difficulties: the parenting styles we acquire as infants and toddlers. If we don't reflect on how we grew up and the influence of our previous generation on us, one day you will find out that those experiences will jump out unexpectedly and give you a carbine. You might have said something like, I opened my mouth and said the same thing as my mother. If those words were all positive and made you feel as a child that someone needed you, cared for you, and protected you, then that’s fine, of course, but in practice those words tend to have the opposite effect.

As a parent, attitudes that have negative consequences include: lack of confidence, pessimism, overprotection, and constant worry. These attitudes will affect the quality of the parent-child relationship.

Fortunately, it's never too late to make changes that will improve the lives of your children and their children. Don't let the wrong parenting style of the previous generation leave you in the shadow of your next generation. You can calmly dismantle and analyze your childhood, look back on the past, what unforgettable things happened in your family life, how you felt at the time, and how you feel now. After you've done your analysis, forget about the unpleasant memories and leave only the positive ones you

need.

If your family treats you as a unique and valuable individual when you are growing up, gives you unconditional love, and gives you enough positive attention, and your family has a harmonious relationship, then you will get a chance to cultivate a positive relationship. Blueprint, you also have the confidence to contribute to your family and community when you grow up.

If, unfortunately, you didn't have that kind of childhood (as most people do), looking back can be psychologically uncomfortable. You need to face up to this uncomfortable feeling, and always remind