God Gave Me You
By Dan Dooley
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It is a guide for young couples who are facing marriage for the first time. Marriage is complicated. It is not meant to be easy like two young children playing house with the boy sitting at the tiny play kitchen table, and the girl, pouring a cup with pretend tea for him. And handing him a small plastic plate with a pretend meal which she has prepared on her toy stove.
Then within the next few minutes the boy growing tired of this girlish stuff, gets up and goes and seeks some of the fellows to do something else much more fun. And the girl herself, now bored of the game, goes inside to spend some time with mum.
No. Marriage is not like that at all. There are things beyond the romantic imagery in living real life together which can be anything but fun.
In this book, 'God Gave Me You,' we explore the realities of marriage. But we do so from a biblical perspective. Marriage was created and ordained by God from the very beginning. It is blessed and it is a wonderful estate enjoyed by two people who learn to face the pitfalls and place the other one first. But first only after God, for unless God is at the head of the marriage, the couple are missing out on the best their marriage can offer them.
But the book does not deal only with the pitfalls and the problems. The joys of marriage are also celebrated. Indeed that is the purpose of marriage. Two people who's lives and hearts are now joined and who's desire is enjoy each other for life share in the joys of marriage. And together they overcome the rough edges.
But not only is this book a guide for those couples new to marriage. Some have been married before, but because of divorce or even widowhood, they choose to enter marriage again. Now a whole new set of challenges face them.
We touch on the challenge of blending families together. Children brought into a marriage from previous marriages, and other challenges. Challenges which if guided right, they can overcome.
Not only for couples soon to be married, or just newly married, but for pastors and other marriage ministers, this book can be a source of material for pre-marriage counseling, or as we might as well say, pre-marriage preparation.
Available in both paperback and ebook form.
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God Gave Me You - Dan Dooley
Introduction
Afriend of mine recently told me his definition of love. Love is when she asks you to pull on her big toe after she’s come home from a hard day of work on her feet. And you do it anyway.
As humorous and perhaps as distasteful as that story may appear on the surface, when you marry, you are taking on the life and the body of another human being.
Story book ideals aside, her feet are not going to be so pleasant to be near after a hard day of being cramped up in shoes. Are you going to have a moment’s hesitation before sacrificing your comfort for hers? That’s what marriage is about.
The first addition of this book was written in 2006. At the time, I intended to complete it and publish it. Life and other obligations got in the way, and the project got set aside. And pretty much forgotten.
A lot has changed for me since 2006. My career working years came to a conclusion with my entering into retirement. Life took a horrible turn for me in 2016 when my wife of fifty years was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
The words we had spoken at the altar, as we stood before our pastor, her family, my family and a host of friends and witnesses, became all too real. Till death does part us.
Every bride and groom should know that, if the marriage lasts that long, that promise is going to be collected sooner or later. As newlyweds, we speak the words because they are part of the ceremony.
We give little thought to the reality of it happening to us. After all, we’re young - I was twenty-one, and she was twenty - and we’re going to live forever. The old and they lived happily ever after
thing.
Life changes, and with her passing, it changed drastically for me. Nothing was the same. And it has not been the same ever since.
But, if we allow it, there is hope for love after loss. I made the choice. I had been a husband for fifty years. I knew of no reason why I should not continue wanting to be a husband.
God was gracious to me. He sent a wonderful widow my way. Her name is Patsy. Throughout this book, I will make references to her. And to us. We were married in 2018.
Life is certainly different from what it was before. For both of us. But, our life has been blessed greatly. She and I have found opportunities for service, both within the widowed community and within other areas of ministry.
Right now, we are serving in a church which has an emphasis on ministering to the addiction recovery community. That’s a new area for us, for it is not within our own personal history, other than experiences with certain family members in the past. But it is where God has placed us during this season in our lives.
Recently, I remembered this book. Patsy and I have been involved in marriage mentoring and in some sessions with couples struggling with their marriages, many of the points raised in the book have inspired me to spend some time updating the manuscript and preparing it for publication.
Since the time of my wedding with Patsy, I have entered another venture. That of being a published novelist. Thus all the more reason for seeing this book through to completion and publication.
I hope, for the reader, whether couples just beginning, or about to begin their entry into marriage, or pastors and others who use the material presented here for pre-marital counseling, or even an aged couple joining hands in a second, or perhaps even a third or more marriage, that something written here will be words of encouragement and help.
Thanks to my wonderful wife Patsy for proofreading and offering her input, advice, and support on this project.
Chapter 1- What Is Marriage All About?
God Designed Marriage to Satisfy Needs:
Man needed a companion . Humans have a social nature that craves companionship. People naturally crave meaningful relationships. God in His infinite wisdom knew this from the very beginning.
And the LORD God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.
(Gen 2:18-19 NKJV)
We need a companion for fellowship and communication. Communication is important, and is a built-in need of every person. We desire someone to talk to. Someone to share hopes, dreams, joys and yes, even sorrows with.
Man needs a completer. God used the term helper
when he created the companion for man. A companion to provide fellowship, sure, but more than that.
Another human specifically designed by nature to provide assistance, to help him, and to make up those parts of him which make him whole.
That other human being would be like him, but yet unlike him. Opposite, in many ways, both physically and emotionally. Opposite but complementary.
It is no accident of wording that God said, "they will become one flesh." The two joined together make a whole. Parts were missing and this was not a defect of creation on God’s part.
He intended it to be such. The woman is what is missing in the man, and the man is what is missing in the woman.
The differences in temperament and interests between them are complemented by the addition of the other. In many ways they are opposites, and in nature, opposites do indeed attract.
A good wife will fill in his weak spots. A good husband will let her fill those weak spots.
The reverse is equally true as it applies to the woman.
Men And Women Are Not the Same
Or as the