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In this episode, we share our personal struggle with physical intimacy in the first 4 years of our marriage. We thought we had done everything right by saving our selves for marriage and believed God owned us a good healthy physical intimacy. But that was not how our marriage story began. In fact, we couldn't have intercourse for over 4 years. Listen and see how God used this trial to draw us closer to Himself and to each other. This part of our marriage story is also where our marriage ministry was born.
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Hey, we're Aaron and Jennifer Smith with Marriage After God.


Helping you cultivate an extraordinary marriage.


Today, we're gonna share with you our struggle with intimacy. Hey, thanks for joining us again this week. As usual, we want to invite you to subscribe to our channel so you get notified every single time we upload an episode.


Also, we would love for you to share this video with your married couple friends.


So, in this episode, we're gonna just dive into one aspect of our marriage. It's been the one that has defined our ministry in many ways. It's the one that started us into the ministry of just encouraging marriages and wanting to impart to other people what God's been teaching us. It's in the area of intimacy. We did an episode telling our whole overarching, you know, marriage testimony. But, we just want to talk mostly, in this episode, about what the intimacy issues were, what we dealt with, when it started. Hopefully, you guys can get just bit deeper into knowing us. And also, maybe get some hope if you're in a situation similar to ours because we've talked to people that have had similar situations and they felt like us, hopeless. So, in sharing with you, we hope that you would be encouraged and also maybe even encouraged to tell your own story to someone to find help if you need it. So, that's what our goal is today.


Yeah, sharing about sex and intimacy is not an easy topic to cover. Like, it's not easy or natural to just tell the world about the struggles that you've had.


I even fought you on doing this one, this episode.


You did.


I was like, do we really want to talk about that right now?


But, here's the thing. I found that as we shared our story over the years, we found that it has brought healing and freedom and encouragement to other people in hopeless situations or painful situations. Situations where, just like us, they felt completely alone or too embarrassed to talk about it. So, we wrestled with all those insecurities in the beginning, too. But, as we started to talk about it, we found that it was okay to talk about it and we should be talking about certain things so that other people know how to get help. Or just be encouraged to know that they're not alone in those struggles and to give them that little bit of hope that will carry them on through the next day and the next day and the next day.


In reality, the Bible talks about just being children of light. We've talked about this in the past. The idea is the enemy loves to keep us in the darkness. We like to keep our sin in the darkness. We like to keep to pains in the darkness, don't tell anyone, don't share, you're the only one dealing with it. You know what it does, is it keeps us right there. You never find healing, you never find victory. So, we've found that the more we talk about it, the more victory we have over it. It doesn't control us emotionally, it doesn't control us physically, it doesn't control us spiritually. So, our ministry and hope is that we're helping people, teaching people, showing peo