Love Has No Feelings

By Harvey Brooks and TBD

This book is entitled Love Has No Feelings. Many of the stories shared in this book come from real-life experiences of characters trying to decipher love in their minds through love relationships, such as marriage, divorce, parenting, children, relatives, friends, and enemies.

What is love? This book talks about relationship

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Pen House LLC
• Release date: Mar 19, 2020
• ISBN: 9781951961077

Harvey Brooks

My name is Harvey Brooks the reason I am writing this book as I was growing up there was a lot of questions in my mind why do people say and do the things that they do I knew that I had a problem within myself I made the choice to give my life to the Lord he taught me a lot of wisdom and knowledge concerning this world one day I was talking to a co-worker he was telling me the good th ings about marriage I told him there is another side concerning marriage pain and suffering he was really move about what I said God laid it on my heart to write this bookO

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LOVE HAS NO FEELINGS

This book is written to provide information and motivation to readers. Its purpose is not to render any type of psychological, legal, or professional advice of any kind. The content is the sole opinion and expression of the author, and not necessarily that of the publisher.

Copyright © 2020 by Harvey Brooks

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Contents

Introduction

Marriage

Marriage Relationship

Tyrone

Cathey

Jerry’s Story

Parenting

Friends

Relatives

Friends

The Enemy

Final Words

Introduction

Love, what is Love? Love is an action word. It is an active and living demonstration of something within you. How can we talk about love without the ONE instrumental in creating the universe? The Creator of Love! How can you leave Him out of love? We know life is a balance of male and female, up and down, in and out, hot and cold, good and bad, right and wrong, night and day, sun and moon. Since God created all things with balance; that would conclude that love has an aspect of balance in itself. Imagine you are looking at a pair scales and on one side you find the word Light, and on the other side you find the word Darkness. The light side of love represents all the days of joy, peace, happiness, and that and we have a dark side of love. The light side of love could The dark side of love has pain and suffering which of this book entitled Love Has No Feelings. Many of the stories shared in this book come from real life experiences of characters trying to decipher in their minds through love relationships such as marriage, divorce, parenting, children, relatives, friends, and ene mies.

My hope is that as you read the pages of this book, you will discover the foundation of love. There is a passage in the Bible that implies how knowing God is solely based on His love functioning in your life towards others. Some of the most complex questions asked today are, do you care about me, do you love me, and why do you love me?

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for you, taking care of those who take care of you. Is that really love? When love is truly at the foundation of our lives, it will cause us to be good to others, even if they are not good to us in return. For a moment, just think about the love of God. God’s love for us is so immeasurable that he sent his only begotten son from Heaven to earth, to suffer and die on a cross, and to raise Him from the dead so the whole world might be saved! After this unquestionable demonstration of love, so many people never return back to God what he freely gave to them. God even loves those who have made the choice to live in hell, apart from Him, separated from the glory of his manifest presence for all eternity.

Marriage

Let’s talk about the most common manifestation of love which is the marriage. Many have asked me what I think marriage consists of. Most of us have heard it said that marriage is what you make of it. Marriage can be a beautiful relationship if you allow it to be. God performed the first marriage with a plan for two people, male and female to project perfection in marriage. This life brings about trials and tribulations which God has allowed. However, when we take our own road we face disappointment. When a person marries, using Christian principles, you will still have trials and tribulations but if God was invited into the marriage from the get go He can use those challenges to teach and guide you through it. His word promises that He is our very present help in times of trouble that He will never leave you or forsake you. You have to ask yourself, What is the reason you choose to get married? Is it because of a feeling you have? Is it for material gain through your intended partner? Is it because of their looks? Is it because of their job status? What lead you to decide to join with this indivi dual?

There are many reasons that people give to be married. Let’s visit the feeling stage of marriage. Many people rely on their emotions in their decision to marry. Love is an action word in giving and taking, it’s not what you feel. Are you willing to serve that individual? Is that person willing to serve you? You see, it’s not about your personal self-centered ideals, it’s about sacrificing, and it’s about each of you doing what’s best for the other. Our society dictates that in any area of our lives, if it doesn’t fit, discard it, if it’s old, replace it, if it’s not popular, change it. This mind set has filtered its way into the marriage relationship as well. No wonder the percentage of divorces keep climbing year by year. (Mark 10: 1-12)

Marriage has to do with doing the right thing, making the right choices. The other day I was thinking that before a person decides to get married they should be friends first. That friendship is the basis for you to understand each other and get to know each others’ likes and dislikes, even if you disagree, if your friendship is real, you will discuss and talk through your disagreements, because you deem that person worthy of getting to know. (Amos 3:3)

Some statistics show that people will marry for material gain and personal status. This person may be affluent and is able to provide the finer things in life. So the motive for getting together is limited to earthly gain and that dictates their choice. Let’s say difficult economic times hit (and they always do!) and the finances are no longer there. Will you stay together with this person through adversity? Let’s be real, most people will not and find a quick way out because the reason you began this relationship is no longer there. So, your motive was off to begin with…….this is not a solid reason for marriage. I suggest you think about this, if this is what drives your motor, you need to abstain from marrying. Why? This is the wrong reason! Marriage is a lifetime covenant…that cannot be broken. (Matthew 6:19-21) Point to ponder: Marriage should be a spiritual choice not a natural choice.

Let’s talk about choosing a mate based on their outward appearance. One may look at the outward appearance of an individual, their face, and their physical attributes and become infatuated with them deciding to play at a relationship. This is a decision solely based on the external. Have you invested time into getting to know each other; their character, their goals, their outlook on life? What if tragedy occurs and physical beauty is destroyed? Remember that looks are superficial and they fade away with age. Our figures, our finances, our popularity, our personalities changes with the passage of time. There’s a choice to be made….will you stay with that person or will you seek to find someone else? What is the reason you are involved in this relationship? This is a serious question you must ask of yourself.

Let’s take a look at the ONE originator of the marriage relationship. Taking the Holy Bible as your point of reference, in the beginning, God created the man and the woman. After the fall, God’s instructions were that man should rule over the woman, and a woman’s desire should be for her husband. In the New Testament of the Bible, God said, He would be over the husband, and the husband would be head over the wife and the wife should submit herself to her husband. This wasn’t something man made up, these instructions are given by the Creator of the Universe, who in everything has reflected his desire for order, anything out of God’s perfect order is not of God.

The power of love can’t be taken for granted, once you tell a person you love them.

People have been mentally disturbed, have died, stolen and have been imprisoned because of this emotion called love. Therefore, you must be sincere and purposeful and never take the word Love for granted. This word shouldn’t be used unless you are serious in your commitment and willing to make sacrifices. There is power in this word as it has the capacity to change lives and it shouldn’t be used lightly.

When a person takes on another person like a wife or husband and they say they want to marry this person. What comes in their circle for marriage? Number one God, the husband, the wife, and the children. So when a man saying that he wants a wife; he is really saying that he wants to serve this woman for the rest of his life. The woman is saying that she wants to serve this man for the rest of her life. I would say that if you really do not mean it; then do not make those vows. You are going to have to live with that word you have spoken for the rest of your life. There is power in words so if you do not mean it; then do not say it. You do not want to mess up your life or the other person’s life so do not get involved.

Marriage is a serious thing because God does not take that lightly. I hope that you do not take it lightly. Marriage will put you to the test. One way or another you will work to make your marriage work or work to keep it from working. Once you say I do, the work starts. The Word of God declares he that gets married will have many troubles in this world. When you get married you have to go in with the right expectations that this is not a fantasy, this is not about always being happy. It is always about being whole. You are going to go through things in your marriage. That person is going to trigger things in you and you are going to trigger things in them. At the end of it, marriage is about preparing to stand before God without spot, wrinkle, or blemish and be used as marriage to work those things out. As most men and women stand at the altar, they