Superior Human Connections

By Timothy Hart

Superior human connections is a book that is designed to aid those who want to learn how to have truly superior relationships from the stand point of being the perfect person for entering into a relationship with another person. Many realtionships fail as the parties are insistant that the other person need to change or adapt when the reality is anything that needs to change may cease to be the person who is attractive to you. This book will help you to do the necessary work on yourself so that the only change needed will be evolution to a higher better you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Jul 15, 2023
• ISBN: 9781312335592

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SUPERIOR

HUMAN CONNECTIONS

Dr. Timothy A. Hart

Introduction ……………………………………………………………8

Initial Presentation…………………………………...……….10

New Encourages Newness…………………………………….19.

The professional person ………………………………………30

Who is deserving of your best? ………………………………52

Endurance and Integrity in relationships ……………………78

The Myth of the Soul mate ………………………………… 100

The reality of Gender ………………………………………...114

Social Scripting Vs. Real decisions………………………………………………………….116

Meaningful Connection…………………………………………125

Rites and Roles ………………………………………………….139

Purposeful Knowledge ………………………………………….150

Quality Sources - Proper Application ………………………….156

Re-packaging your personal brand …………………………….161

Habits to behaviors………………………………………………165

Moving past Trauma …………………………………….……...169

The power of Real acceptance ………………………………….174

Genuine love…………………………………………………….200

Love Verses Lust…………………………………………………205

Conclusion ……………………………………………………….209

Introduction

It has been said that relationships are difficult to have. This certainly has room for conjecture however, the concept of relationship is one that deserves much attention as the rate of destruction of relationships is very high. We are suffering as a population as the encroachments of the adversarial elements are plentiful and the fact that we are ill prepared to wage war against them. One of those factors is the behaviors of the players in the relationship paradigm. As the cultures merge and share resources, the neglect of the expression of our neighbors can contribute and has contributed to the degradation of our communities and indeed have compromised the fiber of this land and have created schisms that have continued until this day.

The goal of many in my profession is to see the unity of all of mankind. This cannot and will not happen until we examine the quality of our own psyche and make strides toward finding some level of agreement so there can exist some sort of peaceful co-existence. We must believe that we can have superior human relationships and be willing to strive toward that goal as individuals. The collective will prove to be powerful as it quietly melds into a union of people who agree on the principles that should govern us as a unit. Governments have divided us and will continue to be a divisive factor if we adhere to the principles of partisanism. Together we should explore what it takes to have superior relationships and strive with vigor to attain those goals contained therein.

Initial Presentation

The Most important presentation

What is the most important presentation you can give? The first one. The idea that first impressions are the most lasting and that is very often how people render their opinion of you in future meetings. In many situations, there are some who have been misjudged because the initial presentation was such that the person, they were meeting for the first time got the wrong idea about the type of person they were meeting cause the outward appearance sent a conflicting message. The man going to meet a woman for the first time, dresses a particular way so that the woman will be impressed with their demeaner. The woman who meets a man for the first time might dress in a manner that sends a message that is misread by the man. The initial presentation sets the stage for the duration of the relationship. Many businessmen have dressed in a casual manner as this the way they feel about themselves; not needing to impress the woman or the potential business associate and have had to do a lot more talking that necessary as their credentials might not have said enough to convince the person that they were the person for that contract; or for the second date. Many women have dressed too sensually and presented the sexual air instead of the intellectual that she really is. What is important here is that you have the type of integrity that tells the person you are meeting that the person they have shown on some dating site, or jobsite is indeed in real life what they present on paper.

What do they see?

It is important that the person you present in absentia be the person the person meets as their minds are geared toward meeting that person. Some have even made plans in their heads as to the future they intend to have with this person in the event that they are what they present. Women see a professional person when they see suits and semiformal garments. The examine the jewelry such as rings and anything metal; Guys see a potential partner in which they can have children with and raise a family when they see a modestly dressed woman. These are two different viewpoints and if the nexus is not found, there will likely not be any furtherance of the relationship.

What do they hear?

When a man talks about his possessions in a meeting, the woman envisions the things she can have such as trinkets and expensive clothing. She sees the fame of having a man who can take care of her needs and be the Belle of the Ball. She envisions a nice house and having all her needs met with no exclusions or exceptions. When a woman talks about her exploits, most men see a person whom he cannot please because she has everything. He also sees potential competition in the financial arena. He may give her a chance if she is a beautiful person with promises of RIDE or DIE. Both are looking for the perfect complement for their personalities and performance goals. If these things are not discussed in the initial meeting, there is not going to be another meeting as they will walk away with Ifs ands and buts which if pursued can mean trouble in paradise.

What they feel about what they hear and see –

Most people will not be as open as they need to be about the meeting. Many have Ghosted and not returned phone calls or texts. Some after a while finally let it be known that they have no intention of continuing. Some say why, some do not.

What energy do you give off?

This is important to consider as many have been judged as arrogant, self-centered, shallow and the like, as the confidence of the person they meet can be overwhelming and renders them not likely to give that a chance. Too many I don’t like can mean selfishness while, the conversation about the child(ren) from a/some prior relationship(s) can give pause. The ideal temperament would be one of calmness and benevolence. Since the male enters all meetings with benevolence, the opening of doors and paying for the meal may be par for the course. It would be wise for a woman to experience more time with him to assess if this is habit or behavior. Many women enter with a defensive mode engaged and will likely wait for key words to say its ok to open up and give this a chance. There is no lexicon  of phrases that will cause this, but one thing is sure, the right person will say the right thing and there would be no pretense as they have not met this person prior to the meeting. If a woman feels comfortable with a man and he does not sense a standoffishness or aggressiveness there is a sure second date in the future.

Do you care what people think?

Many have heard a voice from the outside and had a change of heart. The concept of honesty and integrity will be challenged. This is a time for investigation. The honorable will have the conversation and the honest will answer the questions and be willing to explain. Conversely, the idea of being questioned could be a complete turn-off and a potentially great union could end in a flash.

What is a good presentation?

A good presentation is one that does not present a condescending attitude; nor does it send the wrong message to the other person in the meeting. The best presentation is one where the people are what they are always, with their dress marking the special nature of the meeting. For a woman less skin is best. Too many women have been judged as a floosy because she was dressed to provocatively; likewise, many men have been judged as talking above their actual situation for the sake of securing a date with someone. Simple is better and candid is better than braggadocious.

Confidence is a great trait to have, especially when it comes to relationships. It is clear that many are not as confident as they would like to be. It is also a fact that many have improved their confidence with the consideration and patience of a loving person who has a wholesome faith in the goodness of others. However, this is the exception and not the rule. While there are no hardcore facts to substantiate the claim, the evidence is in the people that don’t get the call back for the second or third date. However, confidence is not what many might think. What we mistake for confidence is in actuality arrogance. When a person is confident there is an air of calm and surety. Their answers are concise and unbroken by tie ins such as um and uh. Confident people can maintain eye contact and rarely operate outside of their scope of knowledge as it has worked for them. They are not controlling at all and will not attempt to control the conversation. A conversation with a confident person can quickly turn you into a disciple and you will appreciate whatever their position is whether you disagree or not. When a woman is confident, she allows the man to demonstrate what makes him special and assures him without speaking that he can be himself. When a man is confident, he finds an avid listener who may enter the situation with brashness and aggression but by the end of the encounter create a fan out of her whatever the outcome. Confident people tend to not follow trends and if there is a commonness with the consensus, there is displayed an originality that distinguishes them from the rest of their contemporaries.

Courtesy is always a plus. When a person is courteous, any sign of disrespect can be detected. Many situations have ended because one of the parties was discourteous. The book ‘Act like a woman think like a man’ Steve Harvey can be seriously misunderstood in terms of the reality of the initial encounter to the actual solidifying of the relationship. Male thinking is dangerous for the woman to even consider as her emotional orientation can turn very quickly into a competition and an unnecessary nit-picking situation. Many women are already things like men in the sense that they are overly aggressive and brash in their overt deportment. They lack the spirit of submission (accommodation and compliance) as well as cooperation. It is only until they are placed in a position where all they display is thwarted that they finally comply with a plan of any kind and understand that it’s about roles not power. This is indeed masculine and is definitely a relationship killer. Men deal with competition differently as it has an inherently different purpose. Competition among men is for status, positioning in the hierarchy and as a way of determining the value of a man’s skills within the community. Competition within the community builds the framework and keeps order. Competition with woman has a strong egomaniacal purpose which is designed to exclude the inferior which is not community. It also sets the stage for jealousy and envy, both of which are signs of poor character development. With that said, a good presentation has within its framework, positive yet conservative appearance, confidence, and courtesy.

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