The Way of Man

By Todd M. Anderson

"The Way of Man" offers readers a profound spiritual journey, inviting them to explore faith from a distinctly masculine viewpoint. This narrative engages readers in a deep and meaningful dialogue with their Heavenly Father, illuminating paths toward becoming better men in anticipation of their ultimate judgment. Through its pages, this story promises enlightenment and guidance for those seeking to deepen their understanding of manhood in the context of their faith.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Todd M. Anderson
• Release date: Feb 15, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224235995

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Chapter One

Iwant to share with you something of a divine nature.

I want you to know that you have an incredible gem in your talents—pursuit. And this gem is going to make you irresistible to the opposite sex.

Although you haven’t put much time into this gem, it is clearly something you desire to engage with. You want to close the gap between yourself and the opposite sex, correct?

To begin, think of your desire for a relationship with someone of the opposite sex as a mark—the mark of closing the distance between what you experience and what you want to experience. That is the mark we are discussing.

Overshoot where you will land. You may be curious about a particular woman and want to know how to gain a relationship with her. Go ahead and imagine a realistic scenario first. Maybe you will cover some ground by loving her laughter when you engage her in conversation. Starting there could be the very best advice for yourself, Author. Perhaps that realistic conversation can be stretched into more than that. Maybe a date? You see, the pursuit always involves making what is realistic a little bit better.

These conversations with the opposite sex need to begin with an approach—a discipline to showcase yourself in a light that is extremely masculine. This is so the woman’s first impression of you is naturally masculine. That is, you make the measure of manhood around you better. If you cannot equate this to a real-world example, then watch others around you who impress women. They challenge other men and women to abide by a rule of care and protection. If you see yourself in this role, discipline will be easier because you understand the social order of masculinity.

If you do not understand the hierarchy of power in social relationship dynamics, become a student of that through watching and modeling the behaviors of the leaders. You will see that you probably feel most masculine in the presence of men who show a similar behavior and who lead.

The real step in this discipline is not just mimicking the social order and behaving like other leaders. You need to step into a role in the social hierarchy and figure out how to challenge others with care and protection in mind—you must be disciplined in showcasing your love and admiration for women for this relationship to occur.

The approach is to be disciplined and to display your manliness. This will inspire intrigue in women who are interested in your social class. However, it is important to note that you are not the pursuer of the relationship yet. When you are disciplined in caring for and protecting females, you can then watch the women interact with each other and see where they put you in the social hierarchy from their viewpoint. If they wait and see how you react to this, then you will gain favor.

Letting the social dynamics of relationships develop takes time, and the discipline it requires is good in the way that men and women both understand how to imagine each other at their best. This prayerful dialogue is in spirit at this stage.

The spirit of social hierarchy is unusual because there is often resistance to wondering if a relationship partner will be available, and if that resistance includes the partner being closer to you in the social order, the tension increases. You may display confidence in care and protection while there is little chance of developing a relationship with the women around you.

Still there are multiple women drawing closer to your affection. Those women value you in their social order and make themselves available. This increases your chances of behaving erratically—man is made to be disciplined, and you may not want to be disciplined here.

The difference is that women are respectful of men who are disciplined, caring, and act as protectors. To change their mindset, you can stall and create space—this will challenge the image they have of you.

You must engage in more than just an approach. The situation is different because being a dominant masculine social personality is insufficient—your approach must indicate that you care more than protect. Make it known that the women who are drawn to you by the tension are attractive to you for several reasons. You need this approach at this point to make the woman feel special. Let these women know whom you care for and why you think so much of them.

Then you will understand that the women are drawn to themselves and flustered with tension and admiration. The women see themselves as great through your eyes, and yet you have not advanced in the relationship pursuit much. You have simply paved the way to a relationship through compliments and understanding social order.

It is also great to strike up a conversation to understand their perspectives on social order. As women understand their strengths better, they will open up and share with you their deepest fears. The social order for women is based loosely on who they like and dislike in those fears. The male social order cannot trump this because males do not exist in this light, and women do not share such information with everyone. They will find that in being honest with themselves, they will grow from your care and protection from their fears.

This is like a flower opening and blooming. If you understand their fears and have a common set of behaviors/beliefs/values, then you are likely an excellent match for a relationship.

The relationship is good because the man can instill his discipline and protection while the woman has feelings of love and connectedness. In this way, the relationship begins to stretch past the initial pursuit to something on a deeper spiritual level.

At this point, we understand how the history of earlier pursuits can be menacing—each of the relationship partners will recall all persuasions of past relationships. Regardless of how you are personally, you will always be compared to who has come before. This is