Have you been looking for a partner for some time now? Do you struggle with finding the right person for you - either you are not keen or the other person isn't smitten by you?Or are you in a relationship and unsure whether your partner is right for you?When dating you may find that you are often attracted to a similar kind of person, frequently someone who may not be the best match for you. In today episode we discuss whether there needs to be an initial spark when meeting someone; what might make you feel attracted to another person; why your understanding of yourself is key in relationships; how your attachment style influences your dating behaviour; your unconscious choices in selecting a partner; factors that contribute to building a long term relationship; whether you may need to develop different strategies when looking for a partner; questions you may ask yourself to determine whether your partner is right for you.If you want to find out more about projections listen to our episode from January 2021 How projection can make or break your relationship. And if you haven't listened yet to our earlier episode on attachment styles tune in to out more about how you and your date's or partner's attachment style may interact in  How learning about your attachment style can help you understand your relationship.We discuss all of these topics and much more in our online course The Relationship Maze, a comprehensive and easy to follow course that is informed by our many years of working as therapists with individuals and couples. We discuss all aspects to do with dating and relationships.