Self-Love: Keys to Solving Your Problems from the Inside Out

By Robbin Kay Beohourou M.S. LMFT

Life is happening; you can't stop it nor control it completely. Through genuine self-love, you can get through the various problems in life. Self-love gives you the opportunity to be accountable and responsible for your life. Do you want to learn to not always react on a ten but learn to respond on a three to four or lower? Do you want to learn to take control of the one thing that you can be in control of, which is self? Why not love self? Walking the path of self-love will decrease anxiety, depression, and stress and will increase esteem, confidence, and worth. Self-love, it goes beyond self-care maintenance. Self-love is a way of life. It is the everyday purposeful, intentional, proactive, mindful never-ending journey in life. From a Christian, mental health, and visionary of self-love perspective, we all come from different walks of life, but the one thing we all have in common is love. Utilizing this journal, you gain keys with a step-by-step explanation of why the key is purposeful in fostering self-love. The personal journal space is vital, you're able to process and reflect on thoughts and feelings. The personal journal space is your neural muscular exercise. Journaling is the opportunity to be open and honest with yourself. Throughout every key given, you will participate in self-reflection on how you utilize the key currently or how you don't have access to the key and what you'll do to gain entry to your self-love. The journal consists of various techniques utilized in mental health that has assisted clients with self, relationships issues, parenting, work stress, and much more.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Christian Faith Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Mar 29, 2023
• ISBN: 9798886852202

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Self-Love

Keys to Solving Your Problems from the Inside Out

Robbin Kay Beohourou M.S. LMFT

ISBN 979-8-88685-219-6 (paperback)

ISBN 979-8-88685-220-2 (digital)

Copyright © 2023 by Robbin Kay Beohourou, M.S, LMFT

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods without the prior written permission of the publisher. For permission requests, solicit the publisher via the address below.

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Table of Contents

Self-Love Journey

Perspective Activity

Robbin's Report a.k.a. Transparency Time My Early Memory of Self-Love

Self-Love Influences and Messages

The Birth of Self-Love

Self-Love Is Not Ego, Selfishness, Narcissism

Self-Love Case Examples

The Turning Point

Self-Love, Advertisements, and Social Media

Maintenance

You Deserve It and You Are Worth It!

Current Thoughts on Self-love

Unhealthy

What Is in Your Belt of Coping Skills?

Consistency

Keys to Accomplishments Prayer, Tools, Knowhow, Inspiration

Cheerleader and Drill Sergeant

Creating Self-Love Care Plan

Me-cation

Being Alone

Solo Hobbies and Interests

Connecting

Relationships

Friendships and Social Circles

Boundaries

Relationship with God

Nature Is Magical

Nutrition

Dance

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Mindfulness

Intentional Breathing

Rest and Sleep Routine

Keeping Up with Your Overall Health

Self-Love and Schedules

Affirmations and Gratitude

Try Something New

Ripple in the Water

Travel

Humor

The Art of Journaling

Scenario Re-cap

What Gives You Joy?

Acceptance and Forgiveness

About the Author

To my clients! First, thank you for reaching out for you and for allowing me to be in your individual lives. I have had the pleasure of watching the journeys and helping you has assisted me and opened my eyes to share the concept of knowing, understanding, and engaging in self-love . I thank God for the pause in life under the unnatural circumstances of COVID-19 this allowed me the additional time, mental space, energy, and motivation to see this project through.

I will continue to pray for the thousands who have died and the ones who are left behind and effected by the virus. Lives have forever changed.

Self-Love Journey

Hi, Seeker of Self-Love,

Why self-love? Why not? I have been inspired through my clients to share the concept with the world about self-love. When facing life adversities, and obstacles, the challenges handled through self-love, you'll likely handle the experience or response on a three or four versus always being on the proverbial ten in life. The perspective of self-love can truly help you solve the various problems that you go through in life if you allow the process to flow.

Are you struggling through the woes of parenting? Do you want to change jobs or careers and do not know how to make the first step? Are you navigating and distinguishing if friendships and relationships are genuine? Are you in some state of worry about who-knows-what about you and who you love?

I am writing this book from a mental health perspective. As a licensed marriage family therapist, I realized the one thing that assist individuals in therapy is helping them find their concept and current level of self-love. It saddens me that a lot of people do not understand or have never engaged in their self-love. When the question is asked, I get a long pause; sometimes accompanied with this slight stare trying to process and figure out what self-love is so they can answer.

Others immediately say, Yeah, I love myself, but then when I follow-up with Tell me how you love yourself. Give me an example of how you love yourself in relation to what you are currently going through for you to seek out therapy? It goes back to that deer in headlights. I am often saddened that they cannot put into words or describe what is self-love and their practices. When I ask the client, How do you love your partner/ spouse, your friend, your child, your parent, the explanations can be endless and at the same time mystifying at how they cannot describe their own self-love.

Do not get me wrong, I'm not speaking from some high horse or Aladdin's carpet. I am speaking form my own personal journey with self-love, and at one point, I too was not participating in. There are so many roles of loving myself starting with just being a woman, yet connected to being a mother, being in a relationship, caretaker, child, grandchild, sibling, aunt, cousin, friend, motivator of others, entrepreneur, and a child of God, which are so many hats to wear—most often wearing multiple hats at the same time.

I picture the children's literature book Caps for Sale. The front cover displays many hats stacked upon one another. How many hats can you stack without toppling over? For generations, most women wear it as a badge of honor to stack hats! The key is balance—with love, not to stack the hats for honor. The beginning of my adult self-love journey was understanding what was in my control and out of my control. It is most important to love and take care of myself so I can be the best in all those various roles and hats I wear.

Feel great that you want to go on the journey of self-love. Remember when you start, this is a forever journey. There is no end in self-love. You will experience celebrations here and there to remind you that you are on the path and keep going because it is going so well for you.

This is also not the part where you go blaming parents, grandparents, and caretakers remember at some point we must take responsibility for our own lives and happiness. This is your turning point.

Self-love seeker, I pray that you resonate with a least one key within these pages. I will plant the seed so you can water and begin loving yourself. I pray that you have patience, compassion, and understanding toward yourself through this process. I pray you learn to see the beauty and worth within.

Through the readings, I will address topics for you to incorporate into the various aspects in your life. By