Was That a Red Flag?

By Dean S. Anderson

Have you ever been in a relationship and asked yourself, “Is this all there is?” Have you ever gone into a relationship seeing the red flags but choosing to ignore them? Have you ever gone into a relationship that appeared to be normal at the start but turned quickly into something you had never intended?

If so, this book might be for you. It breaks down into several chapters where relationships tend to succeed and where they fail. It forces the reader to answer some tough questions about their current relationship. The goal here is to open the readers’ eyes to what is truly taking place and to analyze whether or not it’s something they can work on, make changes to, or altogether leave with the goal of becoming happy and fulfilled.

Life is too short not to live in abundance. One should not “settle” in a relationship or become something they’re not. Everyone deserves happiness, and this book has the intention of allowing those interested to seek what they’ve always wanted or to turn their current relationships into what they originally wanted.

I hope it helps lead many to happiness who truly deserve it.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Fulton Books, Inc.
• Release date: Feb 22, 2021
• ISBN: 9781649526403

Book preview

Chapter 1

Red Flags

Because of my own failed relationships, I tell everyone I can not to avoid the red flags when entering a new relationship. So many individuals have said to me or my current wife, I want what you guys have, and I tell them, Don’t avoid the red flags then. Get to know someone first before you decide you are going to go forward with the relationship. Spend time with them before you decide it is forever, and see how compatible you really are.

The red flags are always there, and they show up for a reason. The universe is trying to tell us something, and most of the time we ignore those signs. I spent many years in bad relationships. I could have avoided a lot of misery and had many more fulfilling years with someone who better matched me, but I ignored all red flags, and yes, they were there, and tried to convince myself that I made the right decision in this person. I thought I could live with the red flags, or better yet, thought I could change them. Quit fooling yourself. We’re all lying to ourselves when we ignore the red flags that we see in someone else. They are lying to themselves if they see red flags in us that they shouldn’t avoid. At times, I was a walking red flag. Some people are just simply incompatible. Some people go into relationships seeking the wrong thing or with the wrong intent. I know, because I’ve been there and made those mistakes.

I think the hard part is deciphering what a red flag is and what is simply something that might bother us that’s more due to our own intolerance than an unavoidable flaw in someone else. Some things we simply cannot live with in a relationship, or it will always nag at us. Other things are smaller and are just simply the cool nuances of someone that is different than us, but what makes them