Seriously Love, Lust & Sex Dynamics

By Cecilia Balebetse

In this book, the author and blogger Cecilia Balebetse follows up on her first book, The Experiential Life with more non-conventional relationship advise based on her experiences. This book is henceforth a Sequel to her first book and serves as part 2 of her relationship musings.Cecilia Balebetse has over 19 years' experience in client relations, individual and organisational change management, communications, administration, events and customer service. She is in the process of becoming a Professional International Accredited Life Coach and Mentor to contribute towards promoting growth, healing and personal development. Customer Experience has always been her passion as well as creative writing. She holds qualifications in systems Administration, computers, industrial psychology, a diploma in management development, Business activities as well as a diploma in production management. Her passion is interacting with People at all levels to have insight into their behavioural patterns, ensuring customer experience, delivering quality service, motivating and assisting in People development to maximize on individual and organizational effectiveness at all levels.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Classic age Publishing
• Release date: Feb 7, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201551391

Cecilia Balebetse

Cecilia Balebetse has over 19 years’ experience in client relations, individual and organisational change management, communications, administration, events and customer service. She is in the process of becoming a Professional International Accredited Life Coach and Mentor to contribute towards promoting growth, healing and personal development. Customer Experience has always been her passion as well as creative writing. She holds qualifications in systems Administration, computers, industrial psychology, a diploma in management development, Business activities as well as a diploma in production management. Her passion is interacting with People at all levels to have insight into their behavioural patterns, ensuring customer experience, delivering quality service, motivating and assisting in People development to maximize on individual and organizational effectiveness at all levels.

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Acknowledgements

I WROTE THIS BOOK AS a sequel to my first book published in February 2021, The Experiential Life. A mastery of my emotions and a journey to discoverying me. A heartfelt thank you to my daughter, Cathy, who continues to love and support my choices as I value and respect hers.

To Fikile, who understands me, respects and support my choices. To my siblings, who may have more questions after reading this chapter but love me regardless. 

To my Publisher, Classic Age Publishing. You are the best. Your team is by far very unique. I believe that I will continue to grow and mature with my writing and enjoy the feeling of family as we continue this wonderful journey. You are, every author's dream to align with. Thank you!

Chapter 1

Embrace authentic behavioural dimensions and be at peace within...

LOVE REMAINS THE SAME no matter what lies we tell ourselves and others. Love remains the same no matter what challenges we go through. The behavioural shift is in us as human beings powered by others toxic behavioural dimensions.

Seriously, Love, Sex, Lust Dynamics, Not Complicated. We tell ourselves, or we let other people’s undesirable behaviours towards us deviate our quest to feel loved and to love unconditionally. It is that part of us that gives others control over us and blind us from truly seeing with God’s eyes. There is no justification for any kind of abuse, mental, physical or emotional. It all boils down to allowing oneself’s insecurities or past traumas affect your inner vision to foresee and be able to discern when love becomes toxic or controlling in a non-comforting manner. In my previous relationship, I ignored all the signs, and the end result was undesirable, better yet, abusive. But getting out of an abusive relationship might not be as easy as you think, but it is possible and I can attest to that henceforth I lived to write a book about my experiences.

Life Lesson

If at any point you feel that you are not a priority in one’s life, don’t blame them because, in reality, it is not their problem or fault. The problem becomes yours because you made a choice to be with that person and you didn’t look hard enough to see and find out who you are getting involved with. Understand the difference. You did nothing wrong to aggravate the undesirable act. However, you need to have some knowledge and insight before you enter any form of a relationship. Be mindful that you can never really know a person in full; but certain values, principles, or red flags ought to be observed and not ignored because you feel you can change one’s behaviour. Some tell themselves that if they are submissive, the behaviour will change.

The choices we make are our