Summary of Joan I. Rosenberg, PhD's 90 Seconds to a Life You Love

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#1 We are always seeking a freer, fuller, and more expanded version of ourselves. We want to live lives we love, and we want our health and relationships to be different than they are now.

#2 You can learn how to be confident and resilient. The challenge is that most people believe that life is doing something to them, so they live by constantly reacting to life’s difficulties.

#3 The path to confidence, emotional strength, and resilience is tied to your capacity to tolerate pain. The more you are able to face the pain you experience, the more capable you become.

#4 When you’re able to effectively handle unpleasant emotions, you’ll feel more centered, confident, and calm in the moment. Your consistent ability to deal with difficult feelings translates into relief from anxiety, harsh self-criticism, and negative self-talk.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 3, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822528468

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Contents

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

We are always seeking a freer, fuller, and more expanded version of ourselves. We want to live lives we love, and we want our health and relationships to be different than they are now.

#2

You can learn how to be confident and resilient. The challenge is that most people believe that life is doing something to them, so they live by constantly reacting to life’s difficulties.

#3

The path to confidence, emotional strength, and resilience is tied to your capacity to tolerate pain. The more you are able to face the pain you experience, the more capable you become.

#4

When you’re able to effectively handle unpleasant emotions, you’ll feel more centered, confident, and calm in the moment. Your consistent ability to deal with difficult feelings translates into relief from anxiety, harsh self-criticism, and negative self-talk.

#5

The students I worked with at the student counseling center at the University of California, Los Angeles, had eating-related problems, but their overfocus on food, weight, and appearance kept their attention on the wrong issue. They had an emotional management disorder.

#6

You may find ways to distract yourself from your real concerns. You may put your attention on issues or concerns that shift the focus away from what is really bothering you. Consider distractions like emotional eating, excessive exercise, or shopping therapy as signals that other issues may be present.

#7

I came to recognize a pattern among my clients that involved common yet destructive misconceptions about emotional strength and emotional weakness. I found that individuals with the lowest levels of self-confidence generally held tightly to the beliefs and behaviors described below.

#8

emotional strength is the ability to feel capable and resourceful. It is entirely internal, and you deal with your own emotional experience on your own emotional terms. It involves relying on others and acknowledging needs and limitations, asking for help, and graciously receiving the support offered.

#9

As you become more aware of your feelings, you will be able to tolerate more of them, and as a result, your sense of being capable in the world will increase. Everything else stems from your ability to experience and move through these eight difficult feelings.

#10

Being resourceful is the second defining element of emotional strength. It involves being comfortable