Summary of Philippa Perry's The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

#1 The first role model your child has is you. You will be a major influence on your child, and they will look to you for guidance. In this section, I’ll be looking at how the past can affect the present when it comes to your relationship with your child.

#2 If you are a parent, you can unpack and become familiar with your childhood, examine what happened to you, how you felt about it then, and how you feel about it now. After having done that unpacking, only what you need should be put back.

#3 When you feel anger or any other difficult emotions around your child, it’s a good idea to consider it a warning. Not a warning that your child is doing anything wrong, but that your own buttons are being pushed.

#4 It can be difficult becoming a parent. Your child becomes your most important priority, 24/7. When you are reminded of how you felt as a child, you might feel irritation towards your child. But you should understand and feel with your child when they behave in a way that triggers you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 15, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669386124

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The first role model your child has is you. You will be a major influence on your child, and they will look to you for guidance. In this section, I’ll be looking at how the past can affect the present when it comes to your relationship with your child.

#2

If you are a parent, you can unpack and become familiar with your childhood, examine what happened to you, how you felt about it then, and how you feel about it now. After having done that unpacking, only what you need should be put back.

#3

When you feel anger or any other difficult emotions around your child, it’s a good idea to consider it a warning. Not a warning that your child is doing anything wrong, but that your own buttons are being pushed.

#4

It can be difficult becoming a parent. Your child becomes your most important priority, 24/7. When you are reminded of how you felt as a child, you might feel irritation towards your child. But you should understand and feel with your child when they behave in a way that triggers you.

#5

If you stop to think about your irritation towards your child, you might realize that you are jealous of them. If you are, you should own it and not act out negatively towards them because of it.

#6

When you feel anger towards your child, ask yourself whether the feeling wholly belongs to the present situation and your child. If it does not, stop and ask yourself why you are stopping yourself from seeing the situation from their standpoint.

#7

The way to make repairs in relationships is to first recognize your triggers and then react differently. It is not the rupture that is important, but the repair. Children need us to be real and authentic, not perfect.

#8

I began to see the point of what I