Summary of Michelle Icard's Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 As parents, we want to protect and support our children as they become tweens, but we must remember that this is a difficult time for them as they separate from us and start to develop their own identities.

#2 The way to help your kids is to talk to them. Not to them or at them, but with them. The kids I work with tell me that their parents should talk with them more about these issues, but parents are afraid to do so.

#3 The best way to keep your kids safe is to keep them connected to you and their world, not smaller. They will learn how to make smart decisions through experience and reflection, not by being constantly monitored.

#4 Having good conversations with your kids is about having the right conversations at the right time. You need to know what conversations are most important, have a way to get started that won’t irritate your kids, figure out what to say and what phrases to avoid, keep them engaged in conversation, and exit conversations in a way that keeps them wanting more.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 8, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669356899

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Insights on Michelle Icard's Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

As parents, we want to protect and support our children as they become tweens, but we must remember that this is a difficult time for them as they separate from us and start to develop their own identities.

#2

The way to help your kids is to talk to them. Not to them or at them, but with them. The kids I work with tell me that their parents should talk with them more about these issues, but parents are afraid to do so.

#3

The best way to keep your kids safe is to keep them connected to you and their world, not smaller. They will learn how to make smart decisions through experience and reflection, not by being constantly monitored.

#4

Having good conversations with your kids is about having the right conversations at the right time. You need to know what conversations are most important, have a way to get started that won’t irritate your kids, figure out what to say and what phrases to avoid, keep them engaged in conversation, and exit conversations in a way that keeps them wanting more.

#5

A conversation with a child is different from a lecture, and requires two or more people to make it work. You can force a lecture, but not a conversation. The BRIEF acronym can help you structure these conversations: begin peacefully, relate, trigger the interview part of the conversation, echo what you’re hearing, and give feedback.

#6

Start the conversation peacefully by relating to your child’s experience or perspective. Then wait for them to speak, and refrain from responding immediately. Echo what you’re hearing.

#7

The BRIEF model is a step-by-step process that helps you give feedback to your kids. It starts with It sounds like or I’m hearing to help your kid understand what you’re trying to say, then summarizes key facts, and finally uses your words in a question.

#8

Feedback is when you give your opinions on something your child has done. It should be related to the