Summary of Christine Carter, Ph.D.'s The New Adolescence

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#1 The central tenet of adolescence is a drive for autonomy, which can be hard for parents to deal with. However, parenting teenagers is much easier than parenting little kids, as they can put on their own shoes and make their own lunches.

#2 When we are happy, we are less likely to get pulled into teenage moodiness, and when they are stressed or in crisis, we are more likely to be helpful to them.

#3 Self-care is not selfish. It is the opposite of that. It is the act of taking time for yourself, to relax, and to improve your relationships with others. It is not the time to become more anxious and distant from your kids.

#4 We need to take care of ourselves more than ever when our kids are teenagers because they can sniff out hypocrisy a mile away. Teens can develop a good nose for social injustice, and they will not be impressed by anything that smells of unfairness or pretense.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 9, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822511156

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The central tenet of adolescence is a drive for autonomy, which can be hard for parents to deal with. However, parenting teenagers is much easier than parenting little kids, as they can put on their own shoes and make their own lunches.

#2

When we are happy, we are less likely to get pulled into teenage moodiness, and when they are stressed or in crisis, we are more likely to be helpful to them.

#3

Self-care is not selfish. It is the opposite of that. It is the act of taking time for yourself, to relax, and to improve your relationships with others. It is not the time to become more anxious and distant from your kids.

#4

We need to take care of ourselves more than ever when our kids are teenagers because they can sniff out hypocrisy a mile away. Teens can develop a good nose for social injustice, and they will not be impressed by anything that smells of unfairness or pretense.

#5

The life skills your kids need to be happy and healthy are learned from their role models, not from you lecturing them or forcing them to follow rules they feel are unjust and unfair. They are learning how to operate in the adult world by watching celebrities on Instagram and professional athletes on TV.

#6

It can be difficult to be supportive of our teenagers without being attached to the outcome. It is easier for us to be supportive of our stepchildren, Macie and Tanner, without being bossy.

#7

I had to relearn how to be a parent, without ego-attachment, and support my children without being intrusive. I began to coach them like I coach my clients and stepchildren: gently and without ego-attachment.

#8

The first part of the book is about how to increase the closeness your teen