A Good Day at School: Take Charge of Emotions so Your Child Can Find Happiness
By Kat Mulvaney
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About this ebook
Family coach, mother and metaphysician, Kat Mulvaney, is no stranger to the emotions children face. She works with families who are seeking more ease and flow in their family dynamic after trying many conventional solutions. Many of her clients’ children do not conform well to traditional school, and in a time of great world change, they are seeking new ideas. Kat guides families out of emotional turmoil and into genuine, conscious connection.
In A Good Day at School, Kat lays out her five principles for parents to show them:
- The superpowers we were all born with and how kids need knowledge of them now, more than ever
- That many children are here to guide us into this new world
- The truth about why their child feels emotions so strongly and what to do about it today
- Tools and games their family can rely on during times of stress by using items they already own
- The universal laws that great minds have been using for centuries to achieve peace, clarity, and connection
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A Good Day at School - Kat Mulvaney
Chapter 1:
THE CALL FROM SCHOOL
You did everything the doctor said to do while you were pregnant, you breastfed, and you love your child more than anything else. So when the teacher called on the second week of preschool to report your child had bitten another classmate, you were horrified and hoped it was a one-time thing. When he came to you trembling at a birthday party asking to go home, you could tell he was overwhelmed and wondered if your precious child had anxiety. When the school said he couldn’t return after spring break due to tantrums, your heart broke under the weight of rejection for your child and yourself. The behavior he was accused of wasn’t unfounded, but you could see how volatile he was and how consumed with emotions he had become. Why does he seem to struggle more than the other kids? Why is he so affected? You talked to your pediatrician, who first said to get him more exercise, but team sports led to meltdowns and awkward glares. Eventually you stop going. Next, the doctor recommended medication, and at first you resisted. The two you did try had frightening side effects and one made him lose weight. Neither helped his emotions. And your momma-gut said medication wasn’t the answer. A therapist said to look for a smaller class size and a school that is more understanding of children with special needs,
but even with intervention from school, your child says he hates it and reports being teased.
You don’t want to leave your child somewhere he hates, but you have to work and take care of your other children. You want your child to be happy and enjoy learning and friendships. You want to drop him off at school or an activity and not watch your phone, worried that an incident has occurred. You made excuses to keep him home from birthday parties and eventually the invitations stopped. At home, your child is calmer and enjoys learning and playing on his own. But is isolation healthy for a child? You’ve considered homeschooling him, but are you qualified for that, and what happens in middle school and high school? You cannot keep him by your side, managing the stress and worry forever. You also rely on being able to work and do some amount of self-care while your children are in school, and with him home every day your health and other relationships suffer. You love your family but cannot give this much on a mostly empty cup.
Not satisfied with the discipline-or-medicate advice you were given, you’ve scoured the internet and your town for less drastic approaches for your child. You tried the supplements, bought a book on kid’s yoga, tried multiple therapists, and walked in and right back out of karate because it was too loud for your child. You adjusted diet, removing dairy and gluten, and have tried to reduce sugar and preservatives, and while diet does affect his behavior and mood, it’s near impossible to control food when out of the house and around other children. You’re curious about things like meditation and have heard terms like cranial sacral and Reiki, but the nearest practitioner is one hundred miles away one way. If the medical community has nothing to offer your child, surely there is an alternative you haven’t found yet.
Once you explained to a teacher and administrator how smart your child is despite his hard-to-manage emotions. They agreed but said they were not equipped to meet his needs. You’d have to look into private schools and specialists, which were expensive, but you found the money. Why couldn’t they help the kids develop their individual strengths, focus on getting them more exercise while at school, or teach them stress management? You wished they knew how big his heart was and how hard he cries after an emotional episode. He just feels differently than other children. He feels deeper. You can tell he sees the world differently too. You know there must be a solution or place for him, and you won’t stop until he is happy, thriving, and back in a school he loves.
You are not alone. The American school system expects children to be identical, watching for a slight difference to label or diagnose, which tells children as young as five that they are not good enough or worthy of patience or compassion. If a child cannot sit on the carpet square for the duration of circle time, the child is deemed unruly. If a child does not learn or behave like the others, he’s called special needs and treated differently, as if he isn’t already isolated with his overwhelming feelings. Children are not allowed to be themselves, but that’s all they can be. Asking children to change or suppress their truth is what is driving the out-of-control emotions, depression, and rampant suicide among children, teens, and young adults. And problems are extending beyond just individual children. In the United States, the number of school or public shootings carried out by tormented and hurting kids, looking for revenge or relief, is increasing at a horrifying pace. Thousands of children are struggling in ways older generations didn’t experience and don’t understand. These are symptoms of a broken system, several of them in fact, and there is slow improvement in some areas and hopelessness in others. Parents and adults who love kids and recognize these issues must step up and find new solutions, solutions as unique and bright as the children who need them. It’s time for these broken systems to fail because they are not evolving to keep up with our children, and special souls are falling through the cracks. In the meantime, there are tools that will empower your whole family and bring you some greatly deserved peace.
Chapter 2:
THE LONG WAY
Ibelieve we choose our parents before we are conceived, while we are acting from the highest version of ourselves and are still one with the creator of all things, our source–God. I chose my parents for the purpose of one day helping other parents help their children make sense of existential concepts like where we come from and why we’re here and also to understand our evolving planet, but most importantly, I chose them to save kids’ lives. My parents gave me the experience I now see would best bring light to the planet and keep other children–millions of them–from living the darkness I knew as a young person. My specialty would be emotions, which are really just little bits of energy we can feel in ways we don’t understand. Many sensitive people can feel the emotions of others, the feelings of animals, or the energy around an object, for example; and growing up with this gift, yet having no information or support about it, can make life excruciating. Emotions make us uncomfortable and confused when they are not our own, and I teach families how to protect themselves from ones brought on by outside forces. But when emotions are all our own and pure, even when they feel hard, they bring us the joy of sledding down a snowy hill or the excitement of buying a first home, and they offer us the chance for growth in the form of frustration or admiration.
I learned how to help parents understand their child’s emotions through contrast. I had to experience emotional duress myself and wanted to die for many years in order to relate to struggling kids and families. In the same way we can only truly appreciate the sunny beaches of Hawaii after living through a rainy American Pacific Northwest winter, I chose to be brought into a family where there was little happiness, joy, compassion, or connection to something greater than us. My parents did not know they were sentencing me to a life with little joy and happiness because they were not modeling or creating any around me. As a child, I was watching every move they made, and what I saw was struggle, depression, the weight of obligation, and unconsciousness. So these things are what I became and sought out. And there were no other adults around who were invested in getting to know me or casting some sunshine my way. And while I always knew a sibling would have brought some joy or distraction, I had none to cling to or cheer me up. My parents both worked jobs they disliked and isolated themselves to opposite sides of the house at night, leaving me alone with television or school work. I have no doubt they loved me, but their own problems and unconsciousness kept them from doing their own self work, which kept them from ever seeing what their dysfunction did to my innocent heart. Their work, their relationship with